Okay so I havent seen my in laws since thanksgiving. I most likely weighed 30 lbs more than now. I have to go there today. They dont know about the surgery and last time I didnt really look much different but now I do. I am really hoping to be ignored. I hate talking about my weight with people I dont trust. I can talk to a stranger better! What should I say if they press the point?

Just tell them that you are on a very restrictive diet as you are following a program through a weight center.

If they ask if you lost weight say "yes" and thank you. If the press on I would say that you are on a strict diet and exercise and then change the subject ... maybe ask them a personal question - LOL.

Just wear a bulky sweater.....

How did it go??

These are great answers. I having surgery on 2/14/13, and have decided not to tell my MIL. She is one of those cranky old ladies that doesn't have anything positive to say ever. We've decided to tell her I have the flu and that alone will steer her clear of the house for at least a week... lol

They know I had stomach surgery, they just dont know what kind. Nothing came up and noone commented or complimented, but I know my sis in law noticed because she started talking about how she needed to lose weight really bad

did it make you kind of sad that no one said anything? Or were you just relieved that no one did? In the beginning if no one said anything... I was always like what the heck?? I think I'm just a weirdo

did it make you kind of sad that no one said anything? Or were you just relieved that no one did? In the beginning if no one said anything... I was always like what the heck?? I think I'm just a weirdo

It made me relieved, but it is weird because I have lost nearly 60 pounds and you can definitly tell

Well I bet they talked about you after you left!!!!

How funny. I had a moment today too.

Went to family party. I lost 37lbs before surgery. My SIL never said a word about me loosing. Today a week after she knew I had surgery said wow you look amazing. Um. It's a week. Really?!

I am a little apprehensive over the comments or questions as no one knows I've done WLS. So a strict diet or using a Weightloss center is a great idea!

I don't really get out much or see people I know so I don't hear any commeNts ...i have 3 sons but only 2 see me daily...i always have to ask if they can tell I'm losing lol! But they are very supportive otherwise...my 5 yr old grandson is the only one who said grandma you're losing weight

How funny. I had a moment today too.

Went to family party. I lost 37lbs before surgery. My SIL never said a word about me loosing. Today a week after she knew I had surgery said wow you look amazing. Um. It's a week. Really?!

I am a little apprehensive over the comments or questions as no one knows I've done WLS. So a strict diet or using a Weightloss center is a great idea!

I dont mind that they know I had surgery, but its none of their business. However if asked I wont lie. They are annoying but they are family. I think its so funny how when you lise weight everyone else feels suddenly fat! Yet when I was fat they would tell me all kinds of reasons not to.diet. Curious how misery loves company