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Sometimes I still want to blame my parents for the types of food (all bad, all lard, all fat and processed) they fed us, but hey, it was the 60's and 70's and they didn't know any better and heck, I've been an adult for 30+ years now and able to make my own choices. But yeah, definitely, if I had kids (which I don't) I would teach them how to eat healthy

Some fantastic sirloin from the grill. Fed the last bite to my husband so I could eat a couple Brussels sprouts. Impressed myself with my ability to eyeball 2 ounces.

Glad to hear I’m not the only one. Today was hectic and didn’t get my usual 50-70 protein. I thought it might be bc of that. 🤷‍♀️ I feel fine otherwise. Definitely going to get an electric blanket or two. Lol The women at my job blast the a/c all day. I can usually tolerate it...not today. Best to you all! ❤️

OK, was on Day 13 of pre-op diet when I changed dr's. Had 2 or 3 days off...and back onto pre-op diet. By time surgery date comes around, I'll have been 'pre-op'ing for 30+ days. WHY is it harder this first week of starting again...than the ENTIRE 13 days I had been on it before. I was never as hungry as I am now even though I'm following same pre-op. I am not having the 1 lb a day loss I was having during my first pre-op attempt. Is it my body resisting me playing starvation games already...or maybe my mental mindset? Probably both. Trying to think, within the bounds of the pre-op items I'm allowed, if I can come up with some happier combination where I won't feel within an hour the deep growling, grumbling and that sick/nauseated feeling you get when you haven't eaten. My mind and/or body thinks it is not getting ANYTHING. I'm guess I'm surprised that I"m struggling already on just...Day 7 or 8 of my 2nd pre-op diet. The Premier shakes that usually always keep hunger at bay are not working, sugar free popsicles and jello...my body has its 'BS detector' out in full force...I think it literally just laughs when I desperately grab them from my fridge/freezer...like 'Yeah, right...not having it..nope...give me some REAL food'. I had done Keto for 15 months prior to mid-June when 1st pre-op started so I don't think I'm detoxing, etc. And I work such long hrs that I have often relied on Premier Protein drinks to keep me satisfied for HOURS upon HOURS. I even tried some Bariatric Fusion bars my dr's office uses...nope. The soup I ordered from bariatricpal isn't cutting it for more than an hour and it has always been very satisfying..plus it tastes good..but tummy still not happy (tummy going to be REALLY unhappy on 7/25..lol). I will say the Cocoa Variety pack from bariatricpal is the ONE thing that literally seems to make my stomach happy this time around still! @Alex Brecher I ordered more boxes and am giving you a pass on harassing you about API's, etc. to resolve the auto-renewal items in 'cart' situation since you are still recovering from MAJOR DANG surgery! Besides, I gotta have more cocoa!! (and my point total will continue going higher which is GREAT!) Ideas anyone? So bizarre!!

I didn't feel like dealing with ANY negativity or judgement pre- op. I wanted to go in positive and strong. My surgery was last week July 3. Eventually, as I see people I may tell them- but I'll be stronger and more confident to deal with any bs thrown my way [emoji4] Sent from my SM-N960U using BariatricPal mobile app

Mine ended once liquids were over because liquids were BS

This is major surgery and the normal post surgery conditions will apply. Gas, sore throat, incision pain and stomach distress. I was very fatigued for several weeks as a result of the surgery and decreased caloric intake. Many people refuse pain medication but not me. I took it as directed and stayed agead of the pain and experienced very little discomfort. Your stomach will be very swollen for several weeks and uncomfortable. Sip very very slowly and wait between sips. You may feel some pain in your chest when you drink. Wait for it to pass. I found warm chicken broth the easiest to tolerate that first week. I did not stress out about meeting the fluid and protein requirements and just did the best I could. Three months out I still don't meet the recommended fluids but get close. The first week I was hormonal and doubted my decision but that passed in several days. I'm not going to lie. The 1st month is tough. Three months out I am 52 lbs down and feel great. A stall will happen but stay on course bc it will pass. It is all normal. The weight will not magically fall off 48 hrs after surgery. At this point I lose about half a lb daily and weigh twice a week. I am 67 yrs old and this surgery will extend my life. That was my purpose. Relax and just ride it out. The journey is worth it. Best of luck.

@BlueAngelEyes you need to switch therapists, one that understands and isn't biased against wls patients - ask your bariatric team for a recommendation. Hormones play a big part of your mental states right now, and this will jack with your perceptions and they will continue to bounce around during this process. Soon adding more exercise and getting better sleep will level these out. All of you are thinking you are deprived because you have made food events a large part of your lives and now it has to change. It just has to or you will not succeed. I am not trying to be negative here, but these changes need to be permanent or you will gain weight back. Early in this journey you will naturally lose because of the severe restriction and the honeymoon period, even if you eat non-nutritious food. You will think -' hey I ate my protein and I had some pizza and lost 8 pounds this week, this works'. Yes it does because of the honeymoon period. Don't let that be a slippery slope to indulge whenever you 'feel' like it - it's my brother's wedding, it's my friend's baby shower - I must celebrate. NO, not with the food - enjoy the gifts, the decorations, the party part - food is secondary. Everyone that has been obese is insulin resistent, and your body has spent years getting there. Some of you say you were healthy at 41BMI and I call BS. You were headed for diabetes and high blood pressure and sleep apnea, and compromising all your organs. The longer you keep grain carbs with no nutritional value and sugar out of your system the less you will crave them, and you will be free from this demon of ill health. I am not saying never, but build this early resolve to fix your health. You will be amazed, active, more energetic and happier. And wanting to look healthy and cute is not vain. Don't beat yourself up over wanting to look good - you will feel even better. Hang in there.

My bet is that it is! When you read labels it can be a shocker. What you always thought was Good For You isn't. That's why making items yourself is superior, you can control seasonings, and especially. sodium content. Did you even figure out why we have such horrid levels in commercial foods? It is so they will stay shelf- stable plus like carbohydrates we learned to ❤ them as babies or Toddlers, by the time kids start school their tastebuds are all screwed up, that's why they waste so much food in school lunchrooms, they are looking for Fritos, Potato chips, pretzels and soda pop. They same stuff we, as parents, fed them as a reward . Billy stop banging your sister' s head against the wall and we'll go to Micky D's. Do you want,to stop at Dairy Queen for ice cream after? Oh yeah, I was as bad as everyone else, but you get desperate to lower the screaming noise level to a muttered quieter level. And you do your best to keep them from annihilating each other! Isn't that being a GOOD PARENT?

I don’t have any answers unfortunately but I have the same insurance and ever since I got my sleeve, my GERD has gotten way worse. I’m kind of kicking myself for not doing the RNY so I’m considering a revision. I know in the Fed BCBS it says a revision has to be done within 2 years of the initial weight loss surgery though.

MY cycle has been super weird. 8 months out, I'm still not regular (although I wasn't regular before). My first period was about 6 weeks after surgery (so more than a month late), then another 6 weeks later, then 2 weeks, then 4 weeks, then 9 weeks. It may also be worth discussing BC with your surgeon and gyno - my doc said that BC may not absorb correctly after surgery.

Only an hour? Gosh I am lucky to get 15-22 ml in every 15 minutes, if I do nothing else while doing it. House doesn't get vacumned, dishes get washed, laundry done and folded. I am not out paying bills, visiting various doctors unless I carry a water bottle everywhere. And that looks worse than a 3 1/2 year old with a baby bottle! No my own kiddos didn't have THAT PROBLEM, they were breast-fed into training and other cups but in my large group of First and Second cousins there are many examples. My cousin Amy Dues grandson, I was starting to believe Logan would start kindergarten with an elongated tea cosy over Mr Bottle, his best friend! And there was Miranda Kane , his older sister that we would have to pop the Binkie out of her mouth before she got ready for Brownies. Really don't want to runnother people's lives, but Jeese-Wowee , that is a prolonged period of time! You think I am a comic? Meet some of the fruits,nuts and apples on My Family Tree, Jeff Foxworthy would say they are worse than REDNECKS, known most of them all my life and they still amaze ME!

BS? as in B*llSh*t? ...so you are getting your revision. This will address your GERD, so that's a good thing ♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️ Other than the green-tea-ban-heartbreak, you ok?

I'm back on my BS... Currently preop (including 2 week diet) so no coffee & titrating off all caffeine but... Green tea y'all 😭 whyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy

https://www.shespeaks.com/Bariatric-friendly-Baked-Ricotta-Recipe here’s the recipe. I think it is in recipes here too. I just went ahead and made it to get rid of the giant tub of ricotta. I had to 4x it bc I bought a 32 oz. so I now have 16 servings. The kids will eat it. Maybe husband too with some breadsticks or something. It tasted good but is very heavy. Eat it slow😉

And you seem to be more willing to undergo it all than he is to join in to it or even participate. A scrapbook is an excellent idea, be sure to take pictures and measure yourself all over, you will Never be that size again. I still cry, for I did not do it, I have no real point of reference, I have a picture of me at my highest weight when I am all wired up for my Sleep Apnea testing, one or 2 when I was so sick at my re-hospitalization, when they cut into my upper left arm and installed a PICC line so I could be fed 12 hours a day, to give my beleaguered GI system 3 month opportunity to heal its ulcers, and I was sickly bad looking. And then there is one from April when I had rotator cuff surgery, and fell 2 days later in parking lot at J&F Services turning in paperwork. BUT NOTHING from the wonderful Day of Days when my life changed, when I commited to a future of Better Health. Oh I was. in a State of Incredible Peace, oh I knew it was the right surgery for me, at the right time, with the best most wonderful surgeon, and for the right reasons. And if I haven't recovered perfectly, even if I don't know all the rest of my story, I regret not having my photo documentation- now I never can or will have it. Oh Life Does Go On, tedious as it can be but no pictures. OMG I am crying again, I still feel the bitter loss. And I do wish you success with your life, maybe you will end up friends if you no more can remain a 💑 couple. And keep us informed as it all unfolds, okay?

Oh yes waking up was the worst pain ever! Id say it was more painful than my c section recovery. I was crying and could hardly keep my eyes open and talk because of the pain was so bad. My husband kept saying to the nurse is this normal is she ok. No one told me all the BS. I didnt ask more questions i didnt know so much. The Docter said its minimally invasive surgery recovery goes by in a flash. I call BS! I regret everyday i had this surgery done. I hope to be one of the people on here that finally get to there goal and say it was the best thing they ever did. My fingers are crossed!

Am glad to hear this for you. I'm walking away from the dr I was going to go with as I became very uncomfortable with several things (there is a post on this). The other dr practice is now not getting any response to the request that was made to get my records days ago. Unfortunately, this is the type of behavior his office staff, one specific person pulls. Even when it was stuff THEY were to submit for me, they'd forget...they (one person) argued with me and CIGNA for TWO months - finally CIGNA and I were BOTH fed up, they called while I was at an appt with original surgeon and I took the policy in and had him look at the KEY PHRASE "has patient WITHIN the last 6 months...done xyz". Nowhere in it did Cigna's bariatric surgery policy say "patient must meet with a nutritionist every month for SIX consecutive months and if they miss one, they must start over". LITERALLY, this is what the med tech/insurance checker told me. She and I went around and around. The initial 3 to 5 times I tried talking to her, I was alway polite and professional. Guess what, she bulldozed over me in every conversation. Finally told me with great exasperation that I needed to quit calling Cigna as I was getting things confused!!! I finally played hard ball and was ready to walk away if the DOCTOR did not force them to push the paperwork through. Like "magic", they put the paperwork through..a few days later of course. It got immediate approval. When I went to my next appt, the med tech was so rude and hateful to me, I couldn't wait to get out of there. I stupidly didn't say anything to surgeon as she has worked for him for yrs and with my luck, she was a relative, niece, daughter in law. I had PLANNED to have a frank discussion with him AFTER surgery on 7/1. Well, since then they dropped the ball on a few more things, I found out the name of the anesthesia partner's name that my dr. uses and looked at their reviews...they were NOT GOOD! Frustr8 will tell you, my gut had been telling me I need to walk away...so with what..7 days left until surgery, I met with another dr. I liked him very much but most importantly, he made more sense, he has more surgeries (by the 1000's under his belt) his anesthesia partner checks out with good reviews, his office staff was NICE! VERY NICE! My original dr's staff has left me in tears over the phone (didn't let her know) at least 2 times. My dr. wrote my coumadin to lovenox bridging instructions on a sticky note and gave it to me. I took it up front and gave to his staff expecting them to type something up..nope, they handed it back. It was my husband who actually pointed out how crazy that was. I have thrown clots (PE's) after surgery just LAST year from inaccurate amounts of Lovenox for the bridging (bridging means getting off a major blood thinner like Coumadin and on to something like Lovenox which presents less chance for huge bleeding risks during surgery. So it is critical for my life and health to have those instructions documented on a dr's office papers...by him. All I had was this sticky. Now though, things are feeling even worse. My original dr's office is not responding at all to the request to transfer my records. I fear, like they have before, that they are going to fight me all the way. I've already looked up that I will have to send a certified letter..and they have FIFTEEN days to comply. OMG, I cannot believe it has come to this. I warned the new dr that I was so afraid about what they would do and he was like "no, we'll get the paperwork". Well, his main surgery coordinator just emailed me asking me to try to intervene!! It's FRIDAY NIGHT! This is so wrong...but after trying for 15-18 months to do everything right....I feel like I should have just let the original dr. operate. I'm so completely freaked out now..

Hello people! I'm 4 years out from RNY, lost 35 pounds total (non compliance) and am very, very eager to start over. My hubby is going to go on the South Beach Diet (prescribed by Surgeon) WITH me, so support, support, support. ❤️ We've started to eat better already, but for financial bs that will be resolved on July 3, we will be starting full on that day. So, I'm refreshing up on what I'm to do as a WLS patient. I haven't seen my surgeon in years due to, 1. Financial inability, 2. Shame, and 3. He had said some awful things about my various severe mental health issues that exacerbated the issues. I'm in very active psychotherapy. But, I will go back when I can come up with the money. I can't make up money that I don't/won't have. But anyway. I have a question, let me set it up. For years, I've been eating, drinking and consuming an average persons amount of food with no problems. On many occasions I filled my stomach with larger amounts of food that an RNY should not have held. I seriously want to eat bariatric portions now. If my stomach accepted volumes of food above the amount they/and you say should not fit, will a bariatric portion be enough? Or have I stretched my stomach. I've heard both sides on stretching pouches, don't know what to believe as to if that actually happens long term. And, I'm not convinced about the so called Pouch Reset. Can or should I revert to bariatric portions given this history? Is it still possible for me, at 308 to shoot for losing over 150 pounds if I do all the right things, or have I ruined that possibility? I am, for many reasons, chair bound most of the time except for my one day a week security officer job. We are joining the YMCA (pool) for "self physical therapy". Several docs working on my physical issues to get me mobile. I MUST lose a lot of weight in adjunct to surgeries, orthopedic devices and medication to get less painfully mobile. Any comments? Please, no hostility.

Are you planning on doing 90 day fiancé? Bc in my experience you don’t really get to see someone and their true colors until weeks or months into dating sometimes. To exclude SO many “imperfect” people before you even know them seems pretty high maintenance. Just being honest. I think maybe looking for love at a support group isn’t a terrible idea.

This is another of those "it's anybody's guess" things. There is a different Blue Cross organization for each state, and they will all vary on their coverage details depending upon local market conditions and state laws. Then there is a difference between individual plans, ObamaCare plans and employer provided plans - all of which can vary depending upon what options the employer chooses to buy. Some plans don't cover WLS at all (even if they did in the past) while others limit the benefit to only one WLS per lifetime. Muddying the waters further, if the revision you seek is due to complications of a previously covered surgery, then it is not a WLS procedure but is treating that complication (it sounds like it to me, but it isn't my decision.) There should be policy bulletin for your BC policy online that spells out what applies to your policy - what they cover or exclude as relates to WLS. You can call their number, but don't take their answer as the last word, as the customer service reps have been known to be wrong. When you find a surgeon to handle your case, their insurance coordinator should be able to tell you exactly what your policy covers, as it is their job to know the lingo and understand all of that fine print. I understand that some surgeons are averse to working on other surgeon's patients (fixing others' mistakes...) but that is not an exclusive thing. One of the docs that I associate with (he runs out support group now) does a fair number of RNY to DS conversions, which as he doesn't ordinarily do RNYs, means that he is fixing other's mistakes (as well as fixing wonky sleeves that others have left behind) so they are out there - you just have to look. Thinking about that a bit more, if a surgeon doesn't want to revise other's patients, then he is either making a lot of mistakes himself that need revising, or he isn't very experienced in doing revisions, so you are better off searching for someone else. Good luck,,,,

I am really getting fed up with my lack of weight loss. I get it's normal at 3 weeks out but I lost 13 pounds in 10 days then 2 pounds in the next week and 1 pound over the last week. I haven't lost any inches for over a week now. I feel the same guilt and shame I've always felt dieting when people would tell me that spinach and bell pepper was causing me to stall because they have a sweet taste or I must be eating more than I think or sleep eating. People always insist that's it's just a simple matter of calories and that heavy people could just be thin if we eat less. Except the last few weeks have shown me that is such a bunch of bs. I really hope I start having some steady weight loss soon.

Do you have diabetes? That can make you thirsty. After surgery they told me not to take any insulin or medication, my bs was just too high still and I had to start taking my one pill and insulin at night, although much less. Now I just take 20 units at night. Anyway, I would check with your surgeons office. Good luck!

Omg I am schedule to have surgery this Friday June 28th and I am still asking myself if I should get this surgery done bc I don't have my medical conditions but just fighting with my weight my whole life losing gaining like yoyo did you have your surgery already how do you feel? Sent from my SM-N960U using BariatricPal mobile app

Hiya it's Frustr8, Pride of September 5th 2018, yeah still a SUMMER SWEET SUCCESS! Many trials, tribulations, bumps and bruises later, reporting in! He 365+ SurgiWeight 319 currently 198.9, yep just broke into Onderland. Highest dress size 28-30W, currently sliding from 20 into 18-teens, Yep leaving Plus sizes behind ----FOREVER AND EVER! Still have my stoma stricture, my jejuneal ulcerations, was on PICC line for 3 months, being fed TPN 12 hours a day, but last EGJ pretty favorable, I have only had 13 lifetime, I am 90% healed , maybe I will be off of pureed and soups soon. But life is still pretty good for me, never going to regret RNY and for 73 I'm not doing all that Bad. Still finding little body defects but nothing unhandled-able. MY TESTS HAVE A " By The Way" to almost every one, but what the Hey, I'm still red-headed , alive and kicking. Don't rule me out, I'm still successful and will have my Final Victory!