My mother came to visit and proceeded to tell me I need to lose weight....multiple times. As she was leaving she handed me some diet pills, metabalife?, and told me to start taking them. The bottle looked old so I looked at the expiration date and it had expired in 2003!!!! She does not know I am getting lap band in 2 weeks. When she sees me next and notices I have lost weight I am going to tell her it was the expired metabalife pills that she gave me that helped hahaha oh family.

What was the craziest/weirdest/most outrageous/offensive thing someone has advised you to do to lose weight?

oh and this happened this morning!!!

The boiled cabbage diet. I didn't do it, I hate cabbage. My friend did it for a week and swore by it. He lost 6-7 lbs but he's clueless to the fact that most of the weight loss was from excess water he was carrying. One more? SENSA! What a joke. Supposedly it dulls the taste of food so it's not so appealing? It just made me want to eat more and more.

I feel you! My mom had the lapband done so all her friends and some family members were telling her and me that I should get the lapband too! They ask her almost everytime they talk to her if I got the band?! I finally told her to tell them that I'm not getting surgery and I know what do if I want to lose weight. How rude. I simply think it's no ones business.

Craziest thing? Years ago I told a guy I was dating, that at one point I was too thin; had health issues because of it. He whispered in my ear "do it again". Really?

My mother came to visit and proceeded to tell me I need to lose weight....multiple times. As she was leaving she handed me some diet pills, metabalife?, and told me to start taking them. The bottle looked old so I looked at the expiration date and it had expired in 2003!!!! She does not know I am getting lap band in 2 weeks. When she sees me next and notices I have lost weight I am going to tell her it was the expired metabalife pills that she gave me that helped hahaha oh family.

What was the craziest/weirdest/most outrageous/offensive thing someone has advised you to do to lose weight?

Nothing hurts more than when a 'loved one' criticizes. I suspect since you haven't told your mother about your surgery, she's not very supportive. I would look to avoid her for a while as she seems to be toxic for you.

My sister is also heavy and she is getting pressure from some family members to do what I did and get the lapband. I've never pressured her and try to downplay my focus on eating per the band when I'm with her as it is very important to me that she make that decision herself.

Craziest thing? Years ago I told a guy I was dating, that at one point I was too thin; had health issues because of it. He whispered in my ear "do it again". Really?

OMG I hope you fed him to wild pigs. That is totally outrageous!

Craziest diet I ever did? Ummm I did the herbalife diet pills when they had the bad stuff in them. Lost lots of weight but at the same time I ended up gaining all my weight back and them some.

A friend of mine was getting goat pee injections to lose weight..

Another one of my friends worked with a lady who had the lap band done, and all she was not supportive at all with her decision, all she did was complain that the lady with the lap band didn't lose any weight. Well duh, what did she expect? For her to lose the weight overnight? She lost a decent amount and met her goal but because she didn't drop it in seconds she was a failure to my friend.

That's why I have not told anyone other than my close supportive family.

OMG I hope you fed him to wild pigs. That is totally outrageous!

LOL! It was a short lived relationship

it is very important to me that she make that decision herself.

This is so true..... When people go on diet programs that work really well, they tend to tell everyone how great it is; you should try it, blah blah. When it comes to WLS, this is not something to push others toward. It's such a huge life changing decision; one that people need to come to on their own. Good for you, the way you're handling this with your sister.

A couple of (heavy) people I know are asking various things about the surgery; eating, limitations, problems, etc. I answer their questions, but NEVER say "it's great - you should try it". I always tell them what a big decision it is, and that you really need to be ready and prepared for the life change. I do not want to be responsible for anyone jumping in, only to regret their decision. It's just TOO big to be taken lightly.

I can't believe she did that!! Oh my gosh, I'd have gone ballistic!!

Whenever someone has given me unsolicited (often ridiculous) advice about my weight in the past, I usually have just said "Well I can lose weight but you can't fix ignorant. Good luck with that".

Let's see....before I went to college I did the pregnant women's urine injections. (I can't believe my mother paid for this.) Acupuncture by "stapling" my ears (also paid for by my mother).

Once I had a physiotherapist recommend The Papaya Diet for spot reducing. "It will take the fat off your hips but leave your breasts!!!" he said. Um....I didn't go back to him.

Let's see....before I went to college I did the pregnant women's urine injections. (I can't believe my mother paid for this.) Acupuncture by "stapling" my ears (also paid for by my mother).

Once I had a physiotherapist recommend The Papaya Diet for spot reducing. "It will take the fat off your hips but leave your breasts!!!" he said. Um....I didn't go back to him.

Geez...... The shrink - TOTALLY creepy.

My mother took me to a diet doctor when I was 9; in 1964. He put me on ALL kinds of pills; amphetamines, Water pills, and supplements to replace what I wasn't eating. The diet pill cycle repeated itself so many times throughout my life, and there were points where I was totally strung out on them.. One time (when I was 26), I had actually gotten too thin, but still saw more to lose. By this time I was already taking 6 pills a day, but they were losing their punch. Actually, I was losing my (drug induced) motivation, and started reaching out to crank, cocaine.....ANYthing to stop the raging animal I saw coming. Well, none of it worked. I gained all the weight back, blah blah. Ya'll know the story.

Anyway, back to taking pure amphetamines at 9 years old.... It was the early sixties, and they didn't know then what they know now. In my mother's defense, this was HER diet doctor, and she'd done quite well with that protocol. Years later, she normalized her size and maintained it throughout her life. But for me (and my sisters), the struggle lives on, and all three of us carry excess poundage.....to varying degrees.

Freshman in High School, 3 chicken legs and a multi-vitamin a day. worked like a charm, until put it back on faster than I lost it.

People seriously inject themselves with goat urine to lose weight!? pregnant women's urine too?! wow. Did it work at all!?

My mom has her own food issues so I try to just ignore her when she makes comments about my weight. Lots of therapy has gone into my mother/daughter relationship . She has taught me a lot of what NOT to do when I have a daughter.

I went to an initial seminar last week where the hospital discussed 4 different WLS methods and I submitted my paperwork to start the insurance approval process for the lapband. The staff called me last week to say I was approved by my insurance company and am now waiting for the doctor's office to call me back for the initial consult with the surgeon / staff, to find out my insurer's requirements, set up initial appointments, etc. etc. I'm torn between keeping this private between my husband and me, and sharing with immediate family / friends. My husband is so extremely supportive, and has cautioned me on NOT telling my mom because she's a pessimist about everything, and often times her favorite hobby is criticizing anything I do. He's afraid instead of supporting me, she'll throw it in my face. He cautions that I can't un-ring the bell, and once it's out, it's out. I think I need to share with family because so many things will be different about me...obviously my eating will change, and I don't want family members at get-together functions or holidays to think I'm not enjoying myself, or not wanting to participate because I'm not eating. Has anyone reading this experienced similar concerns, and how did you handle them? What are your thoughts on me keeping private with husband or sharing with family? BTW, my mom is approximately 300lbs, and I suggested to my husband that if I'm an inspiration to her, wouldn't it be worth it? He's of the opinion that it wouldn't, because she doesn't even get her annual well-woman exams, so she isn't concerned about her health anyway.