Jane_J

Hi MaryAnne, I think most experience some hair thinning, I certainly did. I was very careful to eat as much protein as possible and I took vitamin, calcium and collagen supplements to give my body as much help as possible. Eventually it grew back in and it's as if it never happened. VSG patients would not have the malabsorption issues that more drastic WLS does, so it should not be a long term issue for us. In fact I have read that any major surgery can trigger hair loss temporarily due to the body shock. So basically don't worry too much. Jane x

Hi Mellifrits, you are doing brilliantly, and I am very excited that this operation may help one of my daughters who has inherited mums weight gain propensity, poor lamb. Jane x

Christie, They are great photos, you are doing really well and it's a fantastic record for others to see too. You are a very pretty lady and when you are size 12 you will be awesome! Jane x

Amanda that is fantastic. And you will bring such kindness and insight to that job too. (Most of the PE teachers I remember from school were sadists!! Well to the fat kid with glasses and asthma they were anyway.) Jane x

Wish my husband would see me as helpless!! He still expects me to go and work and spend long and difficult days on client sites. Ah the joys of running a small business together! Jane x

Hi freeToBeMe, Sorry you are having a stall. They happen and I still don't really understand why. If you hang in there it will pass, and probably as you have been in it for a few weeks it will pass very soon. The only thing I can recommend is continuing a protein rich diet around 1000 cals a day, plenty of walking and water, and trying to forget about it for another month. Then get on the scales and see whats happened. try to concentrate on other things in your life and treat this as a mere incidental, it will keep your sanity! Jane x

Hi BlackberryJuice, glad it resolved. that acid stuff is very tricky. are you on PPIs. It may be a good idea for you to get Nexium or similar for the 1st 3 months at least. Jane x

See you there Anissa! Jane x

Hi Ali, Do a ticker and post here every few days for help to keep you focussed. Personally i would go more atkins to lose 20lbs quickly as I always found I felt far more satisfied on that diet when I had my huge and stretchy stomach. Drink plenty of water between meals as sometimes we confuse thirst with hunger. Focus on the things you will be able to do when you are not carrying all that weight and be aware of the restrictions you currently experience. Look at skimpy pretty underwear and imagine yourself wearing it with a slim and lithe body. Look at it all as a project, the You Project, finally after all those years its time for You. You can do it. Jane x

Thank you Dr Jossart. Thats really helpful and very good news. Jane x

Finally! I am 133lbs!! Total time including the 2 months prior to the op dieting was 17 months to lose 118lbs although from my very heaviest before I started logging I was 256lbs which means a loss of 123lbs. I only claim the 118 figure though as I can totally verify this one. It has been a great journey and I thank all the people here who have helped, from my lurking days nearly a year and a half ago to now. I wish MacMadame was still here as she was a great help to me back then when I was researching the route to take. I wish all of you still losing all speed to get to your goals too, and enjoy the changes in you as they happen. And don't forget to tell us all about it!! Mucho happiness. Jane xx

I have recently cut my sister adrift, more because I hated the way she treated our Dad in his final years, he died recently, although she has been pretty crappy and unsupportive of me throughout too. She never heped out dealing with our aging and ill Dad, and in fact then tried to blame me after he died!! I love some of my friends far more than I do my sister and I know I am better off without her in my life. I want to spend what time I have left on this planet caring for and being cared for and enjoying the company of the people who I really like and love. Now I am older I think I can treat myself a bit! Jane x

Well, I accept not being perfect and enjoy a little vanity these day, it's been a long time without caring about how I look. Still am 52 though so can't get too vain!! Jane x

Hi thinoneday, see how you go, and never say never!! I would not like to see you pass a lonely old lady but you have your family I hope. Life can be very sh*tty sometimes I know but sometimes it isn't too. Jane x

God gave us brains and self determination so using this to make yourself healthier so you can play an active and supportive role in your family should not make you feel guilty. I really don't think Jesus would judge you badly either. These self punishing modes of thinking are part of the cause and effect of our obesity and now the physical aspects are being cured the head ones have to be addressed. Be kinder to yourself, like you are kind to others. Jane x

Hi Tamboo, I agree with mlkpas 100%. eBay and charity shops are brilliant resources. I use a service called Bidnapper to place my bids in the last seconds and it allows me to put a max price I will go to for an item and then forget about it, so you don't end up being drawn into bidding wars etc. I have dressed myself exclusively this way for the past year and a bit, even my underwear (not 2nd hand obviously that would be yucky!) and my footwear have been via eBay. When I grow out of the stuff I take it to the local Hospice shop or teh Cancer research shop, so I know I am helping otehrs too. I have got some really fab clothes this way, and I can't see myself ever going back to buying mostly from normal shops again! Jane x

I don't think I agree with you ThinOneDay, friends do exist, but they are few and far between and like a marriage both parties have to work at the friendship. I think when we are overweight we are more likely to settle for 2nd best in all departments, including friends. Now we are sorting that out we need to re-evaluate everything else in our lives. I am lucky in that I have had a couple of therapy courses of treatment in my life and that has given me some degree of insight into my own behaviour here. I over-react badly to perceived bullying of myself and others though even now. I have learnt never to allow myself to be walked over the hard way like many of us here. I hate the types of people who are cruel and nasty for no good reason and I can't understand how this behaviour gives them pleasure. But there are many, many good, kind, nice people in this world who would be great friends if you gave them a chance. Our family get a tremendous amount of fun and pleasure, plus support which works both ways, from our friendship group. It's finding them in the first place that can be hard, but I would counsel continuing to be open to friendship. Jane x

Yup, I must admit I eyeball and guess the weight of the meat etc I eat and then log it on ThePlate and it automatically tots up the calories and the protein for me. And it has worked for me so I keep on truckin with it! It's not totally exact but good enough. Jane x

Think of it as decluttering to make space for all the new and wonderful things that are coming your way :biggrin0::thumbup: Jane x

Good riddance. If we cannot post without some semi-literate misogynist cruel guy leaping in and being snide and bitchy then people will not open up and get the benefits of communing with the rest of us. I hate the idea of banning people though, but sometimes it is the best thing to do. I looked through his posts and the only time he was remotely supportive was to men, he obviously had a major problem with women. Jane x

Good luck and get back to as soon as you can. Jane x

God I pity the poor woman with you as a bf.

Early? It's after lunch!!

Nice one Tiffy, hehehehe! Jane x

Haha, but just to confuse it all a bit more I think the protein weight we are recommended to get in at 60-70g is 'dry' weight! Thats why if I log 4 oz of chicken breast of the DailyPlate it only shows up 35ish g of protein. If it was pure dehydrated protein it would be 4 x 28g = 112g. So thats why I use the Plate. Jane x