Well, guys, 4 weeks before my surgery, I started dating the nicest guy ever. We met about 9 months ago but finally we both had a schedule that meshed enough to start spending time together, and it's been a blast so far! We've only been out on two dates so far, but I'm hoping to keep seeing him.

My question is...since I'm having such a life-changing surgery on the 23rd, SHOULD I tell him about it? Don't I owe it to him since I'll be out of commission for a week or two afterward? I'm so confused, and NERVOUS about telling him. He's pretty laid back but I have no idea how he feels about weight loss surgery... and as I've had a bit of a bad reaction from some of the friends I've told, I'm even more nervous about telling a guy I actually like.

Does anyone have any experience with this?!

It'd be kind of hard to explain why I wouldn't be able to see him for 2 weeks or so. So that's why I chose to, Elfie. Plus, I actually like the guy, having a secret banded life just isn't for everyone, I suppose.

It'd be kind of hard to explain why I wouldn't be able to see him for 2 weeks or so. So that's why I chose to, Ellie. Plus, I actually like the guy, having a secret banded life just isn't for everyone, I suppose.

I would've just told him that I was going into the hospital for a minor procedure...no details. If at some point, it became serious...that's soon enough to tell him.

I think perhaps he freaked because it was 'too much, soon'.

.

From what he said, it was more, he's heard bad things about WLS, but he was thinking I was getting gastric bypass. Once I told him about lapband that put his mind at easy to where now he's completely supportive. I agree it probably was too much too soon, though. I was thinking I should have approached it in a different way than I did though. Too late to take it back now, though.