I've been holding off telling my dad because he I know his reaction will be bad and that's exactly what it was. He told me the usual "your not that big" ...he even told me that he hoped the insurance denies me. I know he's just scared but it hurts not to have his support. Thank God I have a loving husband who supports me 100%

Well...We only have one life to live... and we have to make the best of it. Keep moving forward and don't let anyone stop you. Congrats on your decision.

Send him/print him out the most positive MD type site explanation that includes how it saves lives, cuts risks, safer procedure, chances without it of losing it.. yada yada. E-mail/ regular mail and let him digest it.

I think people just have no idea. We've done the research. I remember when I forst heard of this it sounded barbaric. Cut your stomach out?!?? What?!? It's all in the presentation.

I think I might make this a thread.

Good luck!!

Thank u so much for the responses. Im sure he will come around once its over and sees that im ok

I too am a bit embarrassed that I have to be so drastic. I wonder if my friends will think - what's wrong with her that she didn't have the will power to quit eating. I don't care - I am not telling anyone (except family). It's my business! Good luck!

What's weird is almost everyone I know (and told) knew someone who had bariatric surgery and said "I just saw him/her and they are looking so good!!"

Same with me...im only telling immediate famil (mom, dad, brother and sister) no body else. It is a personal choice and i would rather not deal with the negative comments or the "whys"

It's a personal choice- telling or not/ who and when. I just want all the support I can get and plan to put the naysayers in a bubble and blow them off into the clouds.

I have told very few people of my upcoming surgery. It does not help that I feel as if I failed and now need surgery to be healthy. Those I have told have been supportive and they have urged me to be open about my decision. Hopefully your father will come around. I agree, having more information will help. Time should also help.

Marty i like that idea a lot...let me know if u need help blowing then into the clouds...thanks again everyone u have helped ease my mind )

I'm going with the bubble option! thanks Marty!

I am in the same situation as polandspring. I haven't told my dad about the surgery because he will not support it. When I was 19, I had breast reduction surgery in the Dominican Rep and it was bad. I cought a bacteria there and it wasnt looking good. I saw my dad cry and i dont want to see that again. I will not tell him until I am home and feeling good. I just hope nothing bad happens.....I'm praying!! I have my husband who supports me, my mom and my friends.

Thanks for the offer to help me blow them away...but I've been told I have a lot of hot air!

Your dad is just worried about you, his reaction is pretty typical. Try to include him in the process, invite him to a seminar so he can be educated on what you are doing. Tell him how important it is to you that he attends. He will learn everything he needs to know about the procedure then he can decide how he feels about it. Tell him to at least give it a chance.