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Feeling Guilty

I am scheduled to have my surgery August 27th. It has been about 1 year in the works with having to attend seminars, options, meeting surgeons, etc. I have prayed over having the surgery and have not made this decision hastily. As a Christian, I sometimes feel guilty that I am not able to lose the weight on my own, using self control. Does anyone else feel this way?:)

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This is my first post on this forum! ( yay me for jumping out of my comfort zone). Thank all of you for your comments and encouraging words about this topic. I'm in the early stages of the approval process but have been praying about this for about 2 years. The guilt has controlled be up to this point but I'm ready to take this step. My body is giving me signals that I need to make a change, and soon!!! :)

This is my first post on this forum! ( yay me for jumping out of my comfort zone). Thank all of you for your comments and encouraging words about this topic. I'm in the early stages of the approval process but have been praying about this for about 2 years. The guilt has controlled be up to this point but I'm ready to take this step. My body is giving me signals that I need to make a change, and soon!!! :)

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This is my first post on this forum! ( yay me for jumping out of my comfort zone). Thank all of you for your comments and encouraging words about this topic. I'm in the early stages of the approval process but have been praying about this for about 2 years. The guilt has controlled be up to this point but I'm ready to take this step. My body is giving me signals that I need to make a change, and soon!!! :)

So awesome!!!! Congrats! and WELCOME :)

Thank you! I'm starting get butterflies in my stomach because tomorrow is a BIG day. I go for my psych eval in the morning and the information session at 2. :)

  • 9 months later...

I prayed and prayed the WHOLE time I was in pre op, even the day of my procedure as they were wheeling me back on the gurney, I was saying "Lord if this is not your will, hender the surgeon, don't let anything bad happen, but hender him some how, if it's NOT your will" Next thing I knew I was in recovery, and now I have lost all this weight and off all my BP meds, healthy and happier. For once in my life, I am NOT ashamed to walk in my son's gym for a ballgame, I hated that when I was fat, hated walking into a crowded room. SO, I understand how you are feeling, and I hope this makes you feel better.

  • 2 weeks later...

I am waiting patiently as possible for my surgery date of 4/8. I sincerely feel that this surgery is God's plan for me. I had all of the money lined up for TJ, MX and it fell through. I prayed about it, that if this is supposed to be a sign, I will go get my butt back to WW for the 3 millionth time. The next week, all of my paperwork and money came through. That's enough of a sign for me. Now I just need strength and positive energy to calm my nerves! So excited and nervous that I keep bursting into tears when my family talks about it. Good luck to everyone. Saying prayers for all involved with VSG. I've learned already it is not the "easy way."

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I am scheduled to have my surgery August 27th. It has been about 1 year in the works with having to attend seminars, options, meeting surgeons, etc. I have prayed over having the surgery and have not made this decision hastily. As a Christian, I sometimes feel guilty that I am not able to lose the weight on my own, using self control. Does anyone else feel this way?crying.gif

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Yes I feel the same way.

Hi sweetie!!!! Well here I am almost 3 years out (8/27/13) and I'm SOOOOO HAPPY that God opened the doors for me to walk through! I am currently 5-6 lbs over my normal bmi goal weight 3 years later and THAT IS TRULY A MIRACLE. I'm still wearing the same clothes from 5/11 when I reached my goal, and THEN SOME LOL! I'm fit and healthy and feel SOOO BLESSED!!!!

Thank you God for my sleevie wonder :D...best wishes!!!!

Hi sweetie!!!! Well here I am almost 3 years out (8/27/13) and I'm SOOOOO HAPPY that God opened the doors for me to walk through! I am currently 5-6 lbs over my normal bmi goal weight 3 years later and THAT IS TRULY A MIRACLE. I'm still wearing the same clothes from 5/11 when I reached my goal' date=' and THEN SOME LOL! I'm fit and healthy and feel SOOO BLESSED!!!!

Thank you God for my sleevie wonder :D...best wishes!!!![/quote']

I'm so GLAD to hear from you! Yes, I am within 7 lbs of original goal now. I let myself slip into bad junk habit for a while now I've gotten on a healthy eating plan using the 5:2 eating plan and has become habit for me so excited about seeing GOAL number again and then have a small bounce range.

Congrats to you, you gorgeous thing! I've seen the pics of you and your family trips. Happy days!!!!

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