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Weird Reactions From Friends

I had my band surgery April 15 of last year. I have been very successful, I have lost 80 pounds of the 100 pounds that I needed to lose. I have been so happy and been feeling so good about my self. I have two good friends that seem to be trying to bring me down. (one is thin and one is heavy) I am starting to think I am crazy. Has anyone had weird reactions from friends after their success?

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  • I bet your heavy friend is jealous she never got it done and your thin friend is jealous cos she wont be the only thin one around

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    Hey, I was banded just two days before you! Friends don't always know how to cope when we make such major changes in our lives, especially when you have been as successful as you have. Generally spe

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I bet your heavy friend is jealous she never got it done and your thin friend is jealous cos she wont be the only thin one around :)

I've had nothing but support from my friends and family..it's a shame they can't just be happy for you and not try to bring you down...what is with people? What kinds of things are they saying?

Hey, I was banded just two days before you! Friends don't always know how to cope when we make such major changes in our lives, especially when you have been as successful as you have.

Generally speaking my friends are wonderfully supportive, although several have now started telling me to stop losing and not lose any more weight. What the?!??! I am still obese, no longer morbidly obese. Wonder why none of them ever told me to stop gaining weight. LOL.

I guess it's just that big change I have made and they think they are being supportive. Give them the benefit of the doubt and they won't be able to drag me down,

the heavy one is jealous of you and the thin one fears you...... heavy is wanting what you have done, she probably is telling you that you made the wrong choice in WLS, but deep inside she wants it sooooo bad it's eating her up in side. The thin one was the "skinny-girl" in the group and got all the attention.... now that you are thinner you are stealing her thunder.... and she is not the only skinny-girl in the group any more and because you are feeling better about your self.... your confidence is radiating and men love a confidant woman. They are drawn to you like bees to honey...

If they are good friend and YOU choose to keep them as such, i would have a one on one chat with each and tell them up front how you are feeling and that there friendship means a great deal to you.... but you will not be subjected to the way they are making you feel. Surround yourself with positive people.

Best of luck ...... happy shrinking..

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