I thought it might be a good idea to have a thread where we could discuss the different challenges/issues we face as being single and banded.

I'll start with introducing myself. My name is Chris, I am 32 and live in a suburb of Boston. About a year ago I got out of a 5 year relationship and have just casually dated (online dating) since then. I have decided to take a break from dating for a bit, so I can focus on myself and adjust to living life as a bandster. (I was just banded on 10/2). One of my biggest concerns when I start dating again is if/when to tell that I am banded. It's not that I don't want to tell people, it's just that my idea of great dinner conversation does not include discussing my weight. Overall I would say that I have a great life. I have a good job, a very supportive family, and lots of friends. I am happy to be taking control over my weight and issues with food, and am excited at the prospect of my future as a not-so-fat woman.

I look forward to meeting more single bandsters and hope this thread takes off!

Chris :cocktail:

Chrispy-

I say go to the game too!! One, it is free...Two, there is always hot guys at basketball games...Three, you can always slide out and take a cab home or call a friend to pick you up!!!

Have FUN!!

Is the game yesterday, or next Friday? I say go! Get a free game, and see if you like him. If you like each other you can talk, if not, you can watch the game. simple. ok, I know, not THAT simple, but you should go. It will be fun.

Kristi

Thanks for the input everyone. The game is next Friday, and we actually spoke on the phone tonight and got along well. We found out that we graduated from the same university, the same year. How funny! Granted it was a HUGE school so we never knew each other existed. lol. We also found out that we have the same numbers for our Superbowl Squares tomorrow night. Colts 3, Bears 0. It must be fate! KIDDING!!! But I do think it's ironic. I'll definitely keep you guys updated. I'm just happy I'll have some stories to share!!!

I don't mind long hair on men, IF it goes with their facial structure, etc. Just like women, some of us look good with long hair, some look better with short. But I agree about the yummy baldies. Especially if the top of their head is tanned. I love the show Smallville, and the guy who plays Lex Luthor looks weird with hair. He looks so hot as a bald guy.

Kristi,

I like long hair on some guys to. Keith Urban looks great with his hair a little bit longer. But I hate the bald thing on guys. I'm not sure exactly why I don't like it, but I don't. Maybe it has to do with my daughter's ex-boyfriend that shaved his head and it looked like crap on him. I just don't like it.

~Joan~

Crispy? How did the date go? Hope you had fun.

Joan, I think Keith Urban is a cutie too. I said it before, I just don't find myself attracted to bald guys either. Partly because in recent years, 2 of the male nurses I work with shave their heads and they are both ....ahem... *cough...jerks...*cough....

lol...but I still try to get along.:angel:

So, I went on this first date last night....not EXACTLY my type but really nice with fun potential. Dinner = good. Conversation = good. Drive home convo = good. Pulled up to my parking garage and he yanked out the 'I'm not feeling really well' line and 'let's definitely do this again' and a handshake....A HANDSHAKE?!?!?

Granted - he coughed on the way to dinner and said that he had not been feeling well...but seemed to be fine otherwise. I ended up home fairly early with a HUGE sinking feeling of disappointment. To this point - no follow up IM, email, txt or phone call.

Guess he is just not that in to me. I love the 'getting excited' part of new dates - but the 'crushed' part really sucks!

But seriously...WHERE is Mr. Right and how many more excited/disappointed evenings must I go through to get to something even remotely resembling a relationship?

TexasRose,

I'm sorry your date didn't go so well. That really does suck, but your mister right is out there somewhere, and so is mine! We will find them eventually.

~Joan~

yeah that ending is kind of lame Texasrose. At least you only went out with him once and didn't waste a bunch of time on him. I would rather it get over quickly instead of dragging out. Rip the band aid off fast for me please.

I had a pt last night who's husband came walking in to see her at visiting hours, she had some minor cardiac issues and had successful angioplasty.

Her eyes lit up when he walked in with his daughter. She reached up both arms for a hug.

She is 91...he is 93. They told me they have been married for 73 years. I was so touched, it was so sweet.

Can you imagine??? I can't.

That is great. Being in love that long would be great.

Sorry to hear the date didn't go well TexasRose. I think what's important to focus on is that he wasn't YOUR type. I know personally I have been guilty of worrying more if someone likes me, before I even figure out if I really like them. I'm done with that now. I'm being picky. I deserve it, and so do you! He sounds like a loser and definitely doesn't deserve someone as wonderful as you!

Hi everyone,

I started a singles thread called Singles Meet-N-Greet --- so look it up and add your "profile" if you are interested in meeting bandsters of the opposite sex. You can also look for posts under my name if you want, and it'll be there

See you there!

Cassandra

That is so sweet Missy. My parents have been married for 54 years, so yes I can see it. I'm sure my grandparents would have been married that long if my grandmother had lived. Very special to see though.

~Joan~

Hi everyone,

I started a singles thread called Singles Meet-N-Greet --- so look it up and add your "profile" if you are interested in meeting bandsters of the opposite sex. You can also look for posts under my name if you want, and it'll be there

See you there!

Cassandra

Ok Cassandra,

This is a thread on this site correct? I just wanted to make sure so I didn't go to google and not find it. LOL Sorry, sometimes I'm kinda slow!

~Joan~

Yes, it's a thread on this site