To answer your question about starting over, I would say: get to your doctor and don't be ashamed at all, because there are lots of people in the same situation.
I am sort of in the same boat, banded October 26 '09, I have lost only 15# and am read to start being more accountable.
I want a buddy!!!!
I just got a fill last week, but do not feel any more restriction than before the fill.
I need to get off sugar, because I eat candy & can't stop the revolving problem w/ sweets & need to just get back on a low-glycemic, sugar busters type of eating.
Today I started to log food on fitday.com.
I would like a fitday.com buddy, maybe to exchange calories eaten during the day, and to be accountable for 30 minutes of exercise a day.
I live in Illinois, would like buddy and/or buddies.
That is where I am starting.