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1. Would you go out on a date with someone who wasn't interested in you before you lost weight? 2. What do you think it says about a person if he/she didn't ask you out when you were heavy but does ask you out when you are thin? 3. If you are dating someone who never knew you when you were heavier, and you gained weight and they dumped you, do you think they are of poor character? My answers... 1. If I knew and liked someone as a person and he asked me out after I lost weight, I would most likely go out on a date with him. 2. I don't think that a man who is not attracted to heavy people is of poor character. I don't expect a man to ask me out if he isn't attracted to me physically. BUT, I think how a man treats or talks to/about heavy people is very indicitive of his character. 3. If I was in a relationship and I gained weight I would expect him not to dump me. If he did dump me then I would think he had poor character and I would be insulted.

Hey everyone, I have had a fever for the last 2 days... 101 - 102* F. No other symptoms that would make me think I have a cold or flu. Just a fever and muscle aching. I also have no appetite, which could just be because I am sick. I also feel some pain around where my band is deep in my body, especially if I take a deep breath. Mostly I am freaked out about the fever. Has anyone had any experience about the body rejecting the band? If so, what happened? How did you feel? How did you know your body was rejecting the band?

Thanks guys. I have had a fever now for the last 3 days. My stomach does hurt deep. If I hiccup it really hurts. I definitely need to see the doctor instead of trying to figure it out on the internet.... You know what they say about people in health care.... BAD PATIENTS!

no I don't, but you can ask some of them...

Denise, you made me laugh with your anti-penis posting post. I haven't dated in about a year. I keep having dreams about ex-boyfriends. I am moving in about 4 weeks and am planning on starting to date. I have me a few match.com guys a couple of weeks ago but I just wasn't feeling it so I pulled my ad. Which I have done about 4 times in the last year. I don't know why I just haven't been feeling like dating. Eh.

liberty, If it was me and I saw my ex, I would say hi and keep right on walking. No introducing the person I am with because that implies friendship with your ex, which if he was cheating why would you want to remain friends? A hi acknowledges him and doesn't make you look bitter but he needs no other information about your life. Go out and have fun and don't waste your evening looking for or worrying about someone who is now in the past. Your past doesn't control your future unless you let it.

A lot of times it is our own insecurities that add the, "for a fat person" after a compliment. I know that I am definitely my own worst enemy and NO ONE has ever said anything meaner to me than I have thought to myself about myself. Good point Moody.

Then the only person getting anything out of it is him.... which means you can find so much better somewhere else. For me, dating is a numbers game. Meaning, I will go out with most people at least once to see if there is a connection, even if they don't seem that great on paper (the internet sites is where I find my dates). That also keeps me busy and out of trouble with those "bad boy" guys that are so tempting but sooooo bad for me. Hopefully you will be able to resist him and start looking for someone else. Looking for someone else doesn't mean you have to settle for someone less than what you want or deserve.

Ditch him. He's taken. He isn't going to leave her or make you a priority. The only priority he has is himself. And in my opinion since he can't keep his commitments or be faithful, he is not a man or a boy.... he is an ass. Also, I say do unto others as you would have done to you. How would you feel if your husband, the father of your children, was sleeping with some girl a block away from you? It doesn't make either one of you look like that good of a catch in my opinion.

the thing about being single is that I have a choice! Do I want something serious, do I want something fun? I think as long as I am acting within what I want for myself, then its all good. It is when I start compromising what I want for myself to make the guy fit is when I run into problems. Easier said than done of course.

I am used to my first fill also. I don't have my second one scheduled yet. I am going to have it by the end of the month though. I can definitely still eat a lot but not as much as before. I have definitely PBd and slimed. Since my first fill I can no longer eat fast food except a couple of things from Taco Bell. But ANY food from anywhere else fast food causes me to PB. I am very glad about that because I really no longer think about fast food. I have been an exercise slacker the last 2 weeks. I am not really losing weight because I eat a lot of calories but I have changed so many habits. I absolutely know that I will lose weight eventually once my fill is right. I absolutely feel healthier because of all the habit changes. Weight loss will come because my habits are changing. Even if I never lost a pound, I would feel better because I feel healthier and I am not focused on food all the time.

I say do what your doctor says over everything else. There are always a million ways to do things in healthcare. You will find what works for you over time. I know I am learning new things every time I get a fill...

going down, I think that your bf should be forgiven. Sometimes, even if someone knows it is going to hurt, they still don't realize how much it really hurts and how long the hurt lasts. Even if he thinks that about you, it doesn't mean he doesn't care about you or love you. It doesn't have anything to do with your worth to him. Let it be his moment of being an ass and let it go. Good luck you guys!

If he wants to come for a visit and he stays in his own hotel room, I say why not?

WOW CLC I would be sweating bulllets too. glad you are doing great.

Wootsie, It sounds like you are burning up the internet. Go girl. I say don't decide until you actually meet the people. Until then, it is all up for grabs.

Eva, The best way I ever meet people is on the interent. It is strictly a numbers game. Not everyone you meet will be a match, that is for sure. But the more you meet the better chance you have of meeting the right one. Just don't give anyone your phone number until you meet them (I have had to learn this the hard way more than once ). And meet them somewhere like a bookstore or coffee shop, not at your house or his. Just my .02.

Denise I think that you won't be the first person to not lose weight quickly. I am still at 9-11 lbs lost total myself. Of course, I am still eating 2000 calories a day in order to not feel hungry. That is less than I was eating before but still a lot. I am hoping that as I get another fill I will eat less. I have 3ccs in a 10cc band so I can still get a lot more fill.

Another thing about PBing that I have learned since my fill is that you should wait a couple of minutes between bites. I have PBd from taking too many bites without resting in between. Sometimes I don't realize I am going to have a problem for a minute or so after the bite. Waiting between bites is also important.

Wow Derick. I think I have heard it all... and then I hear something like that and all I have to say is wow.

hey Audree, Nice to see you back and still losing! Hope the wedding went well and that the in-laws had a nice visit. Way to lose during stress, wedding, relatives, etc. I think I am down a bit more this week too but I am not going to say anything until Friday! I am planning on getting a fill in mid-April cuz I can still put the calories down, even though it is less than before. I can still eat 2000+ calories a day. On a more successful note, I am doing good with the exercise so far. I made a pact with myself to do one event a month for all of 2007 and I have done it so far.

To my knowledge BMI is the only indicator used to assess whether you are heavy enough to qualify for WLS. I have not heard of anyone having a body fat percentage evaluation to qualify for any type of surgical procedure. Insurance companies also use BMI to determine your insurance rate if you are purchasing insurance on your own.

BMI isn't the same thing as percentage body fat. BMI is just an index that divides your height and weight. If you were a bodybuilder, you would be very heavy for your height even though you weren't fat. You would still have a high BMI. Body fat percentage measures what percentage of your body is actually fat. There are several methods of doing this and the gold standard is using a water tank. You can buy a scale that sends an infrared beam into the soles of your feet and measures impedence to estimate your body fat. BMI is used by insurance companies but doesn't really give you an accurate depiction of your true fatness or skinniness.

Denise you are still at 2 lbs a week! Here's the link: http://www.lapbandtalk.com/before-and-after-t4642.html?t=4642

I think this thread is a way to let go of those things that have hurt us. In life, you don't want to spend time focusing on these things or giving it any power. But a lot of times the imprint of comments lingers on long after the comment has been made. For me, reading these things has allowed me to take back my power and let go of the negativity. Thank you all for sharing.