So I am 9days away from the surgery that I've worked so hard the past 7months to get. Instead of feeling excited about my new life, I'm overwhelmed with a sea of emotions. I'm having a really hard time with the support of people I thought would be there. One of my close friends inperticular is on my last nerve, with comments on how I shouldn't do this surgery. Honestly it's not just her, my fiancé, some of my family and a lot of my friends voice concern. What kills me is they all have seen me struggle with weight my entire life. They keep saying "you've lost the weight before, why can't you do it again" and I have lost 50lbs or more at a time but it always comes back. I cant make them understand that i need this. Im dedicated but I'm scared, I'm hurting and I'm an emotional wreck because of all this stress. Add to that im on a two week liquid prep and i feel like im going out of my mind. I feel like I'm fighting all this alone and it's really depressing. Have any of you been through this before surgery? How did you cope? Is all this going to be worth all this fighting? Ugh this is suppose to be a happy time a joyous time a new beginning but I feel like I'm just stuck. Advice?

Cant make it tonight but would love to come to the one on the 18th. Im on the westside. Thats awesome that your here in Jax too Please send me the info

Hey Jax,

Just checking in to see how your doing.

Are you keeping your chin up, hope so

You will make it through this..

IMABear

Hey Bear!

Getting Better and Staying strong. Taking out all my frustrations at the gym and just counting down. Thanks for checking on me

You know this saddens me deaply that family is not on board with the decision. My sister passed away 3 years ago due to obesity she weighed 450lbs. I begged her to get the surgery and I offered to pay for it since she did not have medical insurance. I wished someone had forced her to have the surgery in my opinion she should have been considered suicidel and forced to have it. I will be having the surgery in Jan I started at 216 and ready to do this no one will be making the decision for me not even my husband. I refuse to get to the pint my sister was at 450 lungs filling with fluid, heart enlarged to the size of a football, liver enlarged, splean enarged, blood pressure through the roof sitting in the hospital on life support for weeks. Morbid obesity is a dreadful horrifying disease.

Sorry please know that my sister was only 42 and had three beautiful children that have lost their mother due to obesity. And my mother that mourns for her still today and everyday wishing that she could have forced her to have the surgery

^{Wow Ms. BMarion, Im so sorry for your loss. Its horrible to lose someone so young and with children to boot, its heart breaking. Im lucky my parents are on board but my fiance, my best friend, and a lot of close friends are not. Im doing much better. Ive met a lot of people on this site who are such a blessing and uplifting. Everyday we get stronger! Congrats on making a great descion for yourself, stay strong chica}

Thank you. I firmly believe that my I am doing this for me and my sister and that she will hold my hand through it all.

I'm so glad I'm not along.....My mom n dad is happy my boyfriend don't want me to have da surgery n my best friend told me don't do it n another friend said don't do it

They keep saying "you've lost the weight before, why can't you do it again" and I have lost 50lbs or more at a time but it always comes back.

And there's the key to this whole thing. It's easy - EASY to lose weight for a few months. The hard part is keeping it off. And that's the difference with this surgery. It's not going to be so easy to fall back into your old habits as it has been before.

I don't know. I hate to sit here and say go for it. It may not be right for you - only you can make that decision. You, not your family. Not your friends. Support is here when you need it.

Have you done the psych evaluation that most insurance companies require?

Hang in there everyone coz u are not alone. It's so easy to pass judgment, which people tend to do but they have no idea how it is to be our shoes. I'm In constant pain from plantar fasciitis, Achilles tendinitis, knee and shoulder pain and other complications from obesity.

I choose to do it for myself...and could care less about what other people think. I will only keep it between me and husband, and the positive people in my life - to cut off the unnecessary drama. I choose to live, and to exist! Everything else failed, and am nervous, scared, happy and excited about it.

Will meet with surgeon on the 29 for surgery date. Good luck to all of us!

whole new perspective time to do this and focus on me for once.

jaxlaceylace

wonderful realization

you deserve to focus on you!!!

be happy/excited with the thoughts, towards the rest of your healthier and happier life

good luck with WLS

speedy recovery

Yes Arcus, I did the psych eval and passed with flying colors. I know this is the best des ion for me and I'm happy/thrilled/anxious/nervous/scared lol the whole set of emotions but I really think I'm ready !

Thanks proudgrammy it is an awesome feeling and it's getting stronger everyday ! I'm ready to rock this surgery 6 days left !

Happy Thanksgiving to all my friends, love you guys thanks for the continual support