I have always been riculed about my weight. I finally decided to do the ultimate. I have been to the seminar and after talking with friends who have had bypass I have decided to go that route. I will see the surgeon on July 3 and will get the ball rolling. I know I qualify but I am still nervous. My family will support me but my husband does not want me to do this. I just need some positive support.

Welcome! I understand being nervous. I to am new here and the decision we are making is a huge one! I know that in the end it will be worth it to be healthy. The people here are very supportive!

I kno it makes u nervous I'm nervous too .. I'm hoping to have my surgery by the end of July or beginning of august

So you husband wants you unhappy and unhealthy. Wow what love he has for you. And I'm sure he does love you and is some what scared of what he does not understand. My wife and daughter & son are more excited about the life change then i am . And can't wait to have a skinny daddy. And a health daddy that will be around for a long time. "Be positive you are doing the right thing "

Ask your husband to go with you to all your doctor appointments and he will learn along with you. Then he will be behind you 100% Good luck

Maybe it isn't that he's unsupportive . It could be fear. This is surgery and with surgery there are risks. It's a life style change for the entire family and it's unfamiliar. To fear the unfamiliar is normal.

Men are the worst. Mine didn't support me & still doesn't support me. He is disappointed that I'm not the same person that enjoys food like before like eating 2 slices of pizza with extra cheese going to city island for lobster. I told him I can enjoy all that except pizza in a few months. I can dine out but broil fish not fried small changes. He still isn't happy and would rather me eat & enjoy food like before. I don't want to be like before.

I feel ya. Mine is becoming insecure. He has always told me that he'll love me no matter what size. I think he meant on the larger side of things. It's an adjustment for him too. We have always enjoyed food, beer, wine together & remove that from the equation & we are pretty boring. This is for you. If he chooses not to be in the same boat, then that's on him. You can't change anyone but only tell them how you feel and what they decide to do with it is on them. Keep your head up doll!