B9, I totally get it. I was banded 8/31-I was prepared for the surgery and gas pain, but didn't have any. What I was NOT prepared for, was what I refer to as the "mind freak"-OMG-I cried when people came to visit, then I'd cry when they left. I to, have been struggling with feeling lonely also-but what doesn't make sense is that I have great supports all around me, I'm single and live alone-go figuer? I wonder if it kinda like grief-maybe we were used to soothing ourseles with food, and now that we have the band, we really can't do that anymore-like we lost our"friend". I don't know, I just throwing it out there and wanted to reassure you that others are feeling as you are. Good luck-keep posting...