I've lost 35 pounds since I had surgery on August 9th. I was very happy with my weight loss until I talked with a close friend who also had lapband done a few years ago. When she asked how much I had lost I said 35 lbs and she said oh ok, that's ok, someone else I know isn't really losing weight either... Now I feel like a failure... So is 35 lbs in 3 and a half months not a good weight loss? I just want to cry...

You are doing great! People can be so jealous and envious of someone else. I used to pay attention to everybody's comments but I have learned to choose whose opinion matters most and that would be "ME". I feel great with being banded and to goal for 4 years. I was a very slow loser so I know it can be discouraging to say the least but people like this are always trying to sabotage you so don't fall for it. I am uncomfortable when people say how much did you actually lose? I normally say I have lost the weight of two small children or one fat kid! This normally makes people laugh and they go about their business. I made up my mind early in the game that this was all about me! You are doing a great job, don't ever let anybody tell you different, even when things tend to slow down because in the end you will get all the weight off you want. Good luck and keep smiling.

As previously noted 1 to 2 pounds a week is what most doctors expect. Someone's start weight is also going to affect how quickly they lose. I have lost 100 pounds pre op so I've been a slower for loser. It also took me 6 months to get restrictions. Overall I average half pound a week or less at this point. Another thing to consider is activity level. Often people who do a lot of exercising lose faster. Even though I exercise 1 to 2 hours a day 7 days a week I'm still a slow loser.

I think your weight loss is great too but as Honk said what is your activity level? Do you exercise? Are you getting your fluid in? Are you getting your protein in? I found that those things are important to continued weight loss.

You are doing fine. Don't listen to others. There are people out there waiting to put a pin in your balloon.