I wonder how many of us have kept this a secret from others and how that works. I am struggling between not telling anyone but my mom and husband, and telling everyone in hopes of perhaps helping someone who needs help or inspiration.

You go, Chimboree! It IS our bodies and to hell with the skinny haters who want to judge us for what we know is the best thing we could ever do for ourselves.

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I have only told a handful of people and my parents do not know, in fact other than my oldest, my hubby, and a brother and sister n law, nobody else knows, Ive lost and people ask, I just tell them portion control, which is the truth!!!!! Ive lost by controlling my portions, well they are being controlled for me but still!!!!!

Hi, I have only told my husband and 1 daughter that I am going to the meeting to see about the procedure. My dad already love guilt talked me out of this once and so we are not saying anything to my parents. Dad felt that it was to drastic of a risk and if I died while in surgery or from the surgery, he would rather have me here as is. I know what he means, but when I need to lose over 150 pounds and have a bone disease, this excess weight is what is killing me. So anyway, no one will know as far as I am concerned except my hubby and kids....I will tell the rest of them when I know a date. Sounds like the surgery won't keep you in the hospital more than a day or two so if I take my lap top to keep in touch with people, they will never now. Maybe down the road.

My brother, who is a doctor, my family doc and my shrink were all against me getting this operation. Now they are completely cool with it. I did get grief from the specialist who did my colonoscopy; she was one of those who felt that dieting and exercise are the solution to fat! Silly woman!!

I've really gone back and forth about telling my parents. We have a close relationship but they live so far away and we only physically see each other a few times a year so they wouldn't see the evidence until I start losing weight. They have always supported me in any decision, even when they disagree with it, but ....I know that they will worry unnecessarily and possibly try to talk me out of it. This is a time when I want to be positive and only have positive support around me. After the surgery, it's already done and no one can do anything about it. I just worry that if something unexpected happens to me during the surgery that my parents would have wanted to know ahead of time.

I've told everyone....I don't care who knows.....people talk about you anyway... might as well give 'em the facts !!!!

Hi: It is nobody's business period. To tell or not to tell is entirely up to you. If someone mentions you are loosing weight just say "thank you for noticing" then under your breath "and to the band". Banded Feb. 01/07. I wish I had kept quiet as my sister is no longer speaking to me. She feels I am taking the easy way out while she has to struggle. We can praise the band to all on the website, but again loosing weight is a very private affair where we can be proud of our accomplishments but give no reasons why we are loosing. Doddie.

I agree with you Doddie. I was banded 1-19-07 and only my good friend who is a doctor knows. Unless you want to tell people, it is none of their business. My mother would have been negative,not to mention totally freaked by the surgery. Of course she has never had a weight problem, so she would never understand the mental strain it has on me.

I don't owe anyone an explanation and if I had told close friends and family I would have had to defend my decision. I just wasn't going to even open a can of worms.

I get asked by everyone how I'm losing. I just tell them smaller portions and more Protein.

Jane d

Well I have also only told a few and last night we had people over to see the DeLaHoya fight and we had dinner before. I usually can keep food down at night (which is why i agreed to hold the event at my house) but last night was a NOOOO! I was trying to keep the food down all night- couldnt vomit, couldnt explain what I was going throught, trying to play top hostess- I was miserable!!! Then after they all left it finally came back up, but I still had a lot that wouldnt come up- so there I was until 5 am sitting up as I couldnt got o sleep. THEN when I had hot tea this morning I still had food coming back up! YUCK! This was the worst in my year of being banded!!!

You go, Chimboree! It IS our bodies and to hell with the skinny haters who want to judge us for what we know is the best thing we could ever do for ourselves.

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And that's all they are...haters!!!

*singing*

(to the melody of 'It's My Party & I'll Cry If I Want To')

It's my body and I'll band if I want to, band if I want to, band if I want to...you would band too if weight loss didn't happen for you!!

Love the song!!!

Nice song!

Hey Metalband, I love your name! Very original.

Hi: I was so thrilled at my decision to have a band, I told my sister. And her reaction shocked me. She cut off all contact with me, won't answer her e mail or her telephone. Told me I was taking the easy way out which we all know isn't the easiest but the last resort. So I say to all that you think carefully who you tell, for it may come back and bite you. Doddie

Doddie,

You are so right. I decided that I would only tell the people that were closest to me (mom, sister, daughter, & best friend). I realized that even those people can surprise you with their reactions. I believe that some of it is jealousy. The disheartening part is that these are the same people that witness your struggle. For me it has been my weight & in the last couple of years, my blood pressure. I workout at least 5 days a week and eat fairly well, but I know that I will get "the easy way out" reaction eventually.

It's great to have this site with people that are supportive and compassionate.

Nina

Nice song!

Hey Metalband, I love your name! Very original.

Thanks Lucy!!!!

Love the song!!!

Thanks! I tend to do that a lot...make up little ditties...I love to sing. Something is always triggering a song for me...it drives some of my friends nuts!

Thanks! I tend to do that a lot...make up little ditties...I love to sing. Something is always triggering a song for me...it drives some of my friends nuts! :eek:

There are worse ways to drive people nuts....they should be grateful! =)