Today I am feeling blessed for this oppurtunity to restart my life and get healthy. My grandmother passed away in November and her weight had a ton to do with it and she was only 69. I feel like she would be proud of me taking control of my life the way she couldn't. I'm proud that I am finally putting my foot down and admitting I had a problem and my weight was not normal. And now that all my pre op doctor appointments are scheduled the surgery is starting to feel real to me now and I am so happy. I want to thank all of you for posting so many different issues and also for the support. You guys are truly amazing!

Today I am feeling blessed for this oppurtunity to restart my life and get healthy. My grandmother passed away in November and her weight had a ton to do with it and she was only 69. I feel like she would be proud of me taking control of my life the way she couldn't. I'm proud that I am finally putting my foot down and admitting I had a problem and my weight was not normal. And now that all my pre op doctor appointments are scheduled the surgery is starting to feel real to me now and I am so happy. I want to thank all of you for posting so many different issues and also for the support. You guys are truly amazing!

This is the best thing I have ever done, good luck on your journey.

Yes... Good luck to you. My dad passed last Jan. at 61. I know his weight had a strain on his heart. I know I will have to have counseling to get through this but, like you, I have put my foot down.

I'm glad you are happy being with us

It's nice to get advice and insight on topics I wouldn't know where else to go. I can't wrap my head around this still. I haven't been thin since I was a little girl, I can't imagine it actually happening to me. It's still surreal

It's nice to get advice and insight on topics I wouldn't know where else to go. I can't wrap my head around this still. I haven't been thin since I was a little girl' date=' I can't imagine it actually happening to me. It's still surreal[/quote']

I'm getting that feeling back now as I slim. It feels so good except the saggy arms. Lolz

Lol yeah I'm pretty terrified of the saggy arms aspect of this but I'd rather have that over being big and unhealthy. I'm also hoping age and skin elasticity is on my side and will decide to just go back to how it should have been lol. Even if it doesn't the first couple years at least if it happens I will be thrilled lol. I want to be able to fit Ina decent wedding dress and walk down that aisle feeling beautiful and not hating my body. One of those many goals I have

Hello! How do you start a new thread it seems I can only reply on my cell phone. You are all amazingly fantastic!!!! I go for surgery September 17th. Any advice I'm having RNY gastric bypass? So many people try to talk me out of it saying is so final. I say yes, yes it is bring it on!

Lol yeah I'm pretty terrified of the saggy arms aspect of this but I'd rather have that over being big and unhealthy. I'm also hoping age and skin elasticity is on my side and will decide to just go back to how it should have been lol. Even if it doesn't the first couple years at least if it happens I will be thrilled lol. I want to be able to fit Ina decent wedding dress and walk down that aisle feeling beautiful and not hating my body. One of those many goals I have

I always wanted to renew my weding this time by church but I can only dream. Wishing on things to get better.

Hopefully they do mami, things were bad here too with my relationship but I think hes starting to come around. They say the surgery can help or destroy marriages and I'm kind of scared about that. I don't want there to be bad changes but I can see him getting insanely jealous that I got looks idk

Hopefully they do mami' date=' things were bad here too with my relationship but I think hes starting to come around. They say the surgery can help or destroy marriages and I'm kind of scared about that. I don't want there to be bad changes but I can see him getting insanely jealous that I got looks idk[/quote']

Men don't check us out when we are fat but as soon as we start shaping up & sliming down the jealous starts or gets worst.

I lost my marriage to my husbands rny. I'm grateful to be single!

I lost my marriage to my husbands rny. I'm grateful to be single!

After he lost weight the marriage ended.

Yes. He changed dramatically.

I'm loving all of this foot putting down!! Lol! You're gonna love the new you!!

I'm loving all of this foot putting down!! Lol! You're gonna love the new you!!

I hope so!

Although at the moment i am not sure if it is goin to happen. My bf was talking about leaving because I wasnt respecting his opinion or words and I was just decidin to move forward in this without his help in dieting and exercise. But when I talked to everyone including his parents they said to do what is right for me and my health. I just don't see how he can't feel that way too. He's worried I will die because he has terrible luck, seriously, and then he will be left to care for my 4 year old son on his own. While there is always risks I have tried to explain to him all the testing I have to have done to make this as safe as possible and that once it was over with and I was back home he would feel better and that even if anything happened god forbid, he has a hire support team that would help with my son in an instant. I don't want to give up on this but I'm nowhere near giving up on our relationship.

Just really sucks right now :/