Ok hello all I've been gone awhile lost log on information had to create a new one. I had my surgery October 17th 2011 everything was going great I was focused and losing pounds exercising was near my goal then that all ended December 8th 2012 my mother passed away due to a pulmonary embolism to the left lung due to her plastic surgery. I was preparing to start my nursing program in January . All of my benefits were cut off because I had medical through my mom she was a hemodialysis technician. So I have no more medical no more surgeon meeting follow ups I feel lost ihave no idea how I'm doing so well in school but I am . I just have so much stress and pressure on me to make sure my dad's ok weightloss has been pushed to the back of my priorities but I know how much being healthy was to my mom I'm just stuck was 179 approaching my goal weight now I'm 194 please help

In my five years since vsg...I lost both my parents to heart disease and cancer. I am so so sorry for your loss. Stress = Weight Gain or Weight Stall for most of us.

Yoga, therapy, friends, church, love. ..knowing your mother wanted you to be taken care of and happy. You need to continue where she left off.

Love yourself like she loved and lived for you. You need to find it in you.

I lost my way and am just now trying to find my own way back. I know it's possible.

thank you so much for your reply you're a very strong person I'm sorry for your loss I couldn't imagine dealing that in the span of 5 years

My mom died in 2010 and my dad in 2012. I too felt responsible for my Dad after she died. I felt so lost for so long. I also am raising two boys as a single mom. Yes I am strong but stress takes no prisoners. It aims to destroy and does its job well. Don't let it win. Life has a way of achieving balance with or without our help. There is only so much we really can do to help our loved ones. Do your best but you NEED to take time for YOU....***HUGS***

you're so right oh wow all of that and a single mom too I repeat you're so strong I'm going to try to incorporate some exercise and eating better small changes right? I just need to stay focus on what she'd want me do and where she'd want me to be

What she would want for you and what she would do for you and with you. You are ONE person. If you forget to take care of YOU = ONE, you can't help anyone else. Get school DONE. LOVE and care for DAD but that can't consume YOU. SMALL small really small changes and keep them permanent until they are second nature. Its ok if you make mistakes as long as you learn from them. That is something I had a hard time with but I think I get it now. You do not want to undo what you have worked so hard for. You know the program.... you are still doing well... you can continue where your mom left off and believe she will see and share in your success.

So sorry to hear about all the losses mentioned here - my heart goes out to each of you above. To the original poster, take it day by day, meal by meal. You can do this. Hang in there. Sometimes it is baby steps...focus on your protein, your water, and your exercise. I agree totally with has been said about stress here...we can't let stress win! Best of luck to you.

school is going well I'm supposed to graduate in December so I'm just praying I make it through you're right I shouldn't overwhelm myself doing too much I know what I have to do to be where I was if I fall off the wagon I usually say well whatever I'm tired of diet talk but I shouldn't be like that just making excuses thank you so much i needed these wise words more than you know.

thank you lucky starting tomorrow I'm going to do better go back to the basics I need a change