Draven298

Thank you so much. I appreciate you sharing your experience so much. I'll keep you updated as to how it goes.

Thank you @Darktowerdream I think I am going to schedule another appointment with him and push the issue. I just sat there like a lump when he told me because I felt like I hit a wall and couldn't get my thoughts straight when he said it. Maybe he will reconsider and I wont have to go through finding another doctor and starting over again.

Thank you all so much for the information. I don't disagree with my new DR. on what he has told me at all. I believe if he says it is safer to do it this way, than it is. He is highly recommended in my area and carries several awards and 16 years experience so who am I to doubt him. My issue is with myself. My previous Dr., is not as recommended and in all honesty, he planted the seed that I would fail with any other surgery and now I have to find a way to get that out of my head so that I can go into this strong and believing in myself. I know that if I can get this weight off, the fear of being trapped in this prison others call a body will help me to not regain weight, I am just terrified that I will fail myself getting to that point. You all have made me feel better about it reading these replies and reading others comments and replies so I am going to be here often in hopes that this support will help me get through it. Also, I updated everything, I think. Let me know if it shows up now lol Thank you again for the info and encouragement. It is much appreciated.

Back story is that 2 years ago, I started the process for weight loss surgery and the Dr. I saw told me that he believed that my best option was bypass because it doesn't allow me to cheat as easily and so I got it in my head that anything else would be a failure for me. Due to life situations, I was not able to take the time out to focus on surgery and recovery so I had to put it all off. Now 2 years later I am starting the process again and with a new Dr. I have also developed stomach ulcers in the past two years so he told me today that he does not feel good doing the bypass when I already have ulcers and feels that the sleeve is the safest bet. In my head, it is still stuck that I am going to fail if I don't have the bypass. I don't want to go in feeling like a failure already and since most of my research over the years has been on the bypass, I am looking for real life experience. So I guess what I need to know is did any of you feel this way going in and if so, have you been successful? Without the dumping, how do you detour your thought process to not eat certain foods. I guess I was relying on feeling bad enough eating certain foods that I would never want to touch them again. I want this so bad but I don't want to fail and I need a mind reset. Thanks for any advise