Okay, I've lost 30 lbs so far. I asked my hubs, is it noticeable that I've lost, and he replies, yes. So why is it when I see someone, they don't say a word. Like, you look good, anything. But nothing?

Its a downer. :|

Well, I guess I should be happy I know. I feel better, and more energetic. O.o

So frustrating! I am down 88lbs and I am lucky if maybe 2 people (outside of my immediate circle) have said anything to me about it! I'm not all about the praise and how good I look. If they would just acknowledge I look different that would mean the world to me! I've worked hard for those 88lbs darnit! =)

It's nice to have someone notice, but compliments are sometimes hard to take. It's like, oh no someone is looking at me. Now that I've been here awhile, it's getting better because everyone and me is getting used to the new me.

I had a love hate relationship with compliments ( if that makes sense)

Have you noticed your loss? Do you look in the mirror and see a smaller you?

When I started seeing a smaller me, I started walking a little taller. I started having more confidence and that is when others started to notice.

That happened around 50 lbs. That was also when I started buying clothes that fit, that complimented me (not hide me).

Changing my feelings about myself was my turning point and people noticed.

Ajtexas, you made a very interesting point!

What I've noticed is my clothes are baggy. I've changed my wardrobe to accommodate this. But, what I haven't noticed, is a smaller me yet. I still see the weight, the rolls, the blubber, the yuckie me.

Maybe what I was looking for was someone to constantly say how great I'm doing, as a booster to what I'm doing. When in fact, I should be telling myself this. I guess I don't need anyone else's opinion but my own.

Any compliments I do receive, are bonuses!

I'm going to try to view this differently now! Thanks so much Ajtexas! You really helped me see a different angle!

And thanks everyone too, all your replies are much appreciated. They also have helped.

I'm really glad you started this topic, because I'm dealing with a lot of insecurity and disappointment about my recent weight loss, which nobody has noticed. My fiance, when asked, admitted he couldn't see a difference now that I'm 20 lbs down during my preop diet. I just feel so discouraged, especially because I can't really tell either. I'm glad to hear that after another 10-20 lbs I might get a little acknowledgment and encouragement from close family/friends. I have a long way to go, though.

Lapbandit - I've only lost 30 so far, wait until your oats get baggy. Someone stated earlier, when you are wearing your regular clothes, which might be baggy, people can't see your loss until you are wearing something different.

I think the other day at work, some people might have noticed, and they didn't say anything. But, I'm not going to let that get me down. I know I am able to fit in the next size smaller, and without lying down to zip em. And I couldn't do that 2 weeks ago!

Congrats on your weight loss. Losing weight is not an easy task, it's a constant struggle. We took this step to get there. I know I'm not going back to a larger size. I packed up all my stuff that is too big, to make sure I don't slide backwards.

Keep up on your good work!

* oats - should be jeans! Hahaha. I hate auto correct!

Had to comment about "oats". wondered if that was a nickname you had for something!!! True tho, wait until your jeans bag off you, then change to the size that fits, you will surprise yourself, too! Karen

My first 80 not many people noticed or did not say anything as in the past 8 years this is the figure I yo yo with the next 30 pounds made i huge difference to me. I saw my shape change and also had no more clothes to shrink into. But the next 50 saw lots of changes old friends walk past me. My son called me skinny. My knees don't hurt. I love shopping bargains or previously enjoyed in the goodwill shops.

Hi, the oats! hahaha! And yeah, I was working out this morning and listening to their noises! I can't wait for the pain to vanish! Thanks !

congrats on your weight loss!

nobody apart from my hubby knows I've got a band. no one at work had said anything about my weight loss. I think that they are so used to me losing weight then putting it back on again that they dare not comment!!

I've been saying like 'oh I don't half feel the cold since I lost some weight' then they'll say ' yeah you can see it in your face and everywhere' which is nice. But I bet they are expecting me to put it all back on again. Well, not this time!! I also believe that some people would like you stay fat so that your the 'fat friend' that makes them look better!

Well, i WONT be your 'fat friend' anymore! ha ha that's it, rant over!! x

Kassie, i think I agree with you. I have people in my life that probably have watched me loose and gain. I won't be their "fat friend" anymore either!!

Woot woot!!