BethFromVA

Yanno, if it was me, I'd SO be doin' the sista-girl, "Huh... :w00t: Since these new revelations, it doesn't mean that I'M not."

Nothin' says you hafta take him. :w00t:

Very strange... Then again, many men SAY they want to see our freaky side and then get all jealous if we let it out. I would wonder, if he KNEW you were writing other men but, like him, didn't share those exchanges, if he'd feel what you're feeling. I'ma gonna use a Dr. Phil-ism (sorry), but he says, those who have nothing to hide hide nothing. It's very true. I'm sorry you're going through this, hon. (((((HUGS))))) It ALMOST sounds as if he's like, pffftttt, you don't like it and you wanna leave? Okay... :w00t:

Ebony, one thought: If he seems to be the rescuer of damsels in distress, maybe you were that damsel once but now you are not so much in distress since losing weight and taking charge of your life...? Or was this always a part of your lives but you are just now recognizing it?

What I would NORMALLY suggest is to ask the other person, "If I was writing to men what you are writing to these women, how would it make you feel," but it sounds like he wouldn't care if only because his wants outweigh any moral decisionmaking on his part. And the fact that he seems to treat your marriage so flippantly also tells me he wouldn't react the way you would want him to to a question like that.

Wow, Ebony, that's heavy. I don't know what to say! Apparently his wants override your pain, and he acknowledges that -- which means you can't even reason with him. And the fact that he says maybe he should never have gotten married and that he's not the right one for you... WTF?? :w00t: Wow, I'm speechless. I don't know what advice to offer.

Too funny! :crying:

No news yet, Ebony? :thumbup:

First week or not, it IS half the battle. Good going! :thumbup:

Well, so far I'm waiting to see what he does. I'll wait until he proves that he won't do the right thing before I say that. But for now, I'm just damn mad. Acutally I didn't even know about it until after the fact. :thumbup:

You ever give a dog popcorn? :frown: Holy moly, my husband did one time and I can tell ya, the way it shot through that dog, he never did again. LOL Crap was on the walls halfway up, on the ceiling, all over the floor... hubby about puked cleaning it up. Serves him right. :thumbup:

I'm with you too, Michelle. Wow. And I don't recall how old DD is (four?), but we'd be going at it too. My daughter tried that once, shoving stuff in her face that she KNEW I was coming for or that she couldn't have, and she got walloped for it. When I say no, it's NO, damnit, not no-only-when-I-can-reach-you no. I know I sound like a hard-ass (shock, I know), but my thought always was, what if she was putting poison in her mouth? She has to listen to ME, not do whatever she can get away with until I can get to her. Not telling you what to do... just relaying my own frustrations with my own DD from when she was young. She was notorious for finding drinks people had left on the ground outside a building and grabbing them to take a swig. :thumbup: But yes, I would definitely be talking to somebody around there. Nobody should EVER give a child something without checking with the parents. What if she had a life-threatening allergy?? That lady could have killed her. Edit: Sorry, I know this sounds like it's judging you, and I swear that was not my intent. :crying:

I am so mad... Ordered a book for school. Started out as a mess to begin with because the instructor put his order in late, so the books weren't available. I ordered through the school bookstore and it was on backorder. That was a few weeks ago now. On Monday I called to see if it was in yet because, as luck would have it, it is one of my next Monday classes -- not later in the week. No, they didn't have it, didn't know WHEN they'd have it. I went ahead and found one listed as "NEW" through a vendor on Amazon whose name made it seem like a bookstore. Three hours later I get an e-mail from the school bookstore that my book is ready to be picked up. WTH?? So I immediately write the Amazon seller and tell him what happened and say that though I hate to do it, I need to cancel the order. The book bought through the bookstore had already been paid for, and I figured I caught it early enough that the order hadn't been processed. Somebody writes me and says he is writing for his brother (the seller), and he offered to ship me the book first-class at his cost rather than media mail to ensure I'd get it on time if I would just keep the order as is. Okay, it cost me a few bucks more (his book was $3 more than the bookstore's, then there was $3.99 shipping). That sounded do-able. I get the book today, and it its NOT new. The reason this is a problem is that this book comes with a one-user computer access code which I NEED for the class, and the code has been used. So... I'm sitting here with a more expensive book than the one through the bookstore, and it's useless to me. I've already written him that his false advertising has caused me a lot of trouble. The thing is, somebody could have easily TOLD that this book was not new because there was a sticker on the inside of the book with the access code, but it also had an e-mail and password that had been inked out with marker. The second I saw that I thought, "THIS book isn't new!" and I had a sinking feeling the code was not usable. WTH is it with people?? I guess this is how he tried to make the sale, lying about it being new because probably most if not all classes require the computer access with the book, which makes it a one-shot book. Bastard. I wrote him and said he was to take this book back immediately AND cover the cost to ship it back or I would be notifying Amazon AND doing a charge-back on my credit card. I just RE-placed the order through the bookstore. Which ALSO really pisses me off because I was just there yesterday, picking up another book I had ordered, plus some scantrons I needed, and I returned the damn book on the spot knowing this one was coming! :thumbup:

*slips huge basket of chocolate towards Susan and backs slowly out of the room* :thumbup:

Good idea, Lulu. I was just about to go upstairs and step on that bad boy. :blushing:

Okay, y'all, pouch test has officially started. I'm afraid to get on the scale to see where I'm starting. Not only did I eat badly, but my cycle h as begun way early (nothing is on time anymore since going off the pill -- either ever six weeks, or in this case, less than a month), which of course will add water weight. Should I peek just to see where I'm starting? :blushing:

Holy freakin' cow, Ebony, FANTASTIC! Gonna hafta set up a spot for you next to Lulu on my Hero Wall of Fame! :w00t:

He just got up not long ago. Slept ALLLL day yesterday, and through most of the night. What has me concerned now is he is complaining of MORE arm pain than what he had before surgery. I'm hoping it's only because the nerves are a bit raw right now.

Unfortunately, yes. If she bothers him that much I hope, IF he is allowed back, that he puts her on ignore. It's really not worth the upset and hassle.

I kinda thought it might have had to do with her. I tried to tell him to ignore her. She's a dim bulb who really isn't worth it.

Gonna do me a 5-day pouch test starting tomorrow. Never done it before (usually didn't have to because I would get a fill once a month), but since coming back from vacation and dealing with a lot of stress, my bad eating that started at my folks' has not completely stopped. Figured I'd give this a try and see how it goes. And I'm too afraid to get on the scale. :blushing:

Plain, we ALL know that freaky e-mail was really one of your long-forgotten ones. You're not fooling anybody. KTork, try him at: freakypervyfootfetishstalkerdude@hotmail.com

It's the dog's penis, dear. Step away from Bruno.

I'm less afraid of change and more afraid of our government taking over something SO big and SO detremental to our survival. My government has no business getting into the healthcare business when they can't even run a cash for clunkers for one month. And to be fair, I don't care who's in office. I'd be just as up in arms if it was a conservative, a lilbertarian, or a pastor in office -- they have no business butting into my healthcare. I'm sorry, but that much power for any government entity is bad no matter how you color it.

YAY JEN!!!!! :blushing::thumbup::w00t: