I got the "hate you skinny girl" look today. I was in the elevator at Sears carrying my new bathing suit and an overweight woman got on with me. I gave her a smile and I got the look. I know the look well as I have given many skinny women the look. It is a look of envy and hatred. The if only look - if only I was that skinny, if only I had a flat tummy, if only I was a smaller size.

I have never been on this side of the look and felt bad. I knew how she was feeling, but not sure what to say. In the end I did not say anything. When I see someone who is overweight I want to go to them and say you don't have to live like this. There is an answer out there and you will feel so much better, but I never want to hurt someone's feelings.

Has anyone said something in this type of situation?

Didn't notice the look yet as most of the times I tend to be ice cold (it's my nature) but honestly I would not care a bit.

These resources are out there for the rest of our kind. I highly doubt WLS is not on a overweight persons mind by now, they just have to find it in themselves to decide if that's what they want in order to become healthy.

But ... I do get what your saying and I think your heart is in the right place.

Enjoy your healthy self and be proud of the wise choice you made to get you where you are at today --- a healthy happy beautiful woman.

I would LOVE to tell people that RNY surgery is paid for by most insurance companies. I work in the medical field and had no idea my ins. paid until my sister had the surgery and we both have the same ins. company. Once I heard that I immediately made a appointment. There are quite a few people at work I would love to tell but I don't want to hurt their feelings in any way. I know when I was overweight I felt awful about myself and I am sure others do as well, not every overweight person but the majority probably do.

My son has a good friend that is 500 lbs plus. A great guy, over the top smart, thirty something and heading for a train wreck. Every time I see him, or anyone else suffering from obesity, I want to have the "there is an answer" conversation. But I've never found a way to do that. I'm not sure there is a way to do that. The reality is that you have to want it. You have to be willing to reach out. You have to be frightened enough, angry enough, frustrated enough, depressed enough - to take the first step. And that's when your world changes.

Before my dad was diagnosed with cancer he brought up to Me weight loss surgery and I was so hurt by that.. Now that he has passed I wish every day that he could see me now!!! He was right it was what I needed!! I only speak up when I am asked. But most overweight people don't want to hear! Remember??? It's a shame because I want to shout from the roof tops !!!

date of surgery 02/21/12 surgery weight 340 lbs. current weight 146 lbs

So I get asked daily by my patients what I'm doing to lose weight and I'm totally open about it. Most people are awesome and congratulate me, a lot of people ask questions. About the only people that respond negatively are my morbidly obese patients ( don't get me wrong, most are nothing but supportive but on the rate occasion I get negative feedback, it's almost always from an obese patient). I get the impression they think I failed or cheated. Maybe it is cheating because it is a WHOLE lot easier than losing weight without the RNY but I hate that I feel like they're judging me. That said, I've had several look in to the surgery and some active in the process of getting it approved so YAY for them for taking control of their lives!!!!

My son has a good friend that is 500 lbs plus. A great guy' date=' over the top smart, thirty something and heading for a train wreck. Every time I see him, or anyone else suffering from obesity, I want to have the "there is an answer" conversation. But I've never found a way to do that. I'm not sure there is a way to do that. The reality is that you have to want it. You have to be willing to reach out. You have to be frightened enough, angry enough, frustrated enough, depressed enough - to take the first step. And that's when your world changes.[/quote']

I totally agree! You have to have had enough to seek help!