My Mom told me today that she really doesn't want me to have the surgery. Her reason is that according to what she's learned most people regain the weight so it just doesn't seem like the surgery would be worth ruining my life for. She also said it was my body my choice. She also said she knew people who had bypass and were just as sure as I am that they could change their lifestyle regain all the weight they lost. I tried to explain everything but just kind of ended with I just don't want to die before I can see my kids grow-up. I'm so heartbroken right now. She also brought up all the doubts I struggle with especially about failure. I want so bad not to be the fat girl anymore. I still am going forward with all the pre-op prep and the surgery in August I just wish my Mom was okay with it.

Good luck bitsy. Like your mom said its your life. Its nice to have support but it doesn't have to be from your folks. Not everyone understands and they don't have to. I got lucky and everyone in my life was super supportive but I would have done it regardless Work the steps and love yourself and you will be successful The big thing is not to fall into that trap of getting a year out and saying oh I can slip this bad thing in. I look at it like a credit account. I took out all of my allotment of food on the front end now I only get rations from hear on out. I'm good with that. But back to your post, just keep your head up and surround your self with the people that do get what you are going through.

Good luck!

I was worried about telling my mom for this same reason. I didn't want her not to approve. Luckily she thought it was a good thing. She was more concerned about my health risk of becoming more overweight as the years go by. And she said she would rather me do it now while I am still healthy so my healing would be better with less complications. We all have the fear of failing. But if we don't at least try we already failed. Hopefully after you have the surgery she will be a good support for you and help you threw those tough times so you wont fail. This surgery isn't the cure but its a great tool to help us in the right direction. I wish you the best of luck.

It sounds like ur mom had concerns but this is ur choice and for me this choice had been the best choice ever. Yes it is always going to take hard work and eating healthy but it's better than dying or being obese. I love the healthy benefits of this and being able to strut my stuff when with my spouse.

BTW, I haven't heard or seen anyone with VSG who has regained ALL of their weight. A few pounds, yes, but I, honestly, with the sleeve don't know if it would be possible to ever eat as much or gain all if it back. I say do what your heart And soul says do. Your Mom is your Mom. We worry. It's our job. . She will be okay with it if you are positive it's for you. Good luck

there is a great support system here.. I dont know anyone who gained back the wt.. its almost impossible.. your stomach is so small..and if you over eat..your stomach will for sure tell you about it lol.. im post op since dec20..and im down 71lbs.. no way will I ever go back to being heavy again.. never never.. yes its a life change..and a huge one.. I was ready for that.. I love the way im looking and how I feel.. I didnt have any health issues before surgery.. no diabetes and no high blood pressure.. but my hubby was diabetic..and did have high blood pressure.. he is off all his meds since his surgery dec 27th.. and he has lost 70lbs.. and looks HOT.. so Im happy about that for him..no meds.. and being healthy and living long.. best of luck to you and your journey... we are here to support you.. we understand your pain.

Thank you so much everyone. There is no doubt in my mind that this surgery is the right thing for me. My Dad passed away at over 400lbs last January and I know that if I continue the lifestyle I have been living it won't be long before I'm in that same boat and I just can't bear that thought. I want to enjoy my life and my kids. I am so glad I found this site, it's nice to feel supported and know I have a place to come and vent and share.