I have to tell my boss that I've gotten the ball rolling in this process and will need a couple of weeks off. I don't know how to say it. It's literally making me sick to my stomach! I've known my boss for 10 years - She is the best. I am just terrified!!!!!!

I'm also just as nervous about my family and my inlaws knowing about it.

How did you tell the people closest to you? HELP!!

Thank you Lissa (funny side note: my bf is a lissa too haha)!!!!

I started telling her all the statistics I knew. I was defending myself - and it felt like I was being attacked. All while she was doing this she never even asked me what type of surgery I was having.

Not only did she tell me i was giving up - she also told me that I was WRONG!!!! Ugh I'm still annoyed the morning after. It just goes to show that sometimes you have to do things for you and only you!

Hoping today is a better day - she owes me such an apology......but I'm sure I'll never hear it.

Great thread! I have told my boyfriend and two best friends, and two co-workers (both of whom have had WLS), and everyone has been sooooo supportive. One of my friends was like i never even though of you as fat (um, ya sure, lol). I told my boss as well, and was nervious, but 2 other girls in the office have had it done, and i knew he'd understand. I did lie a little and told him i found out i was pre-diabetic (which im not) and that was my major decision on why i should do the surgery, but hey, if i keep going at the rate im going, im sure to have health complications soon.

I tried to bring it up to my mom (who's tiny), and she was like you dont need that, thats too drastic, you just need to try this diet im on. Im not going to tell her till after the surgery now, i know she'll be happy cuz she can stop worrying about me being unhealthy. Im not telling my stuck up perfect sister right now either, lol. Waiting till after for that.

A good way to bring it up to someone is tell them you have something to tell them, and you dont want their negative comments, YOU ONLY WANT THEIR SUPPORT, and you'll be happy to answer any questions they have about the surgery, but they need to bite their tongues if they dont have anything nice to say.

I had the sleeve done August 2010. My hubby, and my family knew and were all very supportive. I didn't tell any of my in laws until after January 2011 (big family), and still haven't really spoken to them personally about the surgery. I basically told 2 or 3 of them and the word spread quickly. I had made my mind up and did this for my health and DID NOT need negative feedback or comments. I think it's best to keep it to a minimum, but it's your choice.

I'm impressed that so many of you are so open. I've only told 2 people. The only hard thing about this whole thing has been all the attention-people want to know how I've done it. I have so many facebook messages asking me how I lost all the weight. I really don't want to be defensive or deal with their reactiion so I don't tell-I'm pretty private so that is consistant with my personality. I have a new naturally thin friend and we eat about the same and she doesn't ask or bug me or care. Its really nice.

I decided to only tell my daughter, husband, and mom (I wish I hadn't told her) I think its a personal choice to tell or not to. When they ask about how you're losing wt. et.al. you can honestly tell them you are eater smaller quantities of healthier foods, and exercising . If you don't want to say more (like me) then drop it.

I think I started out like that. I wasn't, going to share with anyone but my immediate family and boss. But, 1- I have been too excited to NOT share, 2- Once I have it done and start losing I will not want to lie about how I am doing it. I know that not sharing isn't lying exactly but to me I would feel like it. Plus, I want others in my situation to consider their options and know that it's okay to use every tool at your disposal to be healthy. I want to be an example for some of my family members who think that WLS is somehow cheating.