Hello... I seem not to be able to keep the peace... This is what happen. Hubby has a friend,and his friend is 66 years old. They were in the basement talking,and I happen to go down stairs to look for a scrap book since I didn't remember how many students my now 5 year old daughter has to send a few pieces of chocolate birthday cake. There was a social security conversation that hubby involve me in,and not to get into so much details hubby got up set with me because he feels I took his friend side since he said you are very slim,and I said yes I know,and ask my weight,and I reply 109 he said your going down to 100lbs. I said no I'm actually trying to gain a little weight. Hours pasted,and hubby came up for dinner,and that's why he said I took his friend said simply cuz he said I was slim. He then continue on & on like over 2 hours of arguing with me over this.

Not only this but my 16 year old has a project due tomorrow,and she has to get up in front of the class with her crew they have team work,and talk about mental illness. Hubby heard the word world wide oh boy... He started saying my son doesn't have mental illness. I explain no one said my son has that. This is a project she has to present tomorrow in school. She wanted to get my opinion about it. It didn't end there. He continue saying only in this country doctors make up stories saying people have all kinds of problems so they get SSI and a lot of people haven't even work. Then he continue to say my son gets help cuz his father works(it's our children but since he accuse me of being with TOM DICK SALLY) they are my kids. They are only his when it comes to filling taxes or showing them off in public or saying my son has blonde hair. Continuing: all his life,and still works so my son is entitle to get help. This conversation took a long time as well.

Money Money Money.... All my teenage years then 20's and now in my 30's till recently I put my kids first. Now it's my turn to have my surgeries. My 16 year old have been looking for a job with no luck. She doesn't want to depend and count on my money since she knows I'm even picking up pennies in the street to save for plastic surgery. I did my calculation,and after my surgery I will have money left over. I can give her $500 which will go towards whatever she needs for school. I can then continue saving for surgery. If she needs more or something else as time passes I can give her more. I rather her not work right now. Jobs are hard to find as it is,but I also need her to take care of me next year after surgery. Right after surgery I can give her all the money she wants,and need. Plus give her a reasonable allowance per week. The only money she gets it's weekly,and it's from the bottles I cash in. So if I make $10 that's all she gets. Until I don't have the full amount for surgery I can't afford to give her extra money. I'm still waiting for my mother to pay me back ugh!!! She had till May and we are in May,and she has excuses after excuses,and it's only $1000 but I lend her this money last year,and I gave her till may 2013 to pay me back half,and the other half in May 2014 I'm still waiting,and she knows I'm having surgery. SSI is early this month so lets see if she is gonna pay up.

Awwwee, I hope tonight you can wind down and get up tomorrow and have a better day. Im sorry your husband is not in the best of a mood and other family issues, you are not alone and things could be so much worst than what it is. Keep your head up and maybe you can finally take you a long hot bubble bath get out and get in the bed and make tomorrow all about you.

Your husband sounds like the 2nd one that he accused you of being with and I'm not talking about Tom and Sally. Mine was a bit intimidated when I told him I was getting this done. It became all about him. What was HE going to eat and would I still cook for HIM. And on and on...but honestly, I think he was more worried I'd make a decision that I would regret. Men don't voice emotions well. For them it's all about shouting and here's my favorite that gets my back up. EVERY. SINGLE. TIME. When he starts off a sentence with, "Know what you should do?" I always reply, No daddy, I don't! I'm 38 and I have no idea how to handle life. Tell me. Go on, tell me what I should do and then I'll tell YOU what you CAN do.

I know it's rough right now and you have kids, that makes it harder. I couldn't live like that with all that going on...then again, I'm super confrontational and get my back up quick. I have a quick mouth and little regrets when I tell a man, I don't need you. I didn't need you when we got together and I don't need you now. I like you here and love you, so I'd like you to stick around, but never ever mistake that for need. :shrug: everyone handle confrontation differently. I do hope you stand up for yourself. It's no fun being someones verbal punching bag all the time.

Breathe.....I know married life gets complicated....shoot life in general is difficult...don't allow it to consume you. Focus on what you can control and sometimes people get aggravated for no reason....or maybe there are other underlining issues going on with people that they haven't revealed to you....but they resort to taking it out on you. Don't fret about it...do what you have to do and they will come around. As far as money problems go....they come....the go...and sometimes they stick around for a long time....don't drive yourself crazy. You will be fine.

Awwwee' date=' I hope tonight you can wind down and get up tomorrow and have a better day. Im sorry your husband is not in the best of a mood and other family issues, you are not alone and things could be so much worst than what it is. Keep your head up and maybe you can finally take you a long hot bubble bath get out and get in the bed and make tomorrow all about you.[/quote']

Thanks your so right things could be much worst.

Your husband sounds like the 2nd one that he accused you of being with and I'm not talking about Tom and Sally. Mine was a bit intimidated when I told him I was getting this done. It became all about him. What was HE going to eat and would I still cook for HIM. And on and on...but honestly' date=' I think he was more worried I'd make a decision that I would regret. Men don't voice emotions well. For them it's all about shouting and here's my favorite that gets my back up. EVERY. SINGLE. TIME. When he starts off a sentence with, "Know what you should do?" I always reply, No daddy, I don't! I'm 38 and I have no idea how to handle life. Tell me. Go on, tell me what I should do and then I'll tell YOU what you CAN do.

I know it's rough right now and you have kids, that makes it harder. I couldn't live like that with all that going on...then again, I'm super confrontational and get my back up quick. I have a quick mouth and little regrets when I tell a man, I don't need you. I didn't need you when we got together and I don't need you now. I like you here and love you, so I'd like you to stick around, but never ever mistake that for need. :shrug: everyone handle confrontation differently. I do hope you stand up for yourself. It's no fun being someones verbal punching bag all the time.[/quote']

Lmbo that's a really good one he is the DICK!! I had become after the 30's confrontational & don't wanna listen to him. He is always saying he's gonna leave me & I has said the door is there I can open it for you. I'm at the point of saving as much as possible when I'm like 38 before 40 leaving him. I want to work even though I'm disable but I would be good for a waitress non taxable jobs. I can collect & at the sametime have a job to pay for everything my kids needs. A monthly checks can't beat a weekly check or salary. The more income a better life I can give my kids.

Breathe.....I know married life gets complicated....shoot life in general is difficult...don't allow it to consume you. Focus on what you can control and sometimes people get aggravated for no reason....or maybe there are other underlining issues going on with people that they haven't revealed to you....but they resort to taking it out on you. Don't fret about it...do what you have to do and they will come around. As far as money problems go....they come....the go...and sometimes they stick around for a long time....don't drive yourself crazy. You will be fine.

I'm much better today. I got a chance to drive to Long Island the bus left my son my fault but its ok. Cancel membership in BJ since I prefer costco & it's closer to me. So that's an extra $43.55 I now have & since I plan a zoo trip Saturday I can save that money for the kids. Oh life...

Stay strong Mami!

Stay strong Mami!

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