Hi All,

I am obviously new here. I have been lurking here since I began thinking about the surgery about 6 months ago.. Now that my surgery is nearing ( dec. 7th) I've decided to join. So here I am.

I just told my mom last night and she hung up on me. I am just looking for support from people that understand. This is a brand new journey for me. I've been fat all my life and never had a problem with it. I've been avid in the plus size acceptance community for my entire life and I have been plus size modeling for over 10 years. I've teetered around 250-260 for most of my adult life. And I was comfy there. After a really bad break up I blew up to 295 and I am not happy with that.

It's time to make a change and this is the time to do it. Since so much of my life has been tied up in being a big girl that its a bit scary to think of anything else. My goal is to get to a size 12 so I'm not leaving my plus size fam totally but it's still daunting.

There your are. I've spilled my guts. And by the way, hello.

my mom was skeptical at first and afraid of me going under surgery. but she came to realize this was something that would help me become healthier in the end and that was most important. hope she turns around, maybe explain to her why or send her some research on the surgery. good luck.

Welcome and best of luck. Hopefully your mum will realise that you have made this tough decision for your own good health. But even if she doesn't, don't let her sabotage you or cause other issues for you. Be strong and enjoy the success that will come.