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The minute I came home I could have had sex!! Course I have to wait a few weeks . I don't even want to kiss my husband these days cause that almost always leads us to the bedroom. Patience patience lol

BrandNewBrandy, I know that you feel that telling people is the right way to go, but I guess it's also the person having the surgery's own opinion as to tell or not. Maybe there are other circumstances for not saying anything. I know I have my own reasons for keeping it to myself, and I will not be telling anyone that I do not want to know till I am ready. I just feel I don't want everyone to know till I know that I have things under control and I can explain to the ones I want that I am doing the best thing for me. As my work people we are a small company and they are all very thin and healthy and they just wouldn't understand my reasoning. I am the only one here that has a problem with my weight and health problems, they are all very uptight people and they are just weird. So those are some of the reasons I have decided to go on the route of not telling people. I feel this isn't a process I need people to help me get through its a process for me to get myself through, and I love being able to come on here and talk to people and get ideas, and what not but that is cause you all are not judgemental cause of the fact that you have all had it done, and have been through all the challenges I have and that bigloser2014 has been through so I can feel at ease and comfortable on here, but when it comes to everyone else, that is just not the way it's going to happen. This is my battle not anyone elses.

I actually wondered if this was the case for myself too since I thought we were headed for a separation....
but it may not be. I have ZERO interest in sex - not with him, not with another, and not even with myself.

Hello and welcome to "Operation Operation" for me.
I have read quite a few stories over the past 8 months prepping up for the day I would be lucky enough to get a date for surgery. I have found them useful so I decided I will attempt it and try to use it as a sounding board and future reflection for myself. Someone I respect highly said that EVERYONE should write their own autobiography. That has always stuck in my mind and maybe one day I will but until then I will use this blog.
My date to change the rest of my life is day after Christmas, 26 Dec 2013.
Here are some reasons I am happy:
I am happy for monetary reasons because my out of pocket expenses have been this year and now I won’t pay anything or surgery!!! Also my deductibles and out of pocket expense amounts are all raising to over 2.5 times what they are this year (thanks Obamacare!!). So if I had it in January it would be a lot more!!
I am of course ecstatic because this is what I needed for a while and wouldn't allow it because I figured I could lose the inches without it but I have proved that false. I would lose a lot of pounds just to see them come back faster than it took to take them off and of course with some extra weight to add.
I am glad because my twin 8 yr. old girls will have Daddy in their lives for many more years.
I am delighted that my wonderful Wiff will get to have me around for the rest of her days on this planet. Not sure she is glad about this but I am (Just kidding of course.)
I am joyful that I will not have so many physical problems with this body.
So I will be updating "Operation Operation" here.

I had surgery sept 2012 starting at 448 present wt 242
I had some heart issues for almost a year during my rapid wt loss had to be off work on disability that was rough. Finally got it under control and went back to work august2013. I have become ABLE- I can chase my grandson, fit in most chairs, wipe my ass in any stall, enjoy cooking and eating, exercise ( I can swim laps for over an hour) walk a mile without debilitating pain and get in and out of a sofa with ease(I don't even think about it anymore- it used to worry me all the time once I sat down would I be able to get back up- can you say embarrassing).
I can not wait for onederland my goal is first to be under 200 then hopefully goal wt 160.

I have been criticized my entire life for being fat and there is no way in hell I'm going to criticized once I'm healthy because I had WLS. No fricken way. That's why I'm not telling people.

Emeree, I know how you feel, and to hide it really sucks, but you know what don't worry about how much you eat, and if you want to keep it a secret after they see you, then just tell them it's your new way of eating, Portion Control. That's what I am going to do. I just don't want to be criticized!!! I know I can't do this without the surgery, as I have tried so many times and failed, so this will force me to do it the right way and I will and I know you can too!!! Use the next 6 Months to get yourself together and don't worry what they all say cause you did this for you and your life no one else!!!

BrandNewBrandy, I know that you feel that telling people is the right way to go, but I guess it's also the person having the surgery's own opinion as to tell or not. Maybe there are other circumstances for not saying anything. I know I have my own reasons for keeping it to myself, and I will not be telling anyone that I do not want to know till I am ready. I just feel I don't want everyone to know till I know that I have things under control and I can explain to the ones I want that I am doing the best thing for me. As my work people we are a small company and they are all very thin and healthy and they just wouldn't understand my reasoning. I am the only one here that has a problem with my weight and health problems, they are all very uptight people and they are just weird. So those are some of the reasons I have decided to go on the route of not telling people. I feel this isn't a process I need people to help me get through its a process for me to get myself through, and I love being able to come on here and talk to people and get ideas, and what not but that is cause you all are not judgemental cause of the fact that you have all had it done, and have been through all the challenges I have and that bigloser2014 has been through so I can feel at ease and comfortable on here, but when it comes to everyone else, that is just not the way it's going to happen. This is my battle not anyone elses.

Emeree, I know how you feel, and to hide it really sucks, but you know what don't worry about how much you eat, and if you want to keep it a secret after they see you, then just tell them it's your new way of eating, Portion Control. That's what I am going to do. I just don't want to be criticized!!! I know I can't do this without the surgery, as I have tried so many times and failed, so this will force me to do it the right way and I will and I know you can too!!! Use the next 6 Months to get yourself together and don't worry what they all say cause you did this for you and your life no one else!!!

I have no intentions of telling anyone other than my husband, and my daughter but her after it's done......

I am preop but I see this as a medical procedure not a cosmetic one. I will probably tell everyone because likely they are going to speculate and I would never want to be in a situation where someone told their obese friend well Brandy lost 120 lbs why can't you with them thinking I only cut portion sizes. I think I would have been more open to surgery sooner if people talked about it. I have told some people and not everyone was supportive and one was negative.
If someone judges me for it well that's on them and its someone I wouldn't want in my life anyways because they probably judge me for way more than the surgery and I don't want negative people in my life.

Thanks DL I am excited to get to it!!

So i don't misrepresent myself, 50 of that 184 was preop!
You're right about the dumping, not everyone experiences it. You're doing the right thing, keep researching and asking questions.