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Hi. I have been banded over 3 years and divorced 2...banding had nothing to do with the divorced..just FYI. But I am goin on dates and find it tricky because I don't eat much and don't like looking like I'm trying to eat small meals just in front of them...and waste food. And of course I don't tell anyone about my lapband until I know them well enough. So how/what do you do on a first second third date as far as eating so you don't appear that you are wasting your food but yet aren't trying to eat stuff you shouldn't. I find this tricky. Thanks

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Eat before you go and opt for meeting at a coffee house that way you don't have to worry about eating food. Go to a movie or anything else that doesnt involve food.

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If you can suggest dates that do not involve food or if that isnt possible I wouldn't worry about it... Most men think women are always on a diet anyway so just make healthy choices while eating out and don't make an issue out of it.., doubtful he will even notice....

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I started seeing a man about 6 months after my Lap Band surgery. I actually told him almost immediately. Granted I was vague at first, but I did tell him. As time went on and we grew closer, I went into much more detail, even showing him pictures of what I used to look like before losing 175 pounds.

I saw it like this: If a man can't choose to be with me despite all faults and trials, then he's not worth my time and has no place in my life.

Fast forward to today- we now live together very happily.

I'm glad I told him early on. I honestly believe it strengthened our bond and helped me to feel safe and trust him.

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also, you can order from the appetizer menu and ask for it to be brought with everyone else's meal. or order soup....

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I would order a Soup or appetizer and ask them to go ahead and box half of it for you. Or you can do like most children do push your food around on your plate and hide under garnishment :-p Most men really don't pay that much attention to how much we eat, I could eat a small elephant and my husband would not even check up from his plate :)

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