Understandably positions are important being with our husbands/significants or ??????

But how has this changed for you?

thanks for the visual of a coronary midway... that is hilarious!

I'm not a lady, but I'm looking forward to not crushing my girlfriend once I've dropped the weight.

Also, since guys tend to be the more... uh, ACTIVE ones during sex, I'm looking forward to not feeling like I'm going to have a heart attack mid-coitus. That's a bit of a buzz kill...

Just to let you know, I can completely relate. Plus, I'm one of the few women in the world that believes anything over a 20-30 minutes in one session is considered exercise, and it loses it's appeal.

This site is fairly graphic, NOT PORN, but it is cartoony figures showing positions and etc.

I find it very useful, and especially now that I've lost weight and can achieve a lot of these, it has helped our sex life tremendously.

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Tiff, that site is great. It reminded me of the Sims game. :sad0: But dirtier.

Ladies, excuse the newbie, but you have just made my day! I'm going to save it for a surprise for my hubby to find out...but I am sure glad to know I'll feel enough better about myself that I won't be ashamed or embarrassed for him to look at me anymore. He has never said anything but that he thinks I'm beautiful, but I feel uncomfortable, still.

I am so glad someone started this thread, It was a thought I had yesterday but was really to embarassed to ask.

My hubby comments on my lack of drive all the time. I am sure it has to do with my lack self comfort with my body. ONce I have the surgery and join the looserd bench I hope my DRIVE returns.

thanks again

I am so glad someone started this thread, It was a thought I had yesterday but was really to embarassed to ask.

My hubby comments on my lack of drive all the time. I am sure it has to do with my lack self comfort with my body. ONce I have the surgery and join the looserd bench I hope my DRIVE returns.

thanks again

The poor self esteem that can result from overweight and obesity is a big deal, and should not be written off.

But it's also important to remember that overweight and obesity can cause real, physiological problems that can lead to reduced sex drive and reduced sexual performance. Obesity reduces stamina and physically complicates sex -- even if you and your partner are the most willing partners around, if you're in pain or out of breath, it gets hard to maintain the mood.

Add to that the evidence that obesity disrupts hormonal function significantly -- I don't know about women, but in men, fat cells aromatize testosterone to estrogen, which is a Very Bad Thing for sexuality in men -- and you begin to see that it's not just "all in your head." Obesity is, to some degrees, a sex killer!

In fact, despite all of the fat acceptance sites saying otherwise (and, for the record, I'm pro-fat acceptance... I just think that you have to be realistic), I'm more surprised when an obese person has a NORMAL sex life. I suspect that for many obese people like my girlfriend and I, sex just sorta drops out of the picture.

I'm really looking forward to getting that part of the picture BACK again. We're too young to be sexless!

Female sexual dysfunction has many possible symptoms and causes. Fortunately, they're almost all treatable. Communicating your concerns and understanding your body and its normal response to sexual activity are important steps toward gaining sexual satisfaction.