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YES I AM BAD I EAT THEM. JUST RECENTLY THOUGH I HAVE A FILL OF 6 1/2 CC AND CANT EAT bread NOW OMG I HATE WHEN food GETS STUCK THAT IS SO SCARY. LUCKLIY THE PAPAYA ENZYME pills WORK SO GOOD.

thanks to both of you for your service, he served and you supported him. its not for wussies !!!!! great job on your weight loss too, what a nice surprise for him! best of luck to both of you !

so my husband left in july since then i have lost 30 big difference total lost since i got the band 50 lbs
he is coming home for rr.
i have 8.5 cc in and i just got my green zone. what am i doing i am eating a lot less and i just do the video game just dance 4 songs a day its awesome i want to lose about 50 lbs before my husband comes home for good. i want him to not know who his wife is when he comes home. A huge surprise for him

so my husband left in july since then i have lost 30 big difference total lost since i got the band 50 lbs
he is coming home for rr.
i have 8.5 cc in and i just got my green zone. what am i doing i am eating a lot less and i just do the video game just dance 4 songs a day its awesome i want to lose about 50 lbs before my husband comes home for good. i want him to not know who his wife is when he comes home. A huge surprise for him

Congrats to you .. Mine comes home for good the end of next month and retires in June !

I would like like to say good luck and Happy Holidays to you and your family!
My family would like to say a big THANK YOU To your husband for what he does for us!!!
THANK YOU

So happy to hear he is coming home! Thanks to him for his service, and to you for your sacrifice. What a wonderful motivation for weight loss, I'm sure he will be so proud : )

Will pray for you both. Please take care of yourself so you can be strong for the coming days.

Deep breaths! Never underestimate the power of positive thoughts/prayer ...and put down the food! Just so that you don't do damage to yourself. I would reccomend calling a crisis hotline......crazy I know, but true. I don't have family or lots of friends and during my divorce I was borderline psycho and didn't want to run to food or drugs and talking to someone did help. **hugs** prayers to you and your dear husband.

My heart aches for you! As a wife of a former U.S. Army Bosnian Conflict Vet I can not imagine what you are going through. You are among friends here.

There is a section on here about drs and hospitals, they may have a fill option for you.

i am not sure of the answer to this. I just wanted to wish you the best of luck with your procedures.

I made the huge mistake of trying the food that are high in calories. like doughnuts, chips, bread. hamburgers. big big mistake for me it was better if i thought i couldn't eat them. i was doing much better not knowing now i find it hard to stay away. i opened pandoras box and i can't find a key to lock it back up.

I have had 3 surgeries since being banded- a tummy tuck/boob job, minor procedure to correct Fluid build up from Tummy Tuck and also a face lift. I did not have any fluid removed for these surgeries. Of course, my surgeon knew about the band. I would go with whatever your surgeon reccomends for you. This was just my experience.

I too feel hesitant to go to the support group because when it starts its all about numbers. Who lost what and how much. I understand how you are feeling YOU ARE NOT ALONE!

Ditto: the above posts.
It is truly sad when those that lose quickly are smug. I am a slow loser and once I came to accept this I started pulling out the positives of being a slow loser. For me they are:
1. The usual ... the longer it takes to come off, the longer it will stay off
2. I am older so I have less elasticity in my skin; as a result the slower I lose, the less sagging skin ... gives me time to tone as much as possible.
3. As I lose slowly I am learning so much about my relationship with food and slowly I am able to let go of bad eating habits and take on new, good ones.
4. I had back sugery in 2004 and I have spinal stenosis (arthritis of the spine) which means I cannot do strenuous exercise. I am though, learning just how far I can go with exercise, and I am strengthening my back muscles in the process. This is a really good thing.
5. I am learning to stay out of others' heads and to keep positive thoughts in my own head. I don't think about whether others think that I should have lost more weight by now, because when I get in their heads and think "what must they think of me and my slow weight loss", it brings me down. How on earth is that going to help me reach my goal. So, I work on concentrating on me and my journey.
The bottom line is that I am a slow loser. I do what I can to continue the weight loss and I try not to let it get me down.
Drasan you are losing, that is soooo much better than before the band, isn't it? It took me 7 months to get to real restriction so I know how you feel. Don't let these people get you down. Hang in there, you will get to your goal weight ... we both will!
Good luck to all of us "slow losers"!
~Fran

Drassan, don't feel bad. We all vent here at some point or another and the good thing about it is that you are not alone. There's many of us here facing the same problems. Remember that we are here for support. I know exactly how you feel. It's been almost a year and I still have not reached the green zone. I am currently I'm starting to think the lap-band is not for me. I was banded on May 26, 2010. I have lost a total of 30-some lbs. Through out this year I've had many "stuck" episodes. They started getting worse back in November. I've been throwing up everyday almost for every meal since November. Needless to say, the very few people who know I was banded last year label me as lazy and say that I'm not trying hard enough. They don't understand how hard this process is for a lot of us. I've developed depression because of this of the disencouraging words and PB. It has got so bad that I was prescribed anti-depressants which I might add are not helping with my weight loss. I hope soon I can reach that green zone and begin losing the weight as I have seen with many who were banded last year.
Just remember, people are always going to be judgemental and we can't allow these individuals to bring us down. We took that step therefore we are a step ahead. We will get there! Don't lose your motivation.
If you like, we can buddy up and help each other. What do you say?
Claudia

I haven't experienced the judgemental junk, but I definitely know how you feel with this taking forever. It took me nine months to get to a good spot and then I had a couple of fill/over-fill/partial unfill issues that lead to no loss for several months.
I wish that somebody had said something about the restriction not happening right away and that it may take six or seven fills to get to the green zone.
The smugness of the easy losers is tough. I love to read about successul bandsters (not that any of them are smug) and follow their blogs, but it is disheartening when I see people who have lost 90 pounds in the time it took me to actually get restriction.
Hang in there. You are on this journey for yourself, not the other rude folks. I think your story of slow loss is an important one to be shared at the support meetings, after all you may be the next inspiration for someone else who hasn't lost anything.

I went to a bariatric support group meeting a few months ago. I've been determined to let go of an incident that happened but another thread just brought all my feelings to the surface again. Please forgive me for using this forum to vent.
I'm a band patient who didn't get restriction right away from fills. It took over a year of working with my surgeon to get me to the right place. Needless to say, I didn't lose weight like some others have reported. At times I've been discouraged but somehow, I've managed to stay mostly optimistic and keep working at it, which is finally paying off.
At the support group meeting, two women asked me when I was banded and how much weight I had lost. The way they looked me up and down with obvious disgust/disapproval made me feel like a failure and want to crawl into a hole. When I thought about it later it just made me mad.
This was not my first experience with judgement and comparison. In the surgeon's waiting room I met another woman who'd had surgery around the same time as me. We talked about our weight loss and she'd lost a whole lot more than me. The smug, judgemental air that came off her really hurt.
Of all the people in the world who should be supporting another heavy person I would think it would be other people who have actually walked in fat shoes. I don't understand the competition and the judgement.

I lost weight for 6-8 weeks after surgery, then nothing! Nothing for about 10 months while the surgeon gave me fills attempting to get my band to the right restriction. I didn't gain any weight back, which was great but I stopped losing.
The last fill I received 3 weeks ago. My surgeon filled me using fluorscopy to get the fill to a safe maximum fill for me. Now I have restriction and I've started losing weight again, YAY!
My point is this, everyone's journey is different. When I looked at the weight others were losing, it was easy to get discouraged, and sometimes I did, But I hung in there and worked with my surgeon.
This is a process, not a race. We need to be careful when comparing ourselves to others.
Good luck with your process!

Papaya works great. I can eat hamburger more than chicken. You need to ear really slowly or add sauce... to moisten. I tend to eat to quickly. It takes me 45-60 mins to eat a chicken breast. Good luck!

It's awful to feel alone. Have you considered going to a food Addicts Anonymous meeting? There are even online meetings. Www.foodaddictsanonymous.org

I have loved reading about each of you. We are all so different and so much alike too. I wish you all the best of luck on this journey. Thank you to all the Military wives and moms for your sacrifice for this country!! Also there are a lot of Texans on here me included.
Cheri

Sorry you are having a hard time. I think what your feeling is perfectly normal. You are giving up a good friend- food. As far as bread goes, I couldn't eat it while I was loosing- got stuck every time. However, since I reached goal I keep my band very loose and can now ieat bread and pasta- as long as I chew well enough. So I am saying, it's not forever. Once you have restriction and are loosing weight I hope you feel differently. Best wishes!