i know what you mean. you work so hard.. you work so hard.. you lose heaps and.. you are still way out of what is deemed "normal" or "slim". Shmoopy, why don't you treat yourself to a stylist for a couple of hours? someone to go thru your wardrobe or to help you buy clothes that fit your body now? I am assuming you say you are a size 10.. that is AUS/UK 14?? There are plenty of fashionable clothes out there to help lift your esteem a bit. I agree with the low self esteem part. To a point, it doesn't matter what size you are, if you have self confidence about yourself men do take notice. I've had heaps of guys sniffing around when I was bigger (i was AUS 22-24. I am now a solid AUS16) And no, I don't think they were chubby chasers, just blokes. If you are feeling yuck and down about yourself, it doesn't matter whether you are a skinny minny or not. Its like you are sending out signals 'stay away' and of course, they oblige. But, then, there are guys that like the generic super skinny types. Some men are shallow. A lot of society is very shallow. Be happy your body lets you do things! HTH lotsa love, Jen
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