I had the gastric sleeve October 23, 2012. When I debated about having this surgery I decided if I couldn't conform to all the rules for six months I would never succeed and there was no point in the surgery. So as I jumped through every hoop for my insurance and had to wait their six month wait, I changed everything. No soda, no caffeine, all protein diet, waiting 15 min after liquid for food etc etc etc. I did it all and managed to take hold your breath my 399 lb body down 48 lbs by my surgery date. I had promised myself I would lose 40 and everything else was gravy. I then lost 17 post surgery and I was thinking piece of cake! So now I am down 25 since the post weight loss and its slow moving. All those doubts did this work did I some how stretch my sleeve. What if 90lbs is all I get would I be happy with that!! Hell no!!! I want to look and feel normal! For many here 100 is their goal for me its still at least 100 to go. It can sometimes be very over whelming. What can you do but keep going. I didn't get here over night and I'm not going to lose it that way. Big family wedding in Feb and still feel all those same insecurities from 90 lbs ago. Who would have thought?

Step outside the box and start loving yourself, this is first and foremost! I have never been insecure and have always been comfortable in my skin no matter what size. I have in the past mentored young adults and this is a book that I suggested they read. If you are interested, here it is:

http://www.amazon.com/Self-Compassion-Beating-Yourself-Insecurity-Behind/dp/0061733512/ref=sr_1_2?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1359124002&sr=1-2&keywords=insecurities

You will do well at the wedding, have fun!

You are amazing! You've accomplished a great goal and you're still on your way. Congratulations!!!!!

I too have the same insecurities.. Im so afraid of gaining wt.. Im post op dec 20. Im down 40lbs.. for which my doc says is excellent.. but I dont see the change when I look in the mirror.. even tho my hubby says its a huge change.. you can see his wt loss also.. he did his a week later than I did.. and he is down 39lbs.. he is already looking skinny.. My wt loss goal is to lose 150lbs.. and they asked me if I didnt lose that much and would I be happy weighing 170lbs.. I said sure cuz I havent weighed that since highschool.. but I know this is working and I know its been the best thing Ive ever done.. I guess one day im gonna wake up and say.. who is that person in the mirror..and go OMG its me!!.. I have a great support system in my hubby.. who loves me no matter what I look like.. My doc says the weight will still continue to drop off as I advance my diet.. so im gonna trust him on that one.. oh and going to the gym will help too.. Im starting that here soon.. so maybe if you arent going yet.. think about that.. it will help take off more weight and build more muscle tone too.. best of luck to you.