So I'm 5'7 an 310 lbs iv wanted this for a long time an I finally have made a step towards it by making a apt with a surgeon my down fall is my family does not support my decision my grandmother says "do you want to leave your daughter with out a mother " she's afraid that ill die during surgery because 10 years ago her friend did but he had other issues but they blame it on surgery an she really scares me an I feel like I'm disappointing her an it breaks my heart but I truly want this for myself an for my daughter so I can have a long healthy life with her I'm so torn :/

You have to live with your decision and with your body. If you aren't sure about making the change then don't do it. If you are committed to it, then go for it. But you have to be on board with your decision more than anyone else.

I know exactly how you feel. Its sad when they do not support you. My best friend is the same way. She says that we can do it, we can lose weight the "right" way. And diet and exercise, blah blah. She sits there preaching these things mean while she is fat... Grrr, drives me nuts.

I think the decision you made was amazing. Your life is about you and being there for your daughter. You have ask my support and everyone on here had your back

Has your back**

My mother did not support me at first but now 4mnd post op she is seeing how well I am doing and she thinks I did the right thing.

My two girls are happy they now have a happier and more active mum!

Big hug!

I've made the decision not to tell my family. I don't need their opinions or negativeness. Just my husband knows. :-)

I discussed the surgery with my fiance and he said I did not have to tell my mother and sisters beforehand he was afraid that they would be negative and I did not need that.

I "informed" them the day before the gb,I made it clear that I had made my decision

and did not need their advice.

I discussed the surgery with my fiance and he said I did not have to tell my mother and sisters beforehand he was afraid that they would be negative and I did not need that.

I "informed" them the day before the gb' date='I made it clear that I had made my decision

and did not need their advice.[/quote']

I am not ashamed of my surgery but I did not tell many people before hand. But now I am the poster child of weight loss surgery in my office. There are so many people that need to lose and just don't know what to do. I am happy to talk to them about my struggle and now my success. Now there are people that believe I took the easy way out, but they do not know my story and the reason I chose WLS. Of course these people are overweight, isn't that funny? I know it's jealousy but hey would not be jealous if they knew how much work and discipline it takes. I am happy with me! It really has made a difference in my life.

Thank you guys so much it really is a big comfort to know I'm not alone iv made the decision that its what's best for me an that one day I hope they understand if not well at least ill be healthy n happy