As you can probably tell by how long I’ve been a member here, I’ve been considering VSG for a long time. My husband has never exactly been on-board with it; he’s naturally very thin, and can eat whatever he wants without gaining any substantial weight. Since he’s never really been willing to hear me out on VSG, I’ve tried everything else under the sun to try and get my weight under control. In 2011 I did Medifast. Over the year, I managed to lose 100 pounds. Over the next year and a half, I managed to gain back every last pound.

I talked to my husband last night again about VSG, and he was not terribly supportive of the idea (as usual). He doesn’t like the idea of me having surgery, and he is also of the opinion this is somehow taking the easy way out and I should be able to just do this on my own. He feels like I “quit” on Medifast, and that we wasted money because I gained it all back. I tried to explain to him that it’s not losing weight that’s the problem…it’s keeping it off. I’ve tried and tried, and I *can’t* stay a normal weight. I am just not able.

I’m not a snacker, and I don’t eat a bunch of junk food. I’m a vegetarian (15 years), don’t have high cholesterol, etc. My problem is the speed and quantity at which I eat. If my husband and I are having pizza, I will be on my 4^th slice by the time he’s finishing his first. I literally inhale my food. I don’t chew, I don’t wait for it to cool, and I eat so quickly and so voluminously that I feel ill. I’ve tried to consciously slow down, but even my “slow” is fast to most people. And I don’t know the meaning of the word “full.”

Through all my research, it seems like VSG would be the best option for me because it would force me to slow down (lest I get sick!), and I physically won’t be able to hold as much food. I know you can “eat around” the sleeve, but like I said I’m not a big snacker or junk food eater so I don’t worry about that so much. I feel like the sleeve would be a good tool to help me control my portions and give me that sense of when to stop that I’m *supposed* to have.

Since my husband feels like I “quit” at Medifast, he thinks I’m going to “quit” on the sleeve. He thinks I’ll just gain it all back, and we’ll have “wasted” all that money. I know he wants to be supportive and he wants me to have something that works, but he just doesn’t know what it’s like to have a problem with food. It’s impossible to understand if you haven’t been there. But he raises a good point, and one I feel is fair to ask—how IS this different from Medifast or anything else I’ve tried? Will it just end up being another “waste of money”? How will this help me succeed where other plans haven’t?

Please, any insight you can provide would be so appreciated. I just want to be healthy again.

Well' date=' pre-op test is done. The funds are in my bank account. Now I just have to have my surgeon look everything over and make sure there isn't anything weird on my tests (God forbid!) and I'll be having a phone call with him next week Wednesday to go over all the final details. Assuming everything is a go, my surgery will be 5/22. Wow. I am so looking forward to my new life. I've been sick and sad for too long, and I"m ready to be happy again![/quote']

OMG!! Girl you work fast! you remind me of me!

OMG!! Girl you work fast! you remind me of me!

When I want something, I do everything in my power to get it. hehe

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I understand that mentality, because that is me to a "t". So now that your ball is rolling and everything is set. I ask you to slow down (just for a few minutes ) and take some slow deep breaths.... Cleansing breaths...

You will have a lot of emotional and physical things you will have to go through this next couple of months... It's kinda like becoming a mother, all the preparing and reading you do before hand can only prepare you so much..

It is a life changing major surgery. That will come with lots of ups and downs that are really impossible to fully grasp until you are in the midst of it.

Prepare for these moments of downs, so that when you are experiencing the downs, you can take a step back and say "yes, I knew there would be moments like this and I'm in one now"

Also letting your husband know that there will be these tough moments too, so he understands before hand and can come from a place of support and not from a place of bewilderment.

I'm sure all will be well good luck in the coming days!

Congratulations on getting the financing and support to move forward!

Well now my husband is giving me the silent treatment. If I bring up the surgery he'll give me a one-word answer, or say "Do we really have to talk about this?" I'm going to ask him tonight if he plans to be supportive when he goes with me. If not, I have a friend who has offered and will take her instead. She's been supportive through this whole thing and knows what I"m going through. I'd rather have someone there to support my decision, not make me feel worse than I already will with 5 holes in my body

Well now my husband is giving me the silent treatment. If I bring up the surgery he'll give me a one-word answer, or say "Do we really have to talk about this?" I'm going to ask him tonight if he plans to be supportive when he goes with me. If not, I have a friend who has offered and will take her instead. She's been supportive through this whole thing and knows what I"m going through. I'd rather have someone there to support my decision, not make me feel worse than I already will with 5 holes in my body

If he only realized how this will affect HIS life, he would get some pom poms and be on board cheering you on. Sex will be great, you'll feel good about yourself and I'd just tell him....climb on board and enjoy the ride, it's going to be a wild one, and fun, fun, fun - or else you're going to be left out and miss the ride!!! 'Nuff said!

I have a phone consult w/ my surgeon tonight to go over all my test results. Assuming everything looks good, I'll be able to book my travel. AHH! It's really going to happen!!

I had my consult w/ the surgeon on Wednesday and he said I was a very good, low-risk candidate for the surgery. I sent off my payment last night...so surgery is a go for the 22nd! Hard to believe it's happening so fast!

Congratulations! You will do great.

Girl, you are a women who makes things happen!

Bravo to you! In two weeks you have gone from depressed to determined!

So proud of you!

You know, on the one hand it sucked that I had to pay out of pocket for my surgery, but on the other hand it afforded me excellent control over my choice; from the day I made the decision to have VSG to the day I was waking up in recovery was a mere 6 weeks!

you will do great!! im new here.i am 12 days post op and down 27lb..if i can do it so can you!!!

Congrats on your journey!

You know, on the one hand it sucked that I had to pay out of pocket for my surgery, but on the other hand it afforded me excellent control over my choice; from the day I made the decision to have VSG to the day I was waking up in recovery was a mere 6 weeks!

Yep. Shelling out that money was not fun but I would do it again in a New York minute. Already at 9 weeks out my life is so much better! I still am somewhat convinced they did operate on my brain too. My whole thinking about food has changed so much and for the amazing!

Gonna have to ask the Doc next time I see him.

I'm to the point now where a week from today, I'll be flying to meet my surgeon for the first time. I'm excited, but definitely nervous. Eating makes me a little nauseous thanks to the butterflies in my tummy (guess I better get used to uncomfortable eating for a while, eh? hehe) I'm just so excited to get started on my new normal.