Last night I had my husband take my pre op pics, to look back on my surgery is scheduled for Nov 7th, I saw the pics and almost started crying, wow is all can say,254 pds really,really,SMH, Idk if I can even blame it on the 5 children I had.. oldest 20 youngest 13months...

All I can say is pics dont lie....

Don't be so hard on yourself. You are making the best decisions you can right now to be sure you will be there for your kids in the long run.

I weigh 20lbs more and have never given birth. I'm young - and I have no excuses.

The most important thing is that you focus on the future - good luck and take a moment to be proud of yourself!

I had surgery 4-29-10. I was 250 pounds and I also have given birth 5 times. I know how overwhelming this whole process can be, but you will be ok. In fact a year from now you will be amazing. Healthy, more energy, and looking fab. A year goes by so fast. When I was where you are, I did not think I would ever get here. Take it one day at a time.

@ Stacey when did u have your surgery??

@beachcitygirl how much have you lost so far???

And thank you both for the words of encouragement.

I'm having my hubby take mine tonight. My surgery is in the a.m. so figure better get it done now.

Good luck, let me know how it goes..

Last night I had my husband take my pre op pics, to look back on my surgery is scheduled for Nov 7th, I saw the pics and almost started crying, wow is all can say,254 pds really,really,SMH, Idk if I can even blame it on the 5 children I had.. oldest 20 youngest 13months...

All I can say is pics dont lie....

Only give yourself words of encouragement and love; never deride yourself, it serves no purpose. I have noticed that prejudice against those who are overweight is the only openly accepted form of prejudice no matter what race or gender you are. Although, I have noticed that women get more flack about being overweight then men do. However, if we are to change the way society sees people of any size we have to start with ourselves and reflect that attitude onto our children. My mother and I are both obese but so far my daughter is at a perfect weight and she has made some comments about Gramma being heavy and me having a big butt. I have told her that even if she thinks it is true, to never say it to anyone for it might hurt their feelings. I have also told her that everyone is beautiful just because they are human. You can be one of the most beautiful people, by society's standards, and have the ugliest soul.

I don't plan to take my pre-op picture until the day before my surgery. I am scheduled for October 17th! woohoo!