Im having my surgery 6 am Monday, and my Mother just informed me that she won't be offering me any kind of support whatsoever because she disagrees with the surgery because she thinks it's too risky, and that I could lose weight on my own. Her words were so hurtful, and this happening one week after my boyfriend broke up with me, and surgery in less than 48 hours is just so painful and overwhelming

Im having my surgery 6 am Monday' date=' and my Mother just informed me that she won't be offering me any kind of support whatsoever because she disagrees with the surgery because she thinks it's too risky, and that I could lose weight on my own. Her words were so hurtful, and this happening one week after my boyfriend broke up with me, and surgery in less than 48 hours is just so painful and overwhelming[/quote']

Maybe she's just scared:( hugs xoxo

Im having my surgery 6 am Monday' date=' and my Mother just informed me that she won't be offering me any kind of support whatsoever because she disagrees with the surgery because she thinks it's too risky, and that I could lose weight on my own. Her words were so hurtful, and this happening one week after my boyfriend broke up with me, and surgery in less than 48 hours is just so painful and overwhelming[/quote']

This decision is yours and the only person who needs to agree is yourself. I firmly believe positive thinking breeds positive things. Go in there Monday with the thought that your making a choice to change your life for the better and become a happier healthier person.

Sorry to hear that hun.. her support should not end because she disagree's with you. Just know, we are all here supporting you!!! I know it's not the same.. but we are all going through this process together. You are going to work hard.. and kick ass at this! show yhour ex bf.. you what can really become of you when you put your mind to something.. and show your mom she has nothing to worry about. **hugs to you**!! You got this girl!! I'll pray for a speedy recovery!! You are going to be awessssome!!

It's unfortunate we cannot pick our relatives. Surround yourself with positive people... You will be stronger for it,

As all the previous posters said, you got this and surrounding yourself w/ positive people is what you need to do. It sounds like you have had some toxic situations w/ the bf, family, etc. You are a grown woman and know what is right for you. Please don't let this discourage you. It isn't right that she is trying to guilt you or punish you.

Be strong, you have done the prep, done your research and came to this decision for yourself. Amazing many of the non-supporters are the ones that come around later after they see results....

Please find positive people to surround yourself with as Floridays said. We will get that Chicago area group of banders together so we can all be supportive of one another. Please fee free to PM anytime you would like to talk. I would be happy to listen.

You can do this!!! Hugs!!

Thank you so much for your kind words, they mean the world to me. You have empowered me, and I will start my day with strength and positivity in knowing I've made the right choice!!!

I am so sorry that you are having such a trying time. It's unfortunate that the ones we love the most hurt us the most sometimes! You can do this, you WILL do this! We are here for you!!! Hugs!!

I'm so sorry you feel alone in this. My husband is supportive of my procedure, but he did say I should be sure I'm doing this for myself and not him and he's right. Hopefully you will meet others that have had/are having weight loss surgery and can form a comraderie with them. I've already met a few people while sitting in the waiting room! Just exchange email addresses and keep in touch, plus attend some support groups and I'm sure you will find some folks to surround yourself with. This is a chance for you to prove those naysayers wrong! Let their negativity be your fuel to keep you motivated. Damn the torpedoes and full speed ahead!