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I am beyond frustrated. Bypass 1/14/20 highest weight: 276lbs surgery weight: 248lbs current weight: 214lbs I have not lost a single pound or inch in TWO stinking months. I have changed my habits so much, I’ve increased my exercise. I’m now walking 3 times a day and putting in a total of almost 4 miles a day. I’m getting at least 80 grams of protein a day. At least 100 oz of water a day. My daily carb intake stays below 90 grams a day. My daily fat intake stays below 60 grams a day. I stay completely away from sugar. I swapped all the fruit I eat in a day with vegetables. I’m just at a loss. I’ve stayed away from the scale for two weeks and still nothing. I feel broken and like I’m a rare case that the surgery just doesn’t work for me. I’m at a loss.

I want to weigh in here. Pun intended. I am new to the bypass but had a sleeve done in 2013 so I know a lot more than a typical newbie. There is a thing I lovingly refer to as “the dreaded 3 week stall”. It happens to almost everyone. It starts at 3 weeks and can last one or a few weeks. It might feel like a big deal but it just happens. It’s because of the shock to your system, eating so few calories, starvation mode, blah blah blah. I’m sure you have all heard that stuff before. IT WILL PASS! Just keep doing what you’re doing and one day you will wake up and like 6lbs will be gone. No worries. It’s all good. Keep up the good work!!

I’m new to the bypass but not to Bariatric surgery as I had a sleeve in 2013. I would like to reiterate. You are not really hungry. Neither am I and I have to keep reminding myself of that 2 weeks out. It’s head hunger. You’re used to it and there is food everywhere on TV. Try to do something else. TV is the worst. Literally everything is about food. Go for a walk or get on the treadmill or the elliptical or just something. I’ve been coloring in my swirlie coloring book. It keeps me occupied. Just do something else. It’s a really hard habit to break because most of us have eaten for boredom or comfort our whole lives but that time is done now. You’ve got this! Just do something else to get your mind off of it.

Sorry for the tmi. I'm 11 days post op from a one anastomosis gastric bypass and have just managed to go to the bathroom for the first time since the morning of surgery. Is it normal for there to be a significant amount of dark blood the first time you go? I read up that it could be old blood in the intestinal tract from the surgery but it could be a staple leak or bleed internally too? I don't have pain or any symptoms, such as fever or difficulty eating/drinking so I'd like to know if it's common before I call my surgeon's emergency line tonight? Thsnk you ❤

Perfect! Then I’m happy. I’m down another pound this morning so that’s good. My surgeon actually told me weightloss will be just as fast with the revision. He may be basing that off the ridiculous success I had with my sleeve because they were NOT expecting me to lose more than 100% of my excess body weight. I looked and felt incredible. Too bad I couldn’t keep it off. Oh well. I am bound and determined to do it right this time!! I won’t get another do-over.

weight loss is typically slower with revisions than it is with original surgeries, but 13 lbs in two weeks is a lot even for an original surgery - and especially given your low starting BMI.

most surgeons will recommend bypass if you've had issues with GERD. It will get worse with the sleeve about 30% of the time - so whether or not it will for you is kind of a crap shoot. I had GERD and was warned - so I went with bypass. I did not want to risk it getting any worse. your surgeon will advise you on which way he/she thinks you should go based on your specific health conditions, but I don't think most would refuse to do surgery A or surgery B if you were insisting on it. But I would be careful with the GERD factor. I've been on this and other bariatric forums for several years and have seen a lot of people have to revise due to GERD. It may not happen to you - but there's no way to know that ahead of time. also, malabsorption typically isn't a problem if you stay on top of your supplements. You'll have to take supplements with the sleeve as well.

I always wonder about the people writing about "brimming with energy" 3 weeks after WLS. Well, not this gal here... How much food the pouch can comfortably hold is depending on the patient (e. g. did they a pouch/sleeve-resizing or not, how much swelling is still around) and what you put into the pouch. I can eat way more than 0.5 cup. I'm 4 weeks out of revision from MGB to RNY. I'm always surprised how little other patients seem to be able to eat or drink. Totally normal. You're putting food weight into your system again. Revision weight loss is said to be much slower. You're also at a relatively low BMI of 32 - I wouldn't expect quicker weight loss.

If you already researched the heck out of the web I'm sure you're well aware of what is a realistic expectation in regards to success and "failure" and complication rates. Mortality is rather low in the peri-operative period (usually 30 days) but that doesn't mean there is none. Make sure you choose a surgeon and treatment center with experience. That's your best bet. Fact is that there can be issues that only show several years later: osteopenia/osteoporosis, addiction to substances like alcohol or cigarettes etc., vitamin deficiency or anemia and the like. A lot of this is dependent on the patient's behavior, e. g. did the patient take the necessary amount of vitamins or not? In the end nobody really knows 100% what happens in this black box called "metabolism". We also don't know 100% how WLS interferes with this black box. Fact is that RNY-bypass is around since a whole while and that gastrectomies for other reasons (e. g. ulcers, cancer) are around even longer. There is no guarantee that you will reach and maintain a normal weight or reach and maintain a normal weight without too many struggles that make your life miserable. There is also no guarantee that you won't have medical issues down the road. However, when you'd ask people if they'd do it all again - many would say "YES!" without having to give it a second thought.

1. First of all, don't let their opinions make you falter. Yes, some people DO fail. However, most of the time that can be traced back to them getting back into bad eating habits... i.e fast food, drinking soda again, eating cake, cookies, ice cream, and massive amounts of bread and pasta. And statistically ANY surgery can cause nerve damage not just weight loss surgery. It depends a lot on your own body, how many other prior surgeries you've had, if you have nerve disorders like different types of neuralgia, Fibromyalgia, etc. 2. I read up on statistics when deciding on my surgery and Gastric Bypass has a 0.14% chance of mortality in the operating room (essentially 1 in every 1000 people), 1% in the first 30 days and 6% in five years. However, you have to think about the fact that many of us have been overweight for a very long time and it takes a toll on our bodies which is likely the reason for the 6%. Some people just waited too long to do anything about it. Avoid NSAIDS like the plague though because once you have Gastric Bypass that causes massive bleeding and you'll land yourself in the hospital. No ibuprofen or asprin for you! (though you likely already know this lol) And I TOTALLY understand the facial pain! I have TN (trigeminal neuralgia) and it was misdiagnosed for YEARS which means it didn't get the proper treatment and led to it getting worse and worse until I was in constant pain for MONTHS! I couldn't sleep, couldn't eat, couldn't talk because of the sheer amount of pain I was in and I would cry myself dry. I was exhausted, in agony, miserable and desperate to find an end to the pain. I would literally go to work and cry while I worked. I had brain surgery in 2017 and it had a similar mortality rate to the GB surgery and had some other rare complications and even some common ones. I was at peace with whatever happened. If I was one of the rare 1 in 1000 that died then it'd be an end to the pain, if I was one of the other 999 people then I had a 95% chance that the surgery would work for me and a 5% chance that it'd do nothing to help me. Even then, I knew it was just a temporary solution since TN has no cure. And it did work. For two years. The pain came back last year, but the surgery is amazing in the fact that it's kept the most debilitating type 1 pain away. I have atypical TN (which is apparently rare) and have had both type 1 and type 2 pain. I had the surgery because the type 1 pain is like being stabbed repeatedly in the face with a scalding hot poker where it twists and twists and twists and then repeats. When I have flares I only suffer from the type 2 pains now and hope that the type 1 never comes back! Also, I haven't had a flare since August! I hope that everything goes well for you in your surgery and I hope they can eventually figure out what's causing your other health issues so that you can get the necessary treatment without those issues getting worse. I wish you the best!

I think you're doing well! I also revised from sleeve to bypass a week before you did, and I've only lost 10 pounds in three weeks. But I'm not worried. I feel good (except for the constipation (!)), have a lot of energy, and can see the difference in my face, my collarbones (they've magically re-appeared!), and the way my clothes fit. Next week will time for my monthly measurements, so I'm sure I'll see a lot of progress there too. As for food, I can also eat about 1/2 cup of food, but unless it's a puree or liquid (like soup), I'm trying to make it less than that in one serving. I've been on soft foods for the past week, so I'm much more conscious of what I'm eating and how it will affect me. So far, so good - no issues with anything I've tried.

Hello. I've posted once before and since then, I've started my journey with the bariatric surgeon and all courses/time/insurance met-I'll be getting gastric bypass in a few months. (Or whenever COVId decide I can.) At first I was super pumped-I did a ton of research, watched youtube videos, made pros and cons list, researched surgeons and selected the best and most reputable one out of the 3 I visited (although I researched more), have accepted the reality of the situation and that I'll be needing to put more work into this after than I did before...all of which I'm comfortable and excited about. I feel like now is the time to do it. I can keep fooling myself that "someday I'll lose the weight" but I know it's not going to happen without a push, for both psychological and physical factors that are holding me back. Still-I feel very scared. It's as if now that I know that I *can* have it, I'm apprehensive and it's making me anxious. Any thoughts on the following subjects would be appreciated: 1. I'm sick of everyone giving their unsolicited opinion and telling me how "dangerous" and "negative" this is. I feel outnumbered. I keep hearing about how "so and so I know had it and it failed" and even a doctor I saw told me he "has had patients who got nerve damage from the surgery " and "if I just eat better I can lose any weight I need to". It's a serious buzzkill and frankly, none of their business. Any suggestions on how to handle this or some reassurance that these negative experiences aren't as common as these people are making it seem? Or does it happen that often and I'm pulling the wool over my own eyes? 2. I'm scared to death of...death. It's not so much the surgery itself, which I'm not oblivious to but it's more logical, but I have some other health issues like a lot of neck pain, facial pain, tingling, etc. I've had a billion imaging tests and they can't find anything so I'm trying to move on and be a healthier person, but have this tiny part of me that is scared of some, IDK, "rare unlying issue" that if I got gastric bypass, would somehow end up worse or kill me. Is GB ok to have with comorbidities? Would it still be safe to have if I say, had neck instability or something weird like that? I also read that the morbidity rate is super low, but it's "within the first year". Does that mean I could be seemingly ok and then someone happens with my body I'm not aware of or something on a cellular level would end my life? Any help on these slightly anxiety-induced questions would be appreciated. Thanks for letting me ramble.

Hello everyone. I’m a newbie but not completely new. I had a sleeve in 2013 and lost 118lbs. I regained 70 so I revised to bypass on 3/11. I’m 2 weeks out today and things seem to be going really well. I haven’t had any vomiting or discomfort really of any kind with my pouch. The worst part has been the pain from the procedure. I’m starting to feel more like myself now but I’m still really weak and tired. I’m able to eat about a half cup of food at this point. So I’m wondering, is that normal? How much should I be able to eat right now? I feel like 1/2 cup is a lot. Also, I’ve lost 13lbs and then regained 2 when I started purées. I do know that with a sleeve there is “the dreaded 3 week stall” and I assume it’s the same with the bypass so I’m ready for it. But just wondering, is 13lbs normal at this stage? With my sleeve I lost 21lbs in the first 2 weeks. I’m thinking that is a lot and 13 is good but just wanted to check. Thanks in advance for any feedback I get. It’s much appreciated!!

We are almost surgery twins too! I was the 11th, also down 17 pounds! And today is my first food, for lunch I will have 2 oz of ground turkey with gravy. Not that exciting I know but I am pretty excited about it! No stall here yet but I’m expecting it. Bypass here, and all my glue is gone. I’ve never lost 17 pounds in my life, no matter what I’ve tried, so I am overjoyed at how well this is working so far.

I had my sleeve done in Feb 2017, but after the first year where I lost 100 pounds, I regained about 60. I tried doing pouch resets but they didn't last. I could eat a full plate of food, not as much as I once did (because let's be honest, I probably could eat 2 plates of food), but certainly a lot more than anyone who had had the sleeve should have been able to eat - the restriction was really not there for me. So just over 3 weeks ago I had a revision to RNY (long-limbed). My surgeon and I discussed the possibilities and this was his recommendation based on his experience as a surgeon: People who re-sleeved had the lowest amount of weight loss after a revision People who had a mini gastric bypass (which basically keeps the sleeve but adds a long-limbed bypass - usually about 100-150cm) do great in terms of weight loss, but at least 10% will suffer from GERD afterwards, which will require another surgery People who revised from sleeve to a standard RNY (which is a short-limbed bypass) didn't lose as much weight overall with that procedure People who revised from sleeve to a standard RNY but with a long-limbed bypass did the best with weight-loss and without the complications of developing GERD. So I went with this option (not only because of this, but because of other gastro-intestinal issues I have). In any event, I would talk to your surgeon about what you want to achieve and what is the best option for you, your sleeve, and what your own particular health needs are.

@ronjsteele1 We are almost surgery twins. Mine was the 13th. Did you have bypass or sleeve? I have the glue on my stitches. What did you eat?...did it feel funny going down? I'm so courious...lol.

I know when i got the band my body stopped losing at 143. I am 5'2" and my SW was 232#. There i stayed for 7+ years. Until i had to get her out 3 years ago in 2017. Over the last few years, i put back 30#. I decided to do a revision and got sleeved 8/28/19. SW 173.5, today 129. My weight loss is slowing and currently only losing about a pound a month. Your body will definitely decide on where it wants to be. But, you have to be doing everything you can to make sure you are doing your part. Continue to portion out your food and exercise. You will benefit greatly from logging in and weighting/portioning what you eat. Exercising in a different way will help also. If you simply cut back your cal to 1000 per day and up your exercise... you will start to lose again.

I absolutely understand the disappointment und frustration all of you must feel. I also think it's important to talk about this and no, maybe coming across "a bit selfish" doesn't matter. Come across as "selfish" as you like. Whenever the disappointment and frustration hits and you're all like "F*ck this damn virus!!", maybe you could remember some things: - your surgery is postponed, not cancelled. - you wouldn't want to be in a hospital now or in a few weeks down the road if you can help it. - ICU capacity is limited and every surgery has the potential to bring on the need for being on the ICU. You don't want to need a bed on the ICU during the next weeks because there might be none available the moment you need it. - you don't want to be in immediate recovery from abdominal surgery as long as COVID-19 runs rampant. My revision is 4 weeks ago now, the fixing of a hernia only a week and I'm asking myself if my immune system is already as competent as it usually is - not a fun thing to ask yourself these days. When feeling all of this completely understandable frustration and disappointment maybe try to remember that WLS is always abdominal surgery including general anesthesia with lots of complications being possible and not a quick and unproblematic surgery so many patient's recovery is really easy from. I'm absolutely sure that all people on this thread are completely aware of the things I wrote above. However, it can be hard to remember when disappointment and frustration hits. Hang in there! Your surgery is postponed, not cancelled.

Had my surgery on March 3. I was one of the lucky ones who was able to have gastric bypass surgery before elective procedures have been put on hold because of COVID-19. I’m quite relieved.

Three weeks in. Started soft diet this week. Concentrating on protein and fluids. Started colace. And resorted to milk of magnesia today. Any tips on keeping things moving along and not getting backed up? I had gastric bypass surgery on March 3.

I am 3 weeks out from gastric bypass surgery and I am struggling with being able to sleep. Melatonin did nothing. Do hormonal shifts contribute to this? I’ve never had trouble sleeping lol. The only thing that works is taking .25 mg of Xanax but I don’t want to live on that.

My surgeon told me no alcohol for two years, and then only when I had no need to drive. Apparently, a bypass makes you capable of exceeding the legal limit with

I'm really struggling! I'll be 2 years post op in July (too much math). I lost 95 lbs. since surgery and 130 lbs. all time. Since the beginning of this year I've had a lot of issues and have gained 18 lbs. It seemed like it happened overnight. I'm the kind of person who needs serious structure. What BASIC diet/meal plan can I follow going forward? I had RNY Gastric Bypass, and am a pescatarian, but I can substitute seafood for anything. ANY help would be very much appreciated. Take care and stay safe, all. 💜

Wow, that’s really good to know-I hadn’t even thought of that, but will most definitely be asking for a face to face appointment with the surgeon when I go back(I am always seeing the NP, only saw him once after surgery). I had a tough time with the Nurse Practitioner pre-op because she said I wouldn’t be successful with sleeve and had gotten bypass approval from my insurance company despite the plans from start being to have sleeve. I had to wait a couple months for them to change it to sleeve and explain why...seems shady but it’s probably just me. Thanks so very much though, really - the info you guys provided has not only given me some avenues to try, I’ve gotten some of my hope back that I really have struggled with losing. Thanks a mint! 😎

Thank you for the helpful response; I hope to find out if revisions due to lack of weight loss efficacy are performed and/or covered. Am stumped as to why I am doing everything right on my end, but getting nowhere...I’m terrified Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk Pro