BayougirlMrsS

3 minutes ago, WishMeSmaller said:

Thank you all! @GreenTealael, that dress looks slamming on you!

@BayougirlMrsS and @ms.sss apparently I do I have long legs...they were just lost in the fat🙄🙄🙄 I had no idea 🤷‍♀️

@ms.sss until I get my veins fixed I absolutely refuse to wear miniskirts all the time. After that, we will talk. Lol! Also, I don’t think I am quite ready for the full skankification until after plastics when the extra flabby skin goes bye and I have boobs again. I am hoping for creation of a waist, but I will be satisfied with loss of the spare tire of loose skin and creation of perky boobs. I may never wear a bra again. Just you wait...skankified Wish coming your way. 😂😂

@WishMeSmaller..... OHHHHH I saw the perfect "skankified" perky boob dress.... https://us.shein.com/Solid-Mock-Neck-2-In-1-Peekaboo-Dress-p-2277372-cat-1727.html Like who would really wear this..??

@WishMeSmaller ..... this to me screams your name..... https://us.shein.com/Collared-Buttoned-Half-Placket-Split-Side-Dress-p-2185220-cat-1727.html @ms.sss you too....

Well Sh!t.... Now i'm on Shein looking at dresses. Tell me what yall think.....

https://us.shein.com/Tie-Dye-Halter-Neck-Backless-Bodycon-Dress-p-2166870-cat-1727.html

https://us.shein.com/One-Shoulder-Contrast-Panel-Jumpsuit-p-2102449-cat-1860.html

https://us.shein.com/Ruffle-Straps-Crisscross-Back-Knot-Front-Slip-Jumpsuit-p-2233760-cat-1860.html

https://us.shein.com/Floral-Print-Puff-Sleeve-Ruffle-Trim-Dress-p-2298139-cat-1727.html

27 minutes ago, ms.sss said:

oooooooooohhhhhhhhh. You are built for super-modeling, or wearing a wonder woman costume.

1st pic: I am in love with those mules...I love shoes that are similar colour as one's skin...makes you look, yep, taller. lolololzzz. The dress is lovely on you, and your shoulders look a-may-zing. Appropriate to be the hottest girl at a dignified event where every one is holding their liquor well, lol. Now i feel that you could probably go 3 sizes smaller to get to skankified level (if that is a level you want to go, of course! lol. its not a place for everyone.)

2nd pic: Ok, now we see where the true source of your powers lie. Your legs. They look loooooooooong alright. I think maybe you should only wear miniskirts. All the time. 😍

100% agree..... You look great. I also suffer from "long leg envy".... @WishMeSmaller you look amazing

On 4/10/2021 at 8:29 AM, WishMeSmaller said:

Starting from the bottom up. AGREE! It is not a person’s responsibility to control other’s reactions to the way they look. I HATE the “she was asking for it” thing by “dressing sexy” or drinking to much, and the “boys will be boys” attitude. I was annoyed with the post I believe you are referencing, but was just ignoring it, because that is what I was conditioned to do by the societal norms of my (our) generation. You are right to say something. Thank you! 😘

Lol...super funny about the height thing. I get a lot of comments about how tall I look now that I am no longer obese. Apparently my legs look longer now, too. Some pretty cool, unexpected stuff with the weight loss. 😊😊

I WANT a body con dress, but I am struggling to find one this year with all of the looser clothing styles. I WANT you to burst into green flames (lol 😂😂) when I post a picture of this mythical dress with some pretty cool heels I bought recently. I have a dress on order that “might” qualify. I will post when I find this apparent unicorn 🦄😂

that last body con dress you posted in looks amazing on you.... Try Shein... If you are not in a hurry, you can get cute stuff and really good prices. I've bought from them a few times. Not the best of quality... but still good.

On 4/9/2021 at 3:39 PM, summerset said:

Just thinking it could be two ways around.

Leaving the boards -> getting lost and gaining

Started gaining -> leaving the boards because it's too depressing reading about the success of other users

I'm trying to think when i left for a while i did gain weight. Not sure if that was from not coming, having the band removed, are the 30lbs gain.... i'm sure it all factors in.
But either way, i don't miss a few of the people...... But, i do miss a lot of them.

4 hours ago, summerset said:

Did they stop coming here because of the weight gain or was it completely unrelated?

You know.... i really don't know. but a very good question.... I do have a few that are doing ok..... one just revised to the sleeve and he is doing great.... down 100lbs

@alissajs....So glad your brought it up in counseling... and that he went with you. That is huge.

as for....this...
As for those telling me to stop being so sensitive and just get over it, I am happy that you might be able to do that. However, I am allowed to feel however I feel (whether you think that is right, wrong or indifferent) and you dont know the background I come from...just as I dont know your background. Something that hurts you might not hurt me, and vice versa. Thankfully we all have our place in this world. I'm ok with being sensitive at times. Its not always a bad thing

I, like you, am sensitive and could not just get over it either.... I play crap over and over in my head. You did the right thing bring it up and the only place to go it up.... Maybe make a safe spot in your home where the two of you can come together and talk about you and your feelings... and him and his feelings. He is going through changes with you. But you can't keep it bottled up.

Yesssss.... me too. Plus you're never to old to learn.... Lots of people that are on my friend's list here don't come. but i have a lot of them on my fb page.

So I asked this of another friend.... but i'm extending here also....

Tell me about your favorite vacation. Tim and I are trying to plan something and we keep changing our minds.... We are Looking at June 1-5th. We want to stay in the states. Were thinking about the USVI of St thomas/John/Crox.....and it is still possible.... but we have to get to planning.
Mind you.... I don't want to go where there are a lot of kids.... Relaxing is high on the list of things to do...... We were also thinking Napa Wine Train.... or down to Destin, Fl.... Really we could any place.

15 hours ago, catwoman7 said:

yea - it was awhile ago. They went over to Obesity Help for awhile, but they left after a few months over there.

I remember Lipstick...... she hated me .... good riddance b*tches..... I think she may have gotten kicked off that one too.
I do miss my friend Dub. I do still talk to a lot of people that dont come her anymore. Most all have gained all their weight back. Two that were my inspirations.....

3 minutes ago, Bari_KS said:

LipstickLady was permanently banned here in 2016.

i do remember the name.

1 hour ago, summerset said:

He and the "tough lovers division" that got banned a while ago, lol.

how did i miss this.....

11 hours ago, Mark P3 said:

Hi friends

I’m a bit worried because I’m 2 weeks post op and 5 days into my purée food diet and I hear of people being stuffed quick but I am always hungry and snacking on tuna, egg salad, or ricotta bake. I do eat yogurt but man I just ate 4 oz of tuna salad and could’ve eaten more. I’m getting worried has anyone else felt like this?

Thanks
Mark

Just because you CAN eat a lot of food, doesn't mean you SHOULD. The dr. and NUT give you a plan to follow. It's for a reason. Portion Control ............ and remember you can't eat what you don't buy.

I will admit I have a few.... but like someone said, been here so long, they have weeded themselves out. I'm sure I'm on a few as I know I can be blunt. Have had some differences of opinion.... But there is a few people still here that think they are the "be all". I like coming here and meeting people, talking, helping, and have them help me.

Just for the record.... If you can read this..... it means I like you.

@Tim C Congrats.... So proud of you.

39 minutes ago, ms.sss said:

In my pathetic, personal protest to the new stay-out-home order going into effect tonite in my area, I have vowed to only wear pajamas for the next 4 weeks...even to the grocery store, dammit. This effing new development has effectively cancelled a long-awaited and fraught-secured cottage getaway that was planned for the end of this month. Arrrrrrrrrrrrgggggggggggg.

Covid sucks the big one.

It could suck my big one, if I had one. Maybe Mr. can loan his. Actually on second thought, it can find its own.

Arrrrrrrggggggggggg.

why are yall having to stay in for 4 weeks? Is covid on the rise there?
Don't hate me, but things are opening up more and more. Cases are way down. Mr. got his vacc #1 was ok, shot #2 was horrible..... he got super sick. High fever, chills, shakes, body aches he most slept for about 2 days. He said it was worse than when he had Covid....
I sure hope things get back to normal.... soon. We have a vacation planned to St. Thomas in June....

9 hours ago, Arabesque said:

I agree with @ms.sss, @BayougirlMrsS. The self tanner seems to be a subtle match to your naturally tanned skin & it’s a lovely tone. Those orange ones look so fake.

Oh no, @GreenTealael. Why does this sort of thing always happen to your favourite pants, dress, shirt, etc. Sometimes if you spray hair spray on the paint stain it will help it come out in the wash if it’s a water-based paint. If you can’t get it out you can always say you bought them as hand painted leggings. 😁

@Arabesque Its still here as of Wednesday am. No streaking no color transfer.... this might be a winner.

I tried a self tanner on my wrist..... this one is a spray and supposed to be for the face. What do you think?

https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B081KHK72J/ref=ppx_yo_dt_b_asin_title_o01_s00?ie=UTF8&psc=1

I only sprayed once this am at 6..... this was 8 hours later

@alissajs Ok, so if i'm reading this correctly, you have been married for just over a year. Is that correct? And if I read between the lines, he did something besides this that is already put your marriage on alert..... Is this correct?

Coming from my POV.... I can see where it could be hurtful what he said. But, like a few have said, women don't have the same POV as men in certain situations. "Most" men can get over things more quickly..... I bet he didn't even realize what he said (not excusing it)..... I, like you, would be going over it in my head again and again. I have a husband now that easily picks up on my feeling (normally written all over my face). My x did not. But he really didn't care either. He was/still is a very self-centered controlling man. If you continue to "let it go".... next thing you know... You will have years of resentment..... till you are planning your husband's death in your head while you lay next to him in bed..... Just saying it could happen.

From experience, this will fester like a boil on a butt..... Eventually, you are going to have to pop it and let the healing begin. It will either go away or take over your entire a$$. If you guys can't handle this, please don't have any kids.... at least not till you had years of therapy....Imagine all the problems you have now x1000000000000..... and now you have another human involved.

@kristieshannon How did the visit go on Friday?.... I pm'd you

17 hours ago, ms.sss said:

First time seeing our parents in person since xmas. Weather was nice enough to ditch the coats and just need a light jacket (yay!) to do our visiting on their driveways. Really wanted to wear an evening gown but was talked out of it.

Kid: "I see you are going for denim on denim. Interesting." LOLOLOLzzzzzz

You look great..... but seriously I would have paid good money to see you Rock the "driveway" in a gown.

P.S. I don't know if he moved the stomach up to the chest, but this is getting ridiculous...

work day. OMG I need a tan.... but I can't do the tanning bed anymore.... Anyone use self-tanner that they can recommend...???

Yes the skirt is now too big... and my boobs keep growing.....OMG WTF

1 hour ago, JaysWife said:

A little background before I get to my real rant lol. My mom and I have a strained (almost non-existent) relationship. We only talk a few times a year. She has always been tall and thin (5'9" 130lbs) I however have always been heavy. I have been fighting with my insurance for the last 7 months to be approved for wls.

A few days ago my mom calls me and asks how everything is going with the surgery. I tell her about the struggle with ins. and that I'm hoping for surgery next month.

Her comment to that is the kicker.

I hope everything works out so you can finally be skinny and pretty and feel good about yourself.

Like WTF?? My self esteem is already in the toilet, but now I've just been reminded that because I'm fat I can't be pretty.

Sometimes I wish I hadn't told anyone about wanting wls. The amount of unsolicited advice and criticism that has been more hurtful than anything is crazy. Thank God for this site. I don't feel like such an outsider in here.

so my jaw hit the floor... what a horrible thing to say. My 2 cents..... don't tell her or anyone else about the SX. You will thank me in the long run. No family, no friends, no co workers..... if you can uber to and from... Do it. People are mean and judgemental.... they will say the most horrible things.... Even the people who love you the most.

If your mom ask, tell her you changed your mind and you are going to diet and exercise. I can tell you right not, this "mother" will continue to make cracks and will not be supportive. If she asked, tell her you don't want to talk to her about it anymore.... you do you.....

1 hour ago, kristieshannon said:

Over the last year my previously supportive husband has grown increasingly insecure. The icing on the cake was my plastic surgery in January. Although he seems to like being seen with the “hot” wife, he’s also incredibly insecure, and has suddenly, after 7 years, decided it’s important to him to have a subservient wife. Something I’ve never been. No amount of reassurance is talking him off this ledge. Ugh.

Yep.... was married 26 years..... Same here, it got worse after PS. But, mine was never supportive of my WLS ever and never supportive of the PS..... I begged for the last few years to go to counseling, but he would not go. He regrets that now, but what's done is done.

I have a wonderfully supportive husband now..... So happiness is achievable.

15 hours ago, Arabesque said:

What a lovely pxt @ANewJourneyAwaits. You’re gorgeous. Congrats on your weight loss so far too.

Went to a launch of some new labels at my favourite shoe store last night. Crab meat finger sandwiches (not for me though) & Pol Roger champagne. It was a really good night. 😁 Wore my new low rise Vegan leather pants & gold sandals from one of the new labels. Got a special preview earlier in the week before anyone else did & they let me buy them. Yes! Just had to fib a little & say I bought them just before the launch event started.

Love them..... where did you get them? You look amazing.