Guys I cheated I had a grilled cheese and tomato with ONION rings what the hell was I thinking?!!? The whole time I'm thinkin I shouldn't be eatin this but I couldn't control the urge to eat somethin bad! I've done so good since my surgery in February and now I feel I just ruined everything and I feel gross an fatter than pre op. should I jut exercise more today? Maybe smaller dinner tonight? I know everyone cheats once a while but i haven't and I'm feeling kinda depressed. Losing control is a horrible feeling especially after having surgery to help lose weight yet I stuff my face with greasy onion rings wtf??? Any words of wisdom thnx in advance

You're human and sometimes you're going to give in and splurge. Don't beat yourself up over it!

Once a month I allow myself one splurge meal of whatever I want. I don't count calories and I don't care how "bad" it is for me. I have done this monthly since I was back on solid foods after being banded and I honestly think it's helped. I don't feel deprived and because I'm allowing it I don't feel guilty either.

You're doing great, don't let one meal mess with your head

Don't beat yourself up over it. It happens. Just pick yourself up and get back on the program. Just be more careful in the future. You'll be just fine!

My patient advocate at my Dr office told me that when he had the surgery he decided he was done with dieting. He was just going to eat small amounts and follow the rules. He said there is no meal off limits (unless it gets stuck), he just eats small abouts that fit into the rules and makes the majority of all his meals healthy. If he slowed in weight loss he made adjustments. I would not look at it as a cheat. Just adjust and move on.

I tend to follow his advice. I dont want to diet anymore, I just want to eat way less and make healthier choices. I am tired of the mental game I have played my whole life.

Amen to all that has been said. I've always believed in a free day............I mean, we have to live this way, it's not a 6 mos.diet! I always find when I hv my free meal, it is not so good as I remember and the forbidden fruit allure is gone! Don't sweat the small stuff. Plan for a weak moment and move on!

I follow Heidi Klum's (look at her body and after three kids) diet plan: follow your diet plan 6 days a week then on Sunday eat whatever you want. Studies have soon that when you follow a very strict and restrictive diet plan when you cheat you cheat bigger than those who give into to their carvings in small amounts. Meaning if you eat that small piece of chocolate when you really want it, it will prevent you from eating the entire bag later. This works for me. Don't beat yourself up. If you wanted to be only follow your diet perfectly well don't you want to occasionally enjoy your food and eat what you really love?

I agree with sam3841, I have done this and has worked for me so far. I also found that when I plateau I can replace one meal with a cappuccino protein shake and a small banana and it jumps starts my weight loss again. Don't beat yourself up and good luck!

Wow thanks every one you made me feel a lot better! Your right I shouldn't be so hard on myself and maybe once a week eat a small amount of something kind of bad. I just wana succeed and be healthy and I was discouraged I couldn't turn down onion rings and I don't even like onion rings?? Lol your so right I'm only human and it's back on track tomoro! So thankful for this site I don't have anyone to talk to bout this so all your words helped a lot

I'm glad you are feeling better. My dietician also wants me to look at this as a lifestyle change and not as a diet. I've embraced that idea and don't feel deprived or guilty if I allow myself to indulge, although I do not indulge all of the time. I also try to practice mindful eating instead of zoning out and eating like a crazy person.

We did not learn our eating habits in two months and we are surely not going to change them in that time. Next time