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Agree with looking gaunt and ‘too thin’ when first hitting your healthy BMI range and then you do settle into your new body weight. I look soooo much better now then I did a couple of months ago.
Agree with not knowing what we really look like at a healthy weight. The whole body dysmorphia is a head trip. It takes time to really see who we are & how we look now.
BMI is calculated on your height & weight & there is a range of 18.5 - 25 to allow for your frame. If you have a large frame you would be very thin if you had a BMI of 18.5. Treat it as a guide. These are my thoughts though.
I’ve a medium frame and am now in the middle of the BMI range for my height. Believe me I still have thighs & boobies. I have a butt though it is part way down my thighs - ha. I’m not bony or skeletal and still have a decent pinch worthy layer of flesh/fat over my body.
In saying all that, find the weight at which you are healthy & happy. Find the weight that does not compromise the life you want to live.

IDK. Many here are at a healthy BMI and don’t look too thin, skeletal or ghostly. To each their own.

Body fat percentage is better than BMI. If you have access to a dexa scan or something similar go for it.

My goal was 140 because that's what I used to be a few years ago. My dietitian agreed I should be between 135-140. I am STILL losing weight and now at 120 and think I still look good. I am surprised because I thought I would look sickly. I am afraid to lose more though because I will be in kid's clothes. =/

So many people think they will look too thin at normal weight because being overweight is so normal that we have forgotten what normal weight should look like.

So many people think they will look too thin at normal weight because being overweight is so normal that we have forgotten what normal weight should look like.

So many people think they will look too thin at normal weight because being overweight is so normal that we have forgotten what normal weight should look like.

So many people think they will look too thin at normal weight because being overweight is so normal that we have forgotten what normal weight should look like.

So many people think they will look too thin at normal weight because being overweight is so normal that we have forgotten what normal weight should look like.

A side comment about being sick-looking...I found that immediately after my intentional weight loss (I was at a BMI of 23.2), I looked pretty Skeletor-ish and got my fair share of comments from others. My eyes sockets were dark and sunken, my neck looked sinewy and turkey-ish, the skin in various places looked melted-candle-ish, and I generally had a frail look about me (both as a self-assessment and of the opinion of others whom I trust).
Now, I am almost 7 months into maintenance, AND weigh 12 lbs LESS than my Skeletor phase (I'm at a BMI of 21 now), and personally I think (as do others I trust) look soooooo much better. My face has filled out (no more sunken eyes, my cheekbones don't look cadaver-y anymore), my neck lost its turkey look and I am looking surprisingly firmer and stronger all over (except my butt...still working on that, lol). Now, the fact I am eating more carbs, and keep up a regular exercise routine is likely a factor in these changes.
So I guess I'm saying that I think we need to let our bodies settle in a while before we decide that a certain weight results in a too sickly look.
...just a thought.
P.S. full disclosure though, I am getting an arm lift and side boob fix this week. Though in all honesty, if I hadn't already had this booked and paid for, I *could* consider not having the procedures because I don't hate them with the fire of a thousand suns like I used to...just maybe the one sun now. 😎

I could be you , I had a band in 2009 lost all my excess weight, kept it off for ages and then it stopped working.
I had a band to bypass revision in Jan and haven’t looked back. All my excess weight has come off - I now sit around 49kg and my diet is so much healthier. I can eat steak and chops and salads and there are no stuck episodes. I no longer waste nights out in restaurant loos because my first bite of food got stuck. To me my RNY does what the band was marketed to do. I know when i’ve had enough, I don’t get stuck, full is in my stomach not my throat and I can eat small amounts of healthy food and be satisfied.
Sugar causes me issues if I’m not careful but that is a good thing.
Good luck with whatever you decide to do but when deciding don’t write off the RNY, it is so much better than the band.

Well done, you look fabulous and I’m sure your horse is happy .

Well done, you look fabulous and I’m sure your horse is happy .

Well done, you look fabulous and I’m sure your horse is happy .

Well done, you look fabulous and I’m sure your horse is happy .

This question “comes up” all the time. I think the best response I have read is that generally they prefer you to wait until you are home from hospital

This question “comes up” all the time. I think the best response I have read is that generally they prefer you to wait until you are home from hospital

This question “comes up” all the time. I think the best response I have read is that generally they prefer you to wait until you are home from hospital

This question “comes up” all the time. I think the best response I have read is that generally they prefer you to wait until you are home from hospital

This question “comes up” all the time. I think the best response I have read is that generally they prefer you to wait until you are home from hospital

You shouldn’t need to cook seperate food. The whole family should be able to eat the same healthy meals. The main difference is that you will be eating smaller meals with less carbs. What are you eating that makes it so difficult?

Could it be possible that food is triggering the issues. Some foods ( generally high sugar items) give me the most horrendous palpitations and fatigue.
I agree that you need to go for ests but while you are waiting to get in keep a food diary and see if it is possible to pinpoint food/s that may be triggering it.
If you were female ( guessing you are a guy but I could be wrong) I would also suggest getting your hormones checked. I got awful palpitations when I started being menopausal.

I think the only way to fix it is a Tummy Tuck or lower body lift with a mons lift

Generally looser bowel motions are quite a normal consequence of gastric bypass. It is all to do with the different absorption post op. The first thing you should look at is what you are eating. Too much fat/sugar are going to cause problems.Lactose also causes issues for a lot of people postop
If you have checked your diet and there is no obvious cause then you should speak to your Dr. There are drugs they can give you that slow down the rate of gastric emptying.
You should also consider how bad the problem is. If you are passing loose motions all day long then yes you probably need help. However if it is just that they are unformed and more than previously but at a certain time of day you may be able to adjust your lifestyle to accomodate it. I have accepted that looser bowel motions are part of my new normal. They tend to be mainly in the early morning which means that it is best to be at home at this time. I don’t really have issues the rest of the time.

They are bad for the environment 😂