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BMAN....Sorry to hear about your weekend. I had a crappy weekend too, but just in a different way. I am a single Mom and while I tend to think I have a good relationship at this point w/my Ex, clearly its not as good as I think b/c he NEVER remembers to even wish me a happy mothers day!! Its not like I'm asking for an award or anything, but just an acknowledgement from him would be nice! I dunno...Mothers Day to me is kind of like Valentines Day....It just makes me realize that I'm alone and its really depressing. I've been single now for almost 6 yrs and I still have yet to have a serious, real loving relationship!! I'm not sure why, but I seem to be the girl that guy want to sleep with but not date (and no, I'm not a slut that gives it up easily!)....and its just frustrating! I don't know what I'm doing wrong!!! Anyways, enough about me and my depression! I wish I had the day off today and could spend it in bed too! lol But...I'm going to work, and go home and get on my elliptical b/c I know that will help me feel better.... SASSY.....CONGRATULATIONS On your Graduation!!! What are you going to do now?? Go to Disney?? LOL CLAUD...thanks for the well wishes in any language! I've always wished I was bi lingual! JILL....Congrats on the size 16s!!! Way to go!!! I think I'm almost into an 18...and I can't wait to be in the Teens Again!!! My scale is finally moving again...YEAH! only 2 more pounds to get to my 1st 50 pounds off goal!

I just wanted to wish all the MOMS out there HAPPY MOTHERS DAY!!!!!

Hey Ladies! Boy, it is quiet in here! I Hope that means you're all off exercising!! Yep...I got my butt on the torture machine this AM and will do the same tomorrow, even though it's mothers day and I really could give myself an excuse not to! NAT...thanks for the suggestion about Salvation Army. Evilah, this is a thread for a group of women that all got banded around the same time, and we are trying to be steady losers. You're more than welcome to join in! Unfortunately I do not have the time or talen to alter my own clothes! Ok, so I"m off....hope you're all having a good weekend!

NAT...glad you got a good nights rest!! I am eating light today cause I am TIGHT!!! Took me 45 min to eat my Tuna for lunch today! NOT that I'm complaining! BK...saw your new hair color pic on the yahoo group...VERY CUTE!!! And I agree...most people waaay underestimate how much we ACTUALLY Weigh! But, that's not necessarily a bad thing right?? STEPH...I'll tell you what you told me If you're not sure about the fill, do it anyways!! you can always go back for an unfill if you need it! Make it a small one if you want..just .25 or something to see if that makes the difference that you need. Survivor was so good last night!! You might be able to catch it online like you can w/the ABC shows...not sure if CBS does that or not. Hope you all have a great weekend!! I'm taking my youngest son to see Spiderman in IMAX Tomorrow, I can't wait!! And I hereby promise to get on the elliptical 2x as well!! So make sure you bug me about it! OH, and if anyone has grown out of their size 18/20 clothes and wants to donate them, feel free to send them to ME! I'll even pay for shipping!! I'm really looking for pants more than anything at this point b/c my size 22s are way too baggy, but I swore I was not going to buy any more pants until they were at least an 18! I did splurge a litte and bought a jeans jacket to go over the sleeveless dress I bought at Eddie Bauer in an XL (No extra Xs on there!) and a blouse and pair of shorts.....but NO PANTS! lol Do you realize how expensive it gets when you start feeling better about yourself and actually WANT To take care of your hair/nails, clothes, shoes, etc?? Geesh!!

OK Boo.....If I can get my ass on the torture machine YOU CAN TOO! Go girl Go!!! I did 25 minutes tonight. I'm really going to try and get into the habit of doing this Regularly so you can kick my ass in return! NAT...I'm sure after the past few days you're exhausted! Hope you get some rest girl! KAYDOT...Wow...sounds like you're going to have an intense rotation!! Good luck w/that! Hopefully you'll still be able to check in once in a while! Ok...I'm off to watch Survivor! TTYL

NAT....so sorry to hear about your scare, but glad the little man is OK! I've been really busy too, so I will try to catch up w/you all later on tonight! Hopefully I will be able to report that I got on the torture machine

KAYDOLL....good to see you girl!!! Your pics were FABULOUS! As my best friends little boy would say...You looked "fergilicious"! NAT...Congrats on the compliments!! Always nice to hear, I know! STEPH...Did you know you can burn about 500 calories an hour just GARDENING!?? Who knew!? So I definitely got my workout yesterday, even though I didn't get on the torture machine! LOL My doggie and I went for a really nice long walk tonight....it is beautiful weather outside! BOO....So sorry to hear about your Man troubles and the weight gain!! But you know we've said this before to others, and we'll say it to you...when you're struggling, That's when you need to come here and vent the most! We're here for you if you need a shoulder to lean on or a kick in the ass! SOOO glad to hear that the breast isn't as bad as it could have been, and know its still stressful....but we're here for ya girl!! Ok, so I'm at about 900-1000 calories today b/c I had quiche for dinner (didn't want meat cuz I was too afraid of it getting stuck like Pork did for me last night). Got in some exercise today, and am feeling pretty good! Only a few more pounds til my 50 pound mark!! I hope to be there...maybe by Mothers Day? LOL We'll see! Have a great evening everyone!

SASSY....I added you! You're in and can post away! Although we don't post there often....we're there! NAT...at least you did 20 min! I did so much gardening/yard work today that I was just too beat to get on the torture machine! But, I figure the yardwork counts for something right?? I'll try to get on it tomorrow! You all keep bugging me a about it! I know how you feel like on one hand you're so much lighter, yet still have so far to go! Today I noticed some Saggy skin in my Inner Thigh area!!! I have never had that before when I lost weight...but I guess it means I'm getting older and my skin isn't as elastic as it used to be! :-( Guess I'll definitely have to be looking into the plastic surgery when i get to goal!

:rockon: :wow2: BMAN!!!! YOU GO GIRL!!! I think the last time I was a size 10 I was in Middle School!!! My GOAL is just to get to a size 12! I Can't imagine getting into a 10! CONGRATULATIONS!!! STEPH....I haven't gotten on my elliptical (yet), BUT....I've done a bunch of yardwork this AM so I did work up a Sweat! I haven't measured lately, but know that I should! BK...good luck w/your party! CLAUD...Sounds like your cousins were all Jealous!! NAT....any word on your friends baby?? Hope mom and baby are doing OK!

SASSY...you have to go to yahoo groups and search for a group called "Steadies" and then click to join. Once I get your request, I can approve you to join the group! C'mon over!! STEPH....Those compliments must have felt nice! I have to admit I'm a bit jealous...I still have not gotten any real compliments from anyone who didn't know I had the surgery! Oh well...I KNOW I look better, even if they don't say so! AND....you'll be happy to know I did not allow myself to post here this AM Until I did 25 min. on my Elliptical!! So one down 1 to go for the weekend! Thanks for kicking my ass! I talked to the new guy last night for 2 hrs on the phone and am about to go out and meet him at a Pet Expo thingy. He's bringing his dogs, but I'm leaving mine at home b/c I traumatized mine enough yesterday by taking her to the vet for a UTI! WISH ME LUCK! :bananajump: I found out he has girl "friends"...so I hope he's not just looking at me as another FRIEND! NAT...I've had some hair loss, but I had some prior to the surgery before, so it's not really much different for me! Hope you all have a glorious day!

Ok....all you Grey's Anatomy Fans....You'll know what I mean when I just say SERIOUSLY!???? This last fill ROCKS!!!!! All I've had to eat today is a sausage pattie for b.fast, and some tuna fish for lunch...and it's 6PM and I'm STILL Not even hungry! I'm a gonna drop some Serious Poundage this month, I just know it!! Especially since Steph is also going to kick my ass onto the elliptical machine! Oh yeah, and as for last nights episode....Although I enjoyed Addisons little vacation, I'm not sure I'd watch the spinoff show! But Survivor....Yau Man is gonna WIN! I just know it!

STEPH...If I wasn't sitting in a starbucks waiting for my car to be fixed, I'd be on the Elliptical! How 'bout I promise I'll work out at least 2x this weekend!? Make sure you hold me to it! I hope everything goes OK at the Dr. this am..... NAT...Thanks for those articles!! I have an exercise ball so I definitely need to get rollin on it! I definitely need to do some Arm work as I've noticed I've got the flabby wings when I wave...it sucks! Glad to hear you're feeling sexy again too! My scale is moing too!! Down 2 pounds since I got my fill on Wed! Woo hoo!!! I am definitely tight (took me 50 min. this AM to finish a sausage pattie), but not to the point where its uncomfortable, just to the point where I actually have to Eat and Behave like a Bandster!! I just signed up to get some professional phototgrahs taken by this INCREDIBLE photographer in July....so I want to be down at least 20 more pounds by then so I can look somewhat presentable in the pics! I want to get some taken of me and my boys before my oldest dissappears off into his own life in a year! Plus, if she gets some good ones of him, we can possibly use them as his Sr. Picture next year. So my Goal for May is to 1) Lose another 10 pounds at least and get solidly into the 240s....and 2) To Exercise at least 2x a week! (you all gotta get on my case about this one!)..... I HEAR YOU Loud and Clear LADIES.....WE'RE BACK AND IN CHARGE!!! yeah!

:clap2: :wow2: CONGRATULATIONS SASSY!!

SWEETHOT!!! Welcome back Girl!!! Don't get discouraged! Talk to us and tell us whats going on! We'll help as best we can! SASSY....Ditto what everyone else said! I am definitely tightER w/this last fill...and like Steph said, I can't gulp liquids anymore, I definitely have to SIP and take the Teeny Tiny Bites that I'd been NOT doing for so long now otherwise I know I'll regret it, BUT.....I can at least still get some food down, although not a lot! (YEAH!) So go for a slight unfill if you need one...you can always go in for more if they take out too much! NAT...sorry to hear work is so stressful!!! I once used to get so stressed out at work I literally got Hives every day I was there! It sucked! Luckily I'm not there anymore! STEPH....I need to get my ass kicked into exercise...seems like everyone else is doing so good w/it but I keep slackin there!! Congrats on the scale moving!! Do any of you have the band that holds 4cc?? Just curious if you do how much you have in it already?? I have only had a Protein smoothie from Robeks today (400calories) and I TRIED to eat a few cheez-its, but only got maybe 6-8 in me before I said 'no more'! Woo hoo!!! So I think I've maybe had 500 calories so far today! I guess I may need to be careful that I get ENOUGH calories in, although for a couple of days I know my body needs the shock since I had been up to 1400 calories a day! OH Yeah!! got another email from "the guy" today! Said he cables been down for 2 days and he's been busy at work but hoped I was having a good week and would write more later tonight...so we'll see! Type to you all later!

Good Morning Lovely Bandster Ladies!!! *PHEW*....Glad to know I'm not the only one who lost steam this month! So....we all ready to GET BACK TO IT!??? I CAN'T HEAR YOU!!!!! So....I went for my 3rd fill this am w/my NEW Fill Dr...(a Woman Dr. who also has been banded) and she told me 2 things that kind of surprised me! 1) My type of Birth Control Pill can affect my tightness b/c I have the BC pill that has 3 levels of hormones and she said I should switch to one that just has one consistent level....Interesting! 2) She also told me I have a band that only holds 4CCs!!! I thought I had a band that Held the 10CCs, but apparently I have the 10cm Band that only holds 4ccs, not the other way around! So I must have misunderstood my surgeon when he said the number 10! Needless to say, I was a bit freaked out b/c I thought I had a lot more leeway as far as fills go, but it turns out I don't!! I'm now at 3.50 CCs in my 4.0 BAND! UGH!!! That means this one better kick in!! Although I do think its going to be tight, but like SASSY said, that's not such a bad thing is it? BMAN....I'm so sorry to hear about your EX....I remember how devastated I was when I found out my Ex had been cheating on me w/a woman he worked with and who I had Babysat her kids for!! UGH....It sucks...MEN SUCK sometimes....but Just be thankful that you found out and are able to live your life w/out that kind of person in it! Now is the time to focus on you girl!! Be the BEST YOU YOU CAN BE!! (then rub it in his face of course! LOL). NAT...happy B.day to your little man!! I hope you're not having the party at your house! ANNIE....Let us know how your fill goes!! I think mine is pretty tight....but I haven't had anything but Water yet, so we'll have to see when it comes time to actually eat! Hope you have have a great Bandster Day.....WE CAN DO THIS!!!

SASSY....sounds like you got a good fill! YEAH!! Congrats! BK....glad you are over your stomach bug! KAY...you're just now having your first PB!?? You lucky girl! I, unfortunately, have had it happen a few times b/c I still apparently learned how to keep my big trap shut and take smaller bites! ugh...it does suck, but at least it makes you stop eating for a while! lol STEPH....I'll definitely keep you posted on things w/the new guy! Unfortunately I haven't heard from him since Sat. when I replied to his email, but I know he had a big project launching this week so I figure he's just not thinking about it. He also may be putting off a 'date' until he's had a chance to talk to me more in a group setting since we have a wine group happy hour next week! Congrats on the NSV Compliment at work!! I still have not had anyone who didn't know I had surgery comment on my weight loss, but oh well...I'm not doing it for them, I'm doing it for me! I go first thing in the AM for my 3rd fill w/my new fill Dr. I've heard she's very good and personable, although I wished I could do it under fluoro, I think it'll be ok! I'll report back once it's done! NAT...Good to see you!!! I would LOVE to see those docs you got today! I know I definitely need them! You can upload them into our yahoo group and make them available in the files section BMAN and ANNIE....It'll soon be Friday and hopefully you'll get a break! Have a good week everyone!

Hey everyone! Steph.....yes, you're right, I just needed to be patient!! Unfortunately it sounds like he's got another busy week this week so I'm not sure when I'll hear from again, but at least I got confirmation that he IS interested! Glad to hear you're on track!! I am going for my 3rd fill on Wed. w/my new Fill Dr...and I'm a bit nervous!!! I still have days where I feel restriction and sometimes I don't....so I'm not sure if it's that I need more fill or just need to be a better bandster, but I figure even if I just get a little bit put in, it won't hurt! And if I'm too tight...well, then that should really kick start things again! LOL The weird thing is my scale actually budged after my weekend away (and not stepping on the scale)....it was down 1.5 pounds! go figure!! UGH.....oh well! I'll never understand this damn weight loss! I did start going through my closet last night and put all my too big clothes in a pile to give to goodwill!! And I found a bunch of size 20 pants that I hadn't been able to wear in over a year that I can now fit back into so that was FUN! JILL...good to see you back here and posting! I'm thinking about getting a bike too! there is a long trail near my house that is perfect for biking on and I really need to get into some good exercise! I'm actually trying to get into a routine (once again) w/my elliptical this week....wish me luck! Glad to hear you dropped in April!!! I was stuck the whole month but am hoping my fill on Wed. will change that and May will get me into the solid 240s where I haven't been since 1999!!! Hope you all have a great Monday!

Hey Ladies! STEPH...sorry to hear about the binge, but hopefully you can just chalk it up to a mistake and try not to do it again!! Remember this is a process...not an overnight fix and although our Stomachs may be telling us to STOP....our brains haven't been reprogrammed yet! I'm actually up in your neck of the woods this weekend! I'm in Easton PA w/my sons and parents looking at Lafayette College for my oldest. We head home tomorrow and are stopping in Hershey for lunch (God Help ME!) Hang in there...just get back on track and you'll be OK! OH...and Guess who emailed me today!??? THAT GUY!! He appologized for not responding earlier, said work had him swamped this week, and that he'd like to go out sometime! So...we'll see!! Hope you all have a great weekend!

Annie...holy cow woman! I wish I could be as motivated as you in getting to the gym!! I guess if I did that, I'd still be losing a little bit too....ugh. Claud...hang in there....take it one day at a time and just try to focus on you as much as you can! I know every time you hear from him it's gonna hurt. But time does heal! Steph.....Wow...you waited 1.5 hrs!?? I'd have been pissed! lol But I'm impatient to begin with LOL (just listen to me about the guy!). I've resigned myself to the fact that I'll just have to wait and see what happens w/the guy when I see him at the next event in a few weeks....oh well! If it's meant to be it'll be right?

Annie...yes, we'll definitely have to compare notes on our fills! Have you been stuck in your weight loss too?? I can't seem to get my scale to budge! BMAN....Congrats on the promo! Sorry to hear you've got a mess on your hands, but think about how great you'll look to your boss when you get it all cleaned up! You all crack me up...Thanks for the reminder that we can't live with men, can't live w/out 'em!! Seems like a lot of us are having man problems lately! My guy friend says to not write him off yet, but my heart needs to b/c I don't want to get my hopes up for something that I thought might be possible but now seems not to be. I realized that's why I'm having such a hard time w/this 'blow off'...is that I had finally gotten happy just being on my own and accepted that I may never have Love again, and then the possibility came along and swept me off my Happy Track! UGH....so time to get back on that "happy being just me" track! Anyone else going to join me!? SASSY....good for you for calling back and standing your ground!! You Go girl!! CLAUD...Hope you're hanging in there!!

Annie....you and me will get our fills on the same day!! woo hoo!! Claud...glad to hear you've got that chin up and You're movin on girl!!! We're here for ya!! Men just plain suck! I still haven't heard from the guy that emailed me on Monday so I'm just gonna get him out of my head! Steph...let us know how the fills go!

Thanks for the reasurrance Steph about the guy....I will be patient, I promise! As for the fill...I'm with you there too!! I am still flip flopping back and forth as to whether or not I really need it or am I just not being a good enough bandster! But....I am eating around 13-1400 calories a day so I figure even if I get too tight for a little while, it won't kill me! Let us know how your fill goes!

Hey Ladies! Hope you're all doing OK.... CLAUD...I'm so sorry to hear your friend broke your heart...I've been there, done that! Just know that you deserve much better than someone who keeps secrets from you like having a child! So I have some man drama......I told you all I went to a winery on Sunday, well, I met a guy there and he emailed me yesterday to tell me how nice it was to talk to me and meet me and that he hoped to see me again soon at another group event. Well, I emailed him back and told him if he ever wanted to get together outside of the group, like go see a movie or something, that I'd be up for it. Well....of course it's now been 24 hrs and he hasn't responded so I'm thinking I scared him off but 2 friends (1 of them a guy) said that a) he was definitely interested by the tone of his email and I was not too aggressive in my response, but I'm the paranoid one! My best friend said if I don't hear from him by Thurs. to write him off, so I'm trying to be patient. I really liked this guy, so say some prayers that things work out! Anywhoo..that's my life while I wait for my next fill As for the needle thing...It has never hurt me, or bothered me, not having it be numbed, I'm like Steph I guess!

STEPH...you think the scale not moving for 2 weeks is bad!!? Try 5 weeks! :-( I go next week for my 3rd fill and can't wait! Congrats on the NSV!!! That is awesome!!! Its weeks like this when my scale hasn't moved that I wonder if I'll ever get into those sizes, but I just have to keep the faith, right!? Sassy...I've never had numbing for my fills either, although I'm not sure how my new fill Dr. will do it next week, but I'll let ya know!

Hope all you lovely ladies had a beautiful weekend!! Here in VA it was in the 80s and on Sat. I walked around DC ALL Day w/my friends (and my legs are hating me for it!). We had a blast...we ended the day at a comedy club and a delicious greek restaurant!! Yesterday I went to a winery w/a group of about 20 people and my best friend (sort of BF), fainted and we had to call 911 and get him to the hospital! It was really scarey, but he was fine after a few liters of fluids...he was just really dehydrated I guess. I am eagerly counting down til my fill next week.....realizing that I desprately need it! My scale has not budged at ALL in April :-( Very depressing! ALTHOUGH...when I was getting ready to go out yesterday, I did try on a pair of size 18 shorts and although they were not ready for public viewing, I could actually get them on and zip them! So I know those teens are right around the corner!! SASSY...sorry to hear you couldn't get a fill! I can't believe they can tell you based on the amount you've had that you do or don't need one. You should call back and tell them you can eat more than 1 cup of food at a time and you know you need a fill! JILL....CONGRATULATIONS on making it to onederland!! That is awesome!!! I can't wait to get there myself! STEPH...hopefully all your snow is melted and you got to enjoy some beautiful weather this weekend! NIKKI....glad your back posting. This is the place to be if you need support!! Hang in there, you'll get back on track! Just remember this is a process, not an overnight cure! (I have to remind myself ALL the time!) NAT....I'm sure you'll find some bootylicious outfit for the wedding! Ok, well, better get to work, talk to you all later!