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I am sorry that your husband is not supportive -- neither was mine. Not at ALL.. don't let that stop you. It's not HIm you are doing this for, it's YOU.
My husband was so disgusted with my having the surgery he didnt' want ANYTHING to do with it, I had to go through it all without him, and on my own.
I am all alone here, far from homoe.. have no family but him so I hired a "Medical Escort" to take me home from the Endoscopy, and then the Surgery waiting time, with instructions to call my aunt if anything happend, and finally to bring me to the train to ride home when I was released from the hospital.
So... if you are committed to doing this for YOU, without any support, on your own. go for it. Join your doctor's support group. Talk to people on this forum and ask for help.. don't let fear of disapproval keep you from your dream.
AND I AM NOT SORRY!! HA HA HA... now he compliments me and we never talk about those "bad days."
It's not easy, but you are worth it. BE STRONG, be your own best friend.

Hi @christina-abdo. I too have a husband who is not supportive of my desicion to have surgery. We have/had horrible arguments about it. My husband is extremely natually fit, does not have the problem of obesity, and is very handsome. I have gained weight since we were married last year....he met me three years ago, and I'm 75 lbs heavier. To him it was new, to me...it was another time of gaining and losing weight. I have struggled for 25 years. He has insulted me, made jokes, gave me dirty looks for eating, and basically told me...I should just have self-control. He has even said he does not want a fat wife. It truly broke my heart. BUT, he does not agree with the surgery...he feels if I follow "his plan", I will lose the weight and keep it off.
My expereince for 25 years shows me, I may lose it...but I will alwys put back on more. That is Why I need surgery.
Once I finally got insurance and had this opportunity, I jumped on it. I started the journey 8 months ago, classs, tests, Drs appointments....and got approved last month. I wa ecstatic! I'm scheduled for surgery on Feb. 23rd. My husband was happy for me, because could see how happy I was, but he told me...he does not appove of my desicion.
I am still going forward. This descion is for me and my health. I don't want to spend any more time ashamed, embarrassed, tired, and obsessed with being heavy. There is too much life to be lived. I'm praying to God, and getting support here.
I hope you search your own heart, and educate yourself for what is best for your health and your life. This is definitely not an easy desicion.
God bless you

Definitely call your surgeon. I wouldn't wait until the end of the week.