So, my husband confesses to me today that his parents know about my surgery. I didn't want them to know because in the past they have made nasty comments about my weight and they're the type that would watch everything I eat and make snarky comments. He also has a sister that revels in showing how thin she is compared to me. (I could go on and on about the comments but won't because then I will start crying)

Turns out my mom slipped and mentioned something about my procedure to them. She just said "Yea they found a hernia too". Well, I told them I was having hernia surgery. So, his dad asks him why he's lying to him and to fess up. So, he does. He tells them. And he doesn't understand why I'm upset.

I've cried since he told me. (About 2 hours ago) These were people I did NOT want to know. So I asked him "Well, will they tell your sister" and he's like "I don't know".

And now he's mad at me for being upset about it.

I just had to come here and vent for a second. I'm hurt, upset and distraught. Now, they'll be watching every single thing I eat.

Has anyone else dealt with this type of situation? I just want to put my head under the blankets and sob right now. I feel like he betrayed me. And to make matters worse, this was TUESDAY and he's just telling me TODAY.

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Heartbroken...

Everyone will probably hate me for this...but let me be the devil's advocate here. If things actually went down the way your husband said.....then it was actually your mother who slipped up (and innociently by the sounds of it). I think your husband may be taking a little too much heat on this. You asked him to keep a secret for you from his family, but when directly confronted by his father.....did you expect him to lie to his face? You put him in a rough spot of keeping your confidence or lying to his dad. Now if he had time to think it out, perhaps he might of said "I don't have the liberty to discuss it with you.....she has decided to keep her medical proceedure confidential". Sometimes when we are directly confronted, we react and don't have time to think things out. They indeed sound like unpleasent people.....but maybe they were thinking the worst like you had cancer or something else bad God forbid. These issues are all too common with in-laws, use this as an opportunity to open up a dialog with your husband on how hurtful his family's comments have been in the past. If you stay angry with your husband then you are just allowing his family drive a wedge between the 2 of you. Be strong.....you are a beautiful woman.....you can rise above their petty, critical attitudes.