I know this may sound morbid, but did anyone write letters to loved ones in case they died on the table? I am being banded on Thursday and I am struggling with this. I suppose I think that if I write letters I may be admitting that there is a chance I will croak.... Of course, if all goes well I will rip the letters up and no one will be the wiser. Any thoughts?

Darling, do you write a letter to a loved on everytime you ride in a car or walk out the door? Your chances of dying on the table are much less than being killed on the street.

You'll be fine, you just have the preop jitters, which is quite normal.

Here's a big hug, now focus on what you'll need when you return from the hospital, good luck.

I didn't write a letter but I made out a will! LOL

I wouldn't focus on something so morbid. I know surgery is scary, but you will do fine!!

Many people have. There was a similar thread on this not long ago. It helps some people feel like everything is in order in case the worst possible scenario becomes a reality. If it makes you feel better, write your letters. But I agree with HarleyNana, chances are very slim that you won't return safe and um.. sore from surgery.

*hugs* Hang in there, you'll be fine.

good answer harly nana

I wrote one to my daughter .. just in case and showed my husband where to find it should anything happen. It made me feel more at peace w/ the surgery, but perhaps that's just me.

I wrote letters, bought a large life insurance policy, made out my will as well as my living will. I didn't want my husband to struggle with anything decision wise or financially if god forbis anything happened to me. The letters were to my 2 boys, a whole slew of them, for special occasions like graduation, marriage, birth of their first children etc.

I emailed DeLarla and gave her my phone # and asked her to check up on me if I didn't come back to this website. Looking back I was SOOO freaked out because I had never had surgery but it was seriously no big deal. I came out of the aneshtetic better than when I had a twilight sleep for a colonoscopy. I'm not scared of surgery anymore, and NOONE has ever died in band surgery. I think a few people have died of complications but it's just times like the surgeon nicked thier stomach and they had problems but didn't go back for follow up. Point is, everything will be fine, and if something doesn't feel right afterwards, call your doc! Anyways, you'll be fine!!!!