B.J.L

Way to go and all i have to say is keep doing it. It gets even better as the weight comes off and then its nice to be able to watch him do it...lol for me that is the best part like u i was uncomfortable especially cause i couldnt tell if he could breathe down there now nothing is in the way just have fun!!!!!

Hello Cindy..
Not sure if this will help you but I as many are on MYFITNESS PAL and there you can add friends and see their daily menus...I enjoy getting ideas ! Good Luck

I would inform her that your doing it so its not secret..and then do it...its for you not her and so what if her family knows...I have had my husbands family make so nasty comments...screw them do it for you!

Actually my preference as to a woman's build is naturally curvy Brazilian/Latin shape(I'm an a$$ man). By all means though, I can appreciate the full variety of the female spectrum.
I'm guessing my post didn't come across as intended.
I'll try it this way. It's more about attitude than anything else. Somebody that has a defeatist attitude really isn't very attractive to me.
Conversely, someone who has ambition and drive to improve themselves and become better than they are today, whether that be by getting fit, furthering education, improving carrier options or whatever, will always be more attractive. And if you decide you need a "tool" to help you accomplish that goal, I really don't see how that could be a bad thing.
I hope that is clearer.

No way! For me it just means she is committed to her health and is doing something good for herself. That means she either has confidence or is in the process of building. Good for her is all I can say!

OMG!!!! Nooooooo!
People can be vain and opinionated and just downright mean.
Lose the jerk you don't need the stress.

Hey if it is then Im pathetic with ya....

Pattygirl.....I had wanted one for years but i was too embarrassed they are painful mainly when they go over bone and if u do color the shading. Mine start over my shoulder blade and run down to my lower back. But i tell u what as i laid there on that table It was worth the pain i wasnt embarrassed i felt renewed....It was my gift to myself. Good luck ladies ya'll will be getting ur tatoos i'd love to see pics of them when u do.

Oh yeah i get reminded every now and then more if i get to the point where I'm hungry. I find what helps me is to graise between meals, for you that wont help yet cuz of the stage your at but later down the road. i usually do a handful of nuts or raisins, or apple slices without the peel with a little Peanut Butter. This helps me so I dont scarf down my meals.

BJL, I hope to get my first tattoo on my 50th next year! I am going to do an ankle Bracelet with my daughter and granddaughters name on it. I will be scared because i heard they hurt around that area, but I am going to do it!! My gift to myself!

lol I love it!!!! I got tattoos also once i felt comfortable being half naked if front of a stranger. I got five butterflies down my back representing new life. And one smack dab on my buttcheek just for fun. A USDA CHOICE meat STAMP. LMBO.... Have fun with it you deserve it.

112lbs lost as of this morning. I am 175. I looked in the mirror and said girl you look so skinny. I will make it to my goal of 160 by my birthday in January. Rocking 50 with a new me. You see with perseverence you can do it. It takes work. It takes dedication. Did I slip up ever? Yes I did and spent six months of ice cream fetishing but then I got myself back on deck and feeling very proud of myself now. I have not weighed 160 for 31 years since I gave birth to my son. Gonna get a tatoo for my birthday that says " I learned to be in love with myself" !

Oh yeah i get reminded every now and then more if i get to the point where I'm hungry. I find what helps me is to graise between meals, for you that wont help yet cuz of the stage your at but later down the road. i usually do a handful of nuts or raisins, or apple slices without the peel with a little Peanut Butter. This helps me so I dont scarf down my meals.

I'm going to be a rough but I've got to say it.
So, you are obese and your wife doesn't support your effort to get a tool to help you to take control of your life??? Wonder what her thoughts will be when she calls 911 when that heart attack comes. Or, how will she treat you when you go blind from diabetes??? How 'bout when the doctor tells you they will have to amputate your foot because of diabetes???
Terrible thoughts I know but they are real for the obese. I was going stinking blind as a result of diabetes and obesity.
Put on you big boy britches, call the whole family in and tell them DAMMIT I'M DOING THIS BECAUSE I WANT TO LIVE!!!!!!!!!!!!
We only have one life, make the most of it. You are like the rest of us here, we sat and watched. Well, I did a 12.2 mile 20 obstacle course 1 year from surgery. I'm not sitting on the sidelines anymore.

Wow, that's tough!! I was very lucky that my wife supported me 100%. On the other hand I had 2/3 sons that were totally against me going forward. My sons are now very supportive, but, it took awhile. I understand why you don't want others to know. Opinions are broad, especially from loved ones.
Just my 2 cents and only my opinion. I do have to agree with Sojourner's comments concerning your wife, trust and marriage. In addition to what she posted I will add my opinions and please take them as just opinions. As you already have heard that this is a life changing decision and I'm not just talking about the weight loss and health. This will affect both yourself and your wife's life and marriage, in both good and bad. Starting your band journey without your wife's input and yes permission will cause hard feelings and insecurities. Think of it this way, if you went and purchased a new house on your own and did it without your wife's input and approval........... When I say life changes, here are a few examples. You will have physical and mental good days and bad days and you will need your primary support system whom is your wife and you do need her by your side. Your diet and eating habits will change tremendously and if your wife cooks she will have to be sensitive to what you can and can't eat. When the weight loss becomes very noticeable she will possibly feel insecure. Trust me you will get attention. You will need someone to talk to when you are scared out of your wits due to stuck episodes, fills, PB's etc. Whom better than a supportive spouse.
I would have a heart to heart talk with her and take her to one of the seminars and a doctors appointment. As far as others opinions, I would ask her to keep it quiet until closer to your surgery date. All the negative opinions will change - trust me, unless they become jealous of you. If you wish to talk some more send me a pm. Good luck. Jake

I had a similar experience with my girlfriend...she said she felt "like I wasnt going to end up doing it". It quickly changed when I took her to the initial LapBand Meetings and started the prep work. Perhaps the same will happen to you, regardless you are doing this for you and that is what counts. Eventually they should come around.

Mine has gotten better and I enjoy it so much more!!! Losing weight makes me feel Sexy.... Even though I have a longgggg way to go!!!

The more weight I lose the more energy I have and the sexier I feel.. Absolutley love puttin on somethin sexy I couldnt have worn before n showin it off to my hubby even got some sexy costumes n heels .. Im still big but my hubby loves my curves and with each pound lost I become more confident in my skin which comes out in the bedroom.. I used to be lights off covers on still half dressed now im down to be on top callin the shots n hes lovin it which makes me even more confident ..

FLORIDAYS U LOOK AMAZING!

You know Whats awesome my husband is finding it easier to shop for me too. i think sometimes hes having more fun with my new body. Im like a new toy so he finds all kinds of stuff for me to wear.....lol

Now and always!

Great Job girls.....hard work pays off so sweet

BJL, your weight loss is super impressive! You deserve a congratulations too!!!

I had my official 6 month follow up visit today and I am so thrilled! I had surgery on May 14th and I am down 89 lbs since I started my journey on April 2nd. 6 months ago a spent a lot of time reading success stories, and that really helped keep me motivated thru the terrible pre-op phase and I can now say this had been very hard, but very worth it. My head hunger is finally going away and my cravings are less. I am adjusting well to life with the band as tool, and the rest is up to me. My next goal: I REALLY want to tell people I see at Christmastime who i havent seen in a while that I am officially down "100 lbs". A lofty goal, I know, but a girl can dream.
For all who are struggling: hang in there. It does get better. Read others successes and picture yourself there. You have the power to make your own decisions. Do you really want that cake or do you want skinny jeans this time next year? The more weight you lose and the more compliments you get, it does keep you motivated. Celebrate all goals, big and small and keep the faith!

Ive been doing hair for 20 years...I just got banded on the 6th and anasteshia is the worst mine is breaking...there is an amazing Shampoo called Nioxin it helps with breakage and falling out its 3 steps shampoo conditioner an a scalp treatment..it will slow it down..keratin treatments are also a good idea along with 4-6 week trims...add Knox Gelatin to warm tea helps strengthen nails and hair