I've been crying since 5:22pm when I stepped out the door at work...

I just started my pre-op diet Monday. My surgery is 2/12. I work in a small office. We all have lunch at the same time. Today, my boss played a video for everyone to watch about a severely obese disabled man who worked with a trainer and lost all kinds of weight. (trust me... it all leads back to me having this surgery) I thought this was SO insensitive on his part. I got my protien shake together and left the room... holding back the tears. Then tonite a coworker asked me some questions about the surgery. 10min later I heard she and another coworker talking about it. They pulled me into the room they were in and both said... "I don't know about this Tam." Referring to me having the surgery. "This seems much harder than exercising."... At that point I just said.... "ok then..." and left. I couldnt get out of that building fast enough tonite...

What if they owner himself is a lawyer? Lol. That's my case, my boss is the owner/lawyer. =\

Ha, if that's the case he should already know how easily people are sued these days over emotional distress, but in the case he doesn't, I'd find the best lawyer I could to fight him in court if you wanted to pursue it that far. Maybe mentioning that he should know how easy it would be to take him to court and have a very convincing argument for your case against him.

Disclaimer: I'm not a lawyer, nor do I work in civil or case law. I work in law enforcement, and deal with people who have been through these things and during that experience I've spoken to numerous lawyers and law firms attempting to get victims the help they need and set them on the right path. Don't take anything I say a legal counsel, for your sake.

What amazes me is how OTHERS try and make YOUR decision about them!!!! What it is is that they are afraid that now that you have made a decision to Do something to change they will be left behind because WE ARE IMPROVING OURSELVES!!! Keep your head up never let them see you sweat!!! Let them EAT THEIR HEARTS OUT, when the weight starts falling off!!! Good Luck!!!!

That is just so messed up that they showed that video. So unprofessional! I don't even have words. I'm sure it merits some sort of law breaking. I know how you feel I'm sure we have all had the people who put their two sense in and it's obnoxious. I appreciated the pro and cons people gave me in the beginning, but right before my big day?!? Come on ! I need positivity and support.

Wow I can't believe they did that! Is that even legal what they did? I never thought about it before now, but I am glad I work where I do. A few people have already had bypass surgery and they were very supportive of what I was doing. Sorry to hear this has happened to anybody, I think you should talk to a lawyer about it......

Sorry you have had such a bad experience. Just like when you are on a diet, there are always people who say things and do things to throw you off. Many different reasons, the thin ones don't get it, the overweight ones want company being overweight. I have been fortunate, most I have told have seen my struggles and support me. Some are afraid for me but understand. I just tell those that I am facing two knee replacements if this weight continues, much worse than laproscopic sleeve surgery. I am disabled, and I have tried and tried on my own. I am 65 and have to use a walker and frankly I just don't care what people think about the surgery, it is for me and my health. It is harder when you are younger. Those that might oppose me, I just feel like Satan is trying through them to stop me from being more able to help with my ministry for God. I was happy to see in your last post you have come to realize those people do care but it still hurts. Good for you and good luck on your surgery.

Punkin,

I think speaking 1:1 with the boss might be more profitable than threatening to hire a lawyer - they are pretty expensive. The first thing a lawyer would ask you is what steps you took to rectify the situation. Speaking to him professionally, then a letter sent certified mail, etc. Hopefully you wouldn't need more than the discussion. Small offices are tough. I work in department of 18, in a hospital of 8000. The 8000 don't care and the 18 don't know yet as I told no-one before hand.

I do wish you the best!

Call a lawyer. Consultations are free. They can tell you over the phone if you have a case or not.

That's a great idea!