Last night while I was getting a bath, me and husband were talking. I was telling him how once I reach goal, and maintain for awhile ( which is quite a ways away as I still have 72lbs to loose to get to goal) I want a boob job and a tummy tuck. Out of no where my husband starts ranting about how he doesn't want me to have those surgeries because of the "risk". I was like, where was that concern while I was getting my stomach cut up like Frankenstein ? He said that was a medical necessity for me, then went on to guilt trip me about how would he explain to Cole, my 5 year old, if something happen to me while having plastic surgery? And that he's happy with me the way I am. I told him its not about him, it's about how I feel about myself, and I don't want boobs hanging down to my belly button or flabby belly if I make it to goal and if I maintain. After much heated discussion, because since my surgery I'm a total hot head , he admitted its his own insecurities that doesn't want mr having plastics.

Personally I don't get it, I love my husband, he had loved me at almost 300lbs. I feel I'm going to love him no matter what happens. This is something I want, it's hard to think about going against something he wants because he gives me everything I want, and is sooo good to me. This whole incident is totally out of character for him.

I'm always saying I think my sleeve is making me crazy, cause of my out there mood swings, looks like its rubbing off on him.

Thank you Catracks and Wheetsin for your input, I appreciate any input from senior, successful sleevers.

I know this is a public forum and when I put it out there I'm gonna get input from all kinds of people and their opinions. However, with that being said, did that girl really say I shouldn't have had surgery if I can't handle saggy titties? Really? Has she even had surgery yet? And if she hasn't then she shouldn't have surgery, and be happy being fat.

Sorry had to get that out

Thank you Catracks and Wheetsin for your input, I appreciate any input from senior, successful sleevers.

I know this is a public forum and when I put it out there I'm gonna get input from all kinds of people and their opinions. However, with that being said, did that girl really say I shouldn't have had surgery if I can't handle saggy titties? Really? Has she even had surgery yet? And if she hasn't then she shouldn't have surgery, and be happy being fat.

Sorry had to get that out

You just cracked me up! I am still laughing! Thank you for making my night!

No, the real question is who actually says "titties"?!

My pannus is there, but not like a sailcloth. It ends ABOVE my err... girl area. But it's also not completely deflated yet. I don't get lesions there, honestly, because I swipe it with deodorant. If I didn't, I would. My bellybutton is causing me major problems. I can seriously take a qtip, stick the whole thing into my bellybutton, and never touch the end. It's like a freaking bottomless pit. Lately it's been prone to irritation and I'm guessing some kind of yeast infection or something because - "TMI" - if a freaking qtip can't get to the end of it, how the heck can I keep it completely clean? A turkey baster?!

I'd love to have plastics. I have the means to have plastics. But it's scary. Kudos to anyone with the cajones to go through with it. The other angle...

I'd probably have a tattoo by now, except every bit of line that was crooked or not exactly what I envisioned would bother me. Honestly, lots of people who have plastics are so freaking lopsided or indented or whatever. Granted, I look like a damn used rubber full of quarters. But I'm proportionately & evenly gross. I don't know how I'd react to something like one hip being higher than the other, and some weird indentation on my thigh, etc.

And really, I just don't like pain very much.

Honestly if you can't handle the saggy titties & saggy skin maybe you shouldn't have gotten the WLS. Here is my theory' date=' I mean go ahead if you want but people part of this road of losing weight you are suppose to learn how to love yourself! How is that loving yourself if you keep losing weight and keep wanting other procedures? What's after a tummy tuck and breasts? A face lift? Arm lift? Thigh lift? People be happy that you are finally healthy and those around you love you for who you are..[/quote']

If she want to do something to make her happy then she should. And you have to be careful not to judge people

Last night while I was getting a bath' date=' me and husband were talking. I was telling him how once I reach goal, and maintain for awhile ( which is quite a ways away as I still have 72lbs to loose to get to goal) I want a boob job and a tummy tuck. Out of no where my husband starts ranting about how he doesn't want me to have those surgeries because of the "risk". I was like, where was that concern while I was getting my stomach cut up like Frankenstein ? He said that was a medical necessity for me, then went on to guilt trip me about how would he explain to Cole, my 5 year old, if something happen to me while having plastic surgery? And that he's happy with me the way I am. I told him its not about him, it's about how I feel about myself, and I don't want boobs hanging down to my belly button or flabby belly if I make it to goal and if I maintain. After much heated discussion, because since my surgery I'm a total hot head , he admitted its his own insecurities that doesn't want mr having plastics.

Personally I don't get it, I love my husband, he had loved me at almost 300lbs. I feel I'm going to love him no matter what happens. This is something I want, it's hard to think about going against something he wants because he gives me everything I want, and is sooo good to me. This whole incident is totally out of character for him.

I'm always saying I think my sleeve is making me crazy, cause of my out there mood swings, looks like its rubbing off on him.[/quote']

read my story. i will not have a voluntary surgery again until ds is over 15 buy a pushup bra your baby needs you and u could easily end up like me

I plan on having the same two procedures if I need them and if my parter didn't like it, well it wouldn't stop me. I can kind of relate though, I noticed he started saying things like he hopes I don't run off with someone else after my surgery, as if I ever would. Then he says he is just joking. I know it's his insecurities showing but I have confidence that things will all work out.

I'm sure once he saw the sexy new you he wouldn't mind hahah

My lil sis had breast implants, I thought she was already stunning, but apparently very small breasts (or certain types of them) can be classed as a medical issue. She got back some money from Medicare (Aussie) for her surgery.

I was a massive b*ch to her about it, mostly because I was terrified of the surgery and that she might have medical issues after.

But now she's safe, I'm ok with it, really it's not my decision at all, I'm not sure if it's her partners decision either since she paid for it all herself.

I think it's an issue that needs some consideration and compromise and conversations (back and forth, agree and disagree).

My partner jokes he would leave me if I ever got a tattoo. Sure it's my body but he has to look at it- and I'd be pretty grossed out if he got one either...

Personal decisions don't let haters get you down

Honestly if you can't handle the saggy titties & saggy skin maybe you shouldn't have gotten the WLS. Here is my theory' date=' I mean go ahead if you want but people part of this road of losing weight you are suppose to learn how to love yourself! How is that loving yourself if you keep losing weight and keep wanting other procedures? What's after a tummy tuck and breasts? A face lift? Arm lift? Thigh lift? People be happy that you are finally healthy and those around you love you for who you are..[/quote']

I think this is an unfair comment, You can love yourself but still want to improve it. What's wrong with plastic surgery if it improves ones self esteem. Ive heard this statement from friends when I got my breasts done, I knew she wanted to have hers done but couldn't afford it, she then put me down for it.

Did you have wls or are you just commenting on others?

Honestly if you can't handle the saggy titties & saggy skin maybe you shouldn't have gotten the WLS. Here is my theory' date=' I mean go ahead if you want but people part of this road of losing weight you are suppose to learn how to love yourself! How is that loving yourself if you keep losing weight and keep wanting other procedures? What's after a tummy tuck and breasts? A face lift? Arm lift? Thigh lift? People be happy that you are finally healthy and those around you love you for who you are..[/quote']

I love your response. I originally had lap and surgery over almost 3 years ago. It was a failure and 2 weeks ago I was sleeved. With any surgery you run the risk of complications.

I have told my husband many times that in the future after maintaining goal weight I want to have plastic surgery. After my recent stint in the hospital with complications my thoughts are different. Part of this transformation is learning to love the new you. Everyone is different. From my experienc

Honestly if you can't handle the saggy titties & saggy skin maybe you shouldn't have gotten the WLS. Here is my theory' date=' I mean go ahead if you want but people part of this road of losing weight you are suppose to learn how to love yourself! How is that loving yourself if you keep losing weight and keep wanting other procedures? What's after a tummy tuck and breasts? A face lift? Arm lift? Thigh lift? People be happy that you are finally healthy and those around you love you for who you are..[/quote']

I love your response. I originally had lap and surgery over almost 3 years ago. It was a failure and 2 weeks ago I was sleeved. With any surgery you run the risk of complications.

I have told my husband many times that in the future after maintaining goal weight I want to have plastic surgery. After my recent stint in the hospital with complications my thoughts are different. Part of this transformation is learning to love the new you. Everyone is different. From my experience I now believe that I don't really need to plastics but rather accept a healthy new me.