Have you ever felt brushed off by your spouse or SO? I'm not a needy person, I was raised to be very independent. But that being said, I am married to the military (we were high school sweethearts) we have 3 small kids, and I haven't been able to work much or for long periods of time b/c we've moved around so much. He got back from his 2nd deployment in November, a week b4 my surgery. He's stationed in Ga. I moved back home (Alabama) during his last deployment b/c of some family issues, as well as we thought we would be getting divorced when he got back. (He was talking to another woman and I found out. I said I wasn't going to go through that again..... but I changed my mind. I really do love him with all of my heart.) But this past week I found an email to the girl dated Jan 3rd. It didn't say anything bad, but he promised to stop contacting her back in September. And then on his friend's facebook, his friend had asked her when she was going to get up with him and my hubby..... (Hubby says he didn't know anything about either situation.) Anyways, I texted him a couple of times this morning and never got a response so a couple of hours later I called him. He answered but didn't really say anything. I tried to tell him how I was sad and missing him, but he didn't say anything. And then he said he was about to drive back to his room and we hung up. I felt even more alone and sad. I'm not good at expressing my feelings. In the past I would have just put on an old movie and pigged out until I didn't think about it anymore. I don't want to do that anymore, and I don't think I could even if I did want to. I'm not sure how I'm suppose to deal with these feelings. UGH. Idk what to think, he gets out in August. I'm trying to just hold out until then and I'm praying everything will be great once he's out and is back home. ..... Am I crazy to hope this??

That must be really hard. Does he normally not really say much? If he promised not to talk to her and he still is, that's a red flag. I'm speaking from experience and I've learned your gut feeling is usually correct. Has anything changed? I see you posted this some time ago.

It's gotten somewhat better. Idk if he is talking to her still or not... he deleted that e-mail account. I use to check ohone records... but being military strange numbers show up all the time... so idk. We only see each other twice a month... this last time he camped out with the kids the first night, and the second night he was too tired and his back hurt too bad to be intimate But he's always been either hot or cold when it came to that department.

My husband tends to be that typical "chameleon" guy who acts just like the group he's with is acting. And sometimes that worries me... cause he tends to choose the young single guys to hang out with. I told him that I'm uncortable with this... but I'm not about to tell him who he can and can't be friends with. Esp when they have a serious bond from being deployed together. .... It just stinks being apart all the time...