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Mine is tomorrow. First of I pray I go through the surgery with no complications. Then I will focus on losing the pounds. Yes you look awesome

This is a pretty 'normal' cover story situation. I told my boss (at my P/T job) that I have a hernia complication and that it needs "intrusive and painful" investigation.

So after my second child, some 20 years ago, I started looking into gastric bypass surgery. I was 260 lbs at that point and never thought I would get that big. Over the years, I talked to many people who popped up in my life who had already had the surgery and not much positive info came from that. Between lose skin and iron infusions that another friend had to have... I was scared. Now I am 386 lbs and what scares me now is walking to the bathroom and not being able to breath. Or people smelling body oder because it seems in possible to reach everywhere to get as clean as I need to be. I'm scared of dieing before my youngest is grown and him having to go live with a father he has never met that has little patience to deal with my son special needs. I'm scared of how unhappy I make my kids when they want to do things and I physically am to tired to get up. I am no longer scared of this surgery or complications nor am I scared of something so trivial in the grand scheme of things as loose skin. (Loose skin use to terrify me). I'm finally starting the process to change my life. I got my list on Friday and cannot wait to get started.my biggest concern I guess is making this all work without losing my job in the process. I still have to pay bills. I honestly wish I could get temperary disability until like 6 months after surgery so I could put all my focus on this journey. The one thing that is pushing me for change the most is my youngest son. He is going down the same path but at a much faster pace than I did. He is 10 years old, 4'8 and weighs 158 lbs. No matter how much we talk about my health and how food has limited my life, he doesn't seem to care. He will sneak food and gorge himself. After this surgery, there will be nothing in the house for him to gorge on. We all will have only healthy options available to us. He will be exercising with me and we will take the journey together. I am trying to include him in everything so he knows what's coming. I'm also going to do before and after photos for him too so that he will be encouraged. He helps me to put all fear aside because I have to do this for him too so he doesn't have to one day. Anyway, thanks for listening to me ramble. So many thoughts in my head and I'm keeping the surgery private for now in my life because I don't need any negative talk from those who don't understand. So, this is going to be my way for now, to dump my feelings. My kids know but they don't need to know all the emotional parts. I don't want them to be scared or anything. So thanks for listening.

I am post po 6 days. Had a 4 day hospital stay with a little blood pressure complication. I had a Nissen Fundo take down, hernia repair and sleeve. So that's my history. So WTH? I stepped on scale and was up 13 pounds I've started loading approx 2 pds a day but I'm not even where I was the day I had surgery! Why? I'm now on post op liquid diet consisting of protein shakes, water limited juice. Thank you in advance for your opinions and/or suggestions Sent from my SM-S765C using BariatricPal mobile app

Hi everyone I did my surgery roughly a year ago I was at 128kgs, I'm now down to 55kgs. I currently and have been eating very well over the past 6 months but I'm still not regaining weight. I'm wayyyy to skinny now and am at regrets doing this surgery . I feel normal and fit but I'm down to stick size. I rapidly lost weight after surgery as I ended up being hospitalized for roughly 2 months after surgery due to complications. My drs said I've returned to my natural body weight but I can't stand it.

Hello everyone, I guess you can say this is the start of my journey to bariatric surgery. I have been overwieght my entire life. Ive tried many types of diets and excercise plans. The most i was able to lose on my own was 30 lbs in the span of 6months. Life circumstances didnt allow me to continue to excercise n diet are regidly and i eventually fell off the wagon. Im the heaviest ive ever been...286. Ive been relectutant to opt for WL surgery bc i fear a botched surgery and complications. Ive finally decided to set aside negative fears and go through with the gastic sleeve. Ive met with my surgeon and he gave me the check list of all the doctors i need to see so we can submit approval for insurance. Ive been reading this forum and trying to get informed as possible. I still feel very anxious but also excited. I know this isnt an easy fix and will take alot of hard work n dedication. Im trying to change eating habits..by i found myself over eating fron stress.Any advice is greatly appreciated. Sent from my SM-G950U using BariatricPal mobile app

@thiklips assuming much? The OP has had considerable complications and didn't post a typical day of eating. Plus we don't know of any other conditions involved. Perhaps it's true and perhaps not, but you were not any help at all. OP - post an average day of eating and fluid intake please. Do you have a support team you can contact - nutritionist, etc?

She says everything went well. No complications.

I agree, I'm only 10 days post op, and my main focus is following Dr.'s orders to the letter! I want to heal good inside, as I read about the potential complications if things are progressed too quickly. I'm taking short walks outside, progressed to around the block (slowly) once or twice daily. That really helps too!

I'm looking into it too. Its so complicated to find a place you can trust... It so much less expensive though. Hopefully this gets more replies soon Sent from my VF-895N using BariatricPal mobile app

Make sure you have a friend or family available for support (on call in case they are needed). If one of you has complications, the other may not be able to drive to and from the hospital the first week, etc. Do all the heavy lifting before surgery (like bringing in the big bags of pet food for a 4-6 week supply). 4-6 weeks is a long time where neither of you can pick up more than 10lbs. If you have a big dog that pulls on the leash, who will walk it? Examine your own day to day lifestyle, constantly asking.. if I can't pick up weight or reach my feet, how would this work?

Im 28, from the UK. I had the sleeve on January 17th. Ive lost around 80 lbs, another 20 ish to goal. Loosing very slowly now but im fine with that as im building muscle too. I've had a long complicated history with food and weight which included bulimia in my teens. I'd say up until surgery I was still an emotional eater despite having many years of therapy. Since getting this surgery I've had ups and downs. But overall I feel as though I've finally gotten some consistency in terms of eating and my weight. I feel normal. Im going the gym regularly and focusing on eating healthily not just low calorie. Im actually running. I'd never even been to the gym before my surgery as I was too self conscious. I still hate my body though. I was expecting loose skin but im not sure I appreciated the feelings that would come with it. I feel like I look like I've melted. I hate looking in the mirror. Today I've been off work sick (unrelated infection)- im usually busy all the time. I've found myself just preoccupied with my own thoughts all day. I actually ended up crying briefly which is unusual for me. Don't get me wrong. Im so grateful that I am no longer clinically obese and that I will hopefully avoid all the medical complications that I'm sure I would have had, should I have not had this surgery. Im just struggling to be happy. I feel a huge amount of guilt around this. So many people would love to be in my position. In the last few weeks I've actually entered a normal weight (24.9). I know I've achieved so much but I just thought I'd be happier about it. My parents have offered to fund plastics for me ( ive been researching and hoping this is something I could do next year on finance), having paid half of my sleeve already. Again I just feel guilt instead of greatfulness. Im a grown woman with a job and a mortgage. I feel I should be supporting them, not still the other way around. I'd love to try to have children, one of the reasons for my decision to get the sleeve. Im not sure that a tummy tuck is a good idea if I want to actively try for this, or that a surgeon would either, but also cant imagine living this way for the next few years. Im not sure it will even happen. I havent even had sex with my partner for around 6 months, the thought of it (my own body) makes me feel horrible. I just feel very conflicted. I'm not sure I'll even be happy if I get the plastics I want. What if I just start focusing on another area I'm unhappy with. I'm a psyc nurse so I know it's all about mindset and that there are clearly underlying issues with the way I feel about myself. I know I'd advise anyone that therapy is the way to go but I've already done it all. Im also well aware that there are no magic answers, therapy could go on for years with no change and that the provision of further therapy in the UK would be costly. Im feeling quite hopeless. I have made huge progress in terms of my own mental health since my teens. I guess just not as much as I thought.

I still have that problem even wirh food. It's so complicated for me. Ugh [emoji58] Aka_ET HW-220 Pre-op 194.3 RNY SD June 16th 2017 CW-167.8 GW-140 HT 5' 3" [emoji120][emoji878][emoji1272] "You may see me struggle but you will never see me quit"

I don't know why people would try to cheat a nicotine test. Smoking after surgery just puts you at high or very high risks for complications, especially if you have a bypass. The only person you'd be screwing is yourself when you end up in the hospital with a perforated marginal ulcer and need emergency surgery

Actually the DS is the same in complexity as Bypass, it's just different. DS is actually older than Bypass but the current iteration of the DS is different. The surgeons have learned from past mistakes and made adjustments. The complications from surgery are minimal. Statistics show the number one cause of post WLS complications is patients non compliance with dietary restrictions.

I had a band place June 2011, lost 100 lbs., and then began having complications all to gain the weight back. Not only did I gain the weight back, I gained two different sites of horrible pain, both the band and port. The port site was almost too much to bear. I had my band revised to a sleeve due to complications last Thursday and so far, I feel such a sense of relief having that contraption out of me! I have had an excellent recovery and jokingly asked the doctor if he actually did the sleeve.. Hoping to make the best of my second chance! I'm having a hard time not overdoing it after surgery!

From what I've seen, about 5% - 10% of people regret their surgery long term.. which means 90-95% DON'T regret it. Short term regret in the first weeks postop is extremely common. The ones with long term regret don't hang out on message boards full of happy patients for long. It seems the majority of regret is fueled by physical complications or unresolved emotional issues. We've seen regret stemming from religious beliefs. Sometimes people find that perfect diet/exercise program that they are sure would have worked without surgery. And the biggie... "he/she wouldn't have left me if I hadn't had the surgery".

For the most part, it stems from fear. Fear of complications, fear that YOU'll begin regretting it.. My own family did the same thing.. they just want what's best for us...

But the bypass also runs the risk of malnutrition. I'm not certain that the there is an increased percentage of complications of the DS vs the bypass. I think they're pretty comparable. DS has a better long term outcome when it comes to regain. The SIPS is a modified DS having a single anastomoses vs the two anastomoses of the traditional. The SIPS also has a longer common channel that also helps reduce the risk of malnutrition and eases the whole gas/diarrhea issue. SIPS is also known as SADI or LOOP. Again this being a personal decision, you have to go with your gut [emoji173]️ good luck with your decision [emoji4]

I WAS the parent who objected to surgery so I know how your parents feel (I am not a patient myself; I joined here after my son's surgery so I could learn things I didn't know without having to always bug him). My son was an adult at 25 so I didn't really have a say, and it was really hard as a parent to toe that line between worrying and letting him be in charge of this. The way I described my feelings back then was that it broke my heart that he was taking a drastic step that would affect the rest of his life. I didn't want to express any of my fears to him so I told him there were so many questions I had and I really didn't want to have to subject him to them so could I have his permission to talk to his surgeon and his therapist about my thoughts. He agreed and so I got to share all my fears with others and get reassurance. What were my fears? That he would die on the table (his docs went through the data and also reminded me of the. very real health risks that come with doing nothing). That he hadn't tried hard enough to do this without surgery ( they walked me back through all the things he had tried, for nearly ten years, and how for some people it becomes a near impossibility to do this without medical intervention). That he had not thought through the complications. (They assured me they had all talked about them in detail). That he was just plain too young. (As his doc said, better to do this at 25 than to wait 30 years and then wish you had done it at 25). That I had somehow failed him as a parent for allowing him to get to this point in the first place. (I still feel that way even though al his experts tell me not to) He is now about six months postopband it is the best thing he could ever have done. As his mother I feel like I have my son back. The one who I hadn't seen in years as he got sadder and lonelier and more defined by his weight. He is down by about 50 percent of his body weight. He goes out with friends and has a drink or two and enjoys his life And basically does everything he always did but with smaller portions, no constant hunger, far fewer fatty sugary foods (he just doesn't want them) and wearing a far smaller size. I don't know if any of this helps, but maybe it would help to have your parents do what I did and talk to someone who knows your journey and who knows the medical literature, but who isn't you?

The extra risk of malnutrition, the longer procedure, and the increased percentage of complications during and after surgery. What is the difference between sips ds and regular? I've never heard of that.

@dreamingsmall. I didn't say he wasn't going to do the surgery, I said I hope he takes out enough stomach. But that was me being all in my feelings. He will have to much to lose if he purposely didn't do the surgery correctly. No, I don't really think he would do that. At our meeting yesterday, I simply asked him out of the surgeries he's performed, has there been any complications were a patient has needed an endoscopy to see what the problem was? He assured me there hasn't been and I expressed my concerns to him in a very professional manner...of course I didn't say I hope you don't leave to much stomach in. "Mama ain't raise no fool". LOL!! I asked him to tell me again just how much stomach will be removed and he told me the usual is 75%. I feel much better after speaking with him and his nurse yesterday. Put me under and go golfing...you're hilarious!! LOL!!

Hi all, I have had my band since 2003 and on October 3 I will be getting the revision to sleeve. I have heard weight loss is slower in revision patients than someone that was getting weight-loss surgery for the first time. Does anyone have experience with this and has it been accurate for you? I'm very short and I have about 50 pounds to lose. I maintained over 100 pound weight loss for all of those years. But I have been having band complications for many years now as well . Now the pounds are creeping back on.

I had the band in Mexico when I was 20 in 2003. I lost all the weight Dow to 130lbs on average and maintained that healthy weight for all these years . I also had 4 kids in that time. Until this last year my little band issues became severe band issues. Especially acid reflux and back pain . I hadn't had water in 4 years. Only soda could go down. I had my band I filled 3 months ago and have gained big time. I'm now 167lbs . In 3 months:( my revision band to sleeve surgery is October 3. My endo is this Monday then liquid diet for 2 weeks. I totally get how you are feeling. All the what ifs and fear and tired of band complications.:(

So sorry you have had this many complications, I hope you get good doctors to resolve all that has happened.