Jacqbult

It sounds to me as if your partner is feeling insecure. Does she think you will leave her once you are thin and more attractive to others?
Maybe you should ask yourself why you are with this person. Do you hang on because you don't think you can do any better? Do you think you don't deserve better?
I know what this is like. I had to let go of my best friend of 20 years because she became so toxic when I decided to change my life. My determination to change my life upset the balance in our relationship and threw her off kilter. It has been a while since our relationship ended and now I see that she had an emotional investment in me staying sick, dependent and unstable. My unhappiness kept her in control. I have let go of many people since I began this journey. But I have found new people who support me and even though it hurt to let the others go, the only thing I would change is I would have let them go sooner.

To the OP:
I think you've got your research straight and your head on straight about this.
I would not have chosen the bypass route for myself. I started at 235 pounds and am 5'5". Didn't want or need lifelong malabsorption, anemia, potential reactive hypoglycemia, or more potential complications.
Go for the sleeve.
Only one little caveat -- is everyone but you in your neighborhood getting a bypass because the local surgeon has a lot more bypass surgery experience and not so much sleeve experience? If that's the case, I'd be a little nervous. What you want is a surgeon who has beaucoups experience and success doing the surgery YOU will have. Just a thought.

Hang in there, the first 2 to 3 days are the hardest keep your eye on the prize! Headaches are common as your body goes thru a detox period of sugar and carbs. A cup of warned low sodium fat free chicken broth will help with that a lot... best of luck this is only a small step in a long journey!

Has anyone here used the Law of Attraction to bring on their surgery?
I did. Here is the video I saw when I started this journey...hope it helps!

Wow~ good point~ already worried how my Italian Mom is going to handle it and how I'M going to handle HER!

I just wish i would have known. Then I would have done it sooner. My life is so different since the sleeve and I am loving it!

Hi I can relate I too have met my out of pocket for the plan year and if I can't have surgery before dec 1 I'll have to pay several thousand out too it's depressing I worry the ins will deny me just long enough till I get in the new plan year

Hi well u found someone also waiting lol why do u fear denial? I haven't been submitted yet I'm told it should be next month month / early nov the only thing I know is if u have some other conditions such as high blood pressure diabetes or heart issues it is supposed to help get the approval I've seen post here where people say their primary dr doesn't want to sign off if u see a specialist for any reason for a couple years such as pulmonary or cardiologist or endocrinologist they will usually sign off on it also gyno drs too I had my psych eval on tues I had to go to one of the drs on my programs list sat there for 2 hours then asked me a few questions for 10 mins and it was over lol for some reason I thought there would be more to it then that but I guess not anyway I can be a sounding board if u like good luck!

I'm 5'10 and started at 245lbs. I was just sleeved a week ago. I would love to be 170 as that puts me in a size 12 jeans perfectly. If I lost a little more I wouldn't complain tho :-)
In high school I was this height and weighed 144 every year. I look at my 15 yr old son who is about an inch taller and weighs 140 and I honestly think he looks too skinny. Now granted, he is a boy with different bone structure but he's kinda what I used to look like way back then. And honestly, that would be too skinny for me now. And to think, back then, I thought I was soooo fat! If only.....

Ps: I'm in Western Australia

Needles don't bother me too much. I've had so many surgeries, I wonder how many I could have skipped If I was able to do this 20 yrs ago. Hysterectomy, 2 knee replaced 2 hernia surgeries and gall bladder( tho to be fair every woman in my mother's family had her gall bladder removed within a year of having a baby. My fear is, failure. I am a strong woman and I can do this. It's just that little door in the back of my mind where the self doubt hides...

I'm just starting my journey and I can completely relate. I do nothing but research all day long (ie.. how I came across all of you wonderful people) I go back and forth all day in my mind. My family is anything but supportive mostly just fear of complications. But i do agree that we have to make the choice for ourselves. don't let anyone push you to do it if you aren't ready.. but don't let fear stop you. Remember (as I remind myself) anything worth having (a better life, feeling healthy, feeling better about ourselves) is never easy, but always worth it when you reach the end.
Good luck no matter what you choose!! Just be happy

Jezika, this is a very big decision, it has to be for you and no one else, if your are having second thoughts you have to decide if you are going to be able to accomplish this. You do not want regrets. Take the time to decide if this is really for you
Good Luck
Sharen

Can't believe I'm not the only one. I have never had a calendar in my life until now. I have one on my refrigerator with all the dates for pre-op stuff and the date for my surgery. I've been crossing off the days! Just can't wait till Tuesday. My husband tries to talk to me about something important and I'll tell him I can't think right now - just have to get past my surgery. People ask me if I'm scared or nervous. NO!!! Too excited. I don't even mind my liquid diet...Can't believe I think broth is delicious and I actually like the crappy Jello I'm allowed to have. Heretofore I have always hated Jello. Could the transformation have begun?

Tell me about it. I'm so consumed by my surgery, I can't think about anything else. I have completely zoned everything else out :-). I was scheduled for surgery last Friday (surgery date OCTOBER 7TH!!!!) and my obsession has intensified times 10. I'm so ready!

Good GOD!!!! I am reading, looking at photo's I will be so upset if I don't get approved from my Insurance...HATE being out of control of something that will be so important to my health and life. UGH...lol, back to forum obsession surfing!

Does anyone know how to create a group? I'd like to have one with oct people!!!